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I've been seeing this guy for about three months. Everything has been pretty good up to this point. I would really like us to be in a deeper relationship, but I don't know if he wants the same thing. . Anyways, we got into an argument the other day because he CAN be a little insensitve at times I hung up on him and we haven't spoken. It has been a couple days and he has not called. I want to call and work things out but all of my friends tell me NO. I heard through a grapevine that he went to the movies with his ex girlfriend this past weekend and it is driving me nuts!. I KNOW she wants him back. He has told me he won't go back to her BUT then why r they going to movie?! I'm going crazy. 'm afraid by sitting on the fence I'll lose him. So help me! What do I do? Maintain military silence to see if he truly cares or make the effort to work things out?

2006-08-08 02:49:24 · 4 answers · asked by Freespirit 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

You know it is funny. Most guys say to be the bigger person but girls say to do the opposite? Guys, even though I did go off on him I DID have a valid reason too. My methods may have been extreme but my issues with him were valid. I want to work things out but I NEED him to understand what I was upset about as well. If by apologizing does it minimize my stance on the subject? I want to be with him but not as a doormat.

2006-08-08 10:37:50 · update #1

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Let him go. He is undecided. You've only been going out for a short while. If he jumps into the arms of another after an argument then he's not worth your time.

2006-08-08 02:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0 0

Mr. Chivalry says, "First of all, you heard it through a grapevine. When it comes to a relationship, you cannot let outside sources dictate your relationship. I've been there, and it will not help you two. Communication and honesty will be your guide. Call him and let him know how you feel. If he said he won't get back with her, the only thing you can have is trust. I'm not saying be naive, but let him know now that you trust him, and trust is important. Let him know that without trust, the relationship cannot last. That should immediately prompt him to get it together. If he gets insensitive, find a more effective, yet inoffensive way to communicate with him. You two have to find a method that will work for y'all. The relationship can last, but both of you have to be willing to give the energy. Good luck to you."

Mr. Chivalry has spoken.

2006-08-08 11:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0 0

A relationship can only work if both parties are willing to sacrifice. If you want it to work call him and sort it out by talking. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to make up. He sees your silence as a sulk, and the last thing a man wants is a girlfriend who is into sulking and quiet tantrums even if he was at fault. When you have a problem, talk it out, men work with reason and then you can negotiate what you want out of the relationship.

2006-08-08 10:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by stoutseun69 4 · 0 0

Call him sweetheart. You must understand that men can be a little(extremely) proud at times. He probably wants to call you but doesn't want to show weakness. I think you should take that into account and call him. It will let him know that you care. Explain to him how you feel about the situation and have him tell you how he feels. Don't give up on him yet babygirl.

2006-08-08 09:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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