is this really worth it?

Question

i have been with my girlfriend for two years now we have had some problems this last year. mostly about me being a guy and going ouit with my friends to bars and sometimes to strip clubs. just ricently i saw on her phone that she has been haveing sex talk with one of her girlfriends she told me in the past she likes both guys and girls which i am fine with but she doe not want me to be involved with the two of them because she is afraid that i will leave her for another girl. on top of that i found out that she has fooled around with just her no guys involved. is this relasthonship worth another two years, how can i show her that we can have fun with her friend and that i wont leave her

Answer 1

Wow, I was going to say that only you can say if it is worth it or not, but that was before reading the whole thing.
Now I after I read it, well I would chauck it up to another great experience and move on.
I have learned that not many things in life last forever, besides when you have kids you never stop being a parent, you never stop being someones child and someone will always love you.
It sounds like you are playing with fire, wither the one person gets together with a male or female in the manner you were talking about is concidered cheating...
Did you ever think that what is accually going on here is right now she is getting her cake and eating it , You are home with her and when you are gone she has someone else on the side.
I doubt that you would be this calm if the other person wasn't a female...ya think.
Good luck with this one, but remember life is short and you should never put all your eggs in one basket. lol

Answer 2

First of all why do you like a women that likes both mena dn women? But hell thats not the answer if you feel like you cannot trust her and that she cannot be honest or faithful why are you wasting your time with that. I would clearly not waste another day with her, I mean I understand you may love her but come on now, you must think about yourselfa dn think about the future. What are you going to tell the kids when mama leaves with another women, hell thats just not right. Sounds like a Jerry Springer case, ha ha ha

Answer 3

Grace has the answer, but it might be hard to take. Trust is something that your GF does not have in you right now. Trust must be earned by deed, not by word. Maybe a good sit down discussion about hers and your feelings would help in that area. You both need to open up the lines of communication.

Answer 4

haha... YOU CANT. Obviously by going to the strip clubs and out with your friends, she has lost some trust in you somewhere! Me and my husband have an amazing relationship exactly like the one you want to have with her. The thing is, I completely trust him. If i didnt... he would never even see the inside of my bedroom when I have my girlfriends over. I say. work on the trust issues... then ask her again. Good luck

Answer 5

Your girlfriend is obviously confused about her sexuality and you offering a threesome wont help anyone.
You must love her to have spent 2 years with her but you need to sit back and think
do you have a future with her
will you always be enough for her
will she go with others behind your back whether its male/female
You have alot of thinking to do about your future

Answer 6

There's a book by Eric Jerome Dickey called "Between Two Lovers". You should pick it up and read it. It sounds alot like your question.

Answer 7

well i dont think its worth it because shes cheating on you. it may be with a girl, but shes still cheating. Shes worried about you leaveing her then goes off and fools around with other people? doesnt sound good to me.

Answer 8

I think you're jealous.... :)

No really... she cheated on you. You want her to be faithful to you right? She didn't cheat on you with another guy... but none-the-less... she had sex with another person. Someone else turned her on. Do you really want that? The way I feel... you should be the ONLY person to turn her on... same goes for her... Think about it...

Answer 9

Its not worth it. Does your girlfriend really love you?
Your girlfriend is a bisexual and its so eerie.
How about you? Do you still love her? Are you happy with her?
Move on.. your girlfriend is just fooling you.

Answer 10

Well she's cheating on you with her female friend and that doesn't seem to bother you so...... Just tell her that your down with sharing her and you want to join in on the fun.