2006-08-08 02:54:32 · 36 answers · asked by R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him - he'll be delighted!
2006-08-08 02:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same boat and actually had girlfriends before dating guys. It took me months to pluck up the courage to come out and tell people I was bi sexual. My parents didn't accept what I told them initally and believed it was a rebellious stage and I would grow out of it. ( as you can tell I never did). My friends however were a lot more supportive some even liked the idea. The boys thought it was great and the girls got curious. My husband when I met him thought it was fantastic, I never really got jealous when he looked at other women as I ended up looking too. I can see what he sees and we often laugh about eachothers bad taste. Take your time and make it light, it isn't done and gloom just natural hormones. Once I got past it being dark and dirty I enjoyed being me. People love me for who I am and as far as I see it I could have had my pick of both worlds. I had to reassure my husband that I loved him and I am not looking for something that is missing. He is happy, knows he is loved. He even likes the idea that we may experiment in the future. Try him slowly you find out he likes the idea and is far more understanding than you think, if not, he was never going to accept the whole you anyway. It then depends what you want more. Take care and have fun with finding out....
2006-08-08 03:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the best solution. This works for a couple different scenarios. Bring a woman home with you and make sure he is there waiting. No words just start going to town. If he likes, he will join, good times for all. If he doesn't he will leave, you still have your lady friend with you. If you are trying to tell him so that you can dump him and move on, give him one last good time with you and the other woman, it's only fair. One fix for most situations.
2006-08-08 03:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by in_TIM_idation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have something very important to tell him. Tell him he may not like it but it's only fair to be honest with him because you care about him. Then tell him.
He might be very angry because some men feel you are insulting their manhood, their machoness (if there is such a word), but mention that you can't help the way you feel and it's better you tell him than to live a lie.
Even if he is annoyed, he's got to respect you for being honest. Better to be told than to live a lie.
Good luck to you and I just hope he is understanding.
2006-08-08 04:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well its better to tell him you don't think your relationship is going anywhere, and that you have only just found out you like girls, tell him you need time to think.
If you leave him for a girl he will probably be embarrassed and upset.
let him down gently and remind him its not his fault and his really special. dont forget to tell him what a great time you've had with him (but try not to lie).
hope this helps
2006-08-08 03:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are curious about girls. You have to tell your boyfriend that you like girls, too.
2006-08-08 02:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't believe the number of flippant "oh he won't mind, he'll be turned on by it" answers here. Are you serious? Just imagine for one minute that it was your relationship we are talikng about here. Is that really how you would feel?
Granted, it depends on the depth of the feelings in the relationship, and maybe some of you would be OK with it, but I have a suspicion that most of us would fine this pretty hard to cope with.
2006-08-08 03:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by daveheez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest with yourself... Maybe you like both sexes. I do! Im married to the most amazing man, but I still love sleeping with women. If you are unsure, find out for yourself. If you are bi sexual, find a man who is NOT jealous of it and will let you be yourself! My man does and often he reeps all the benefits. Good luck!
2006-08-08 03:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And they dare call men pervs for bringing up the ideas all the girls have
BTW tell him of course
2006-08-08 02:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be very happy. But are you sure that you like girls.....If your positive tell your boyfriend.
2006-08-08 02:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy, he may not like what you have to say at first, but the he will have a choice to make...whether to accept your decision, or to walk away. either way, this is going to be tough for him to realize that he is not the one for you. good luck
2006-08-08 02:59:21 · answer #11 · answered by O Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋