does an age gap matter when it comes to having children?

Question

how long or soon should you do this? we have one boy who is 4

Answer 1

I think the ideal age gap is down to what you as a parent can deal with physically and emotionally. My kids are 4 years apart in age; this was great as the older one is old enough to help most of the time, and as they've grown older (7 and 3 now) they play together terrifically well. Happy breeding!

Answer 2

It depends on the age gap.
My partner is 10 years older than me,he already has 2 children and doesnt want anymore.
Im 36 and have no children.
If i did want kids(which i dont) then i would not be with my partner,by the time the child would be 10 he'd be nearly 60.
There is nothing worse than an old parent trying to keep up with a young child,and then there is the care of the adult as they get older.
This puts a massive strain on the child and if the child becomes the carer then what kind of life is that for a child.
You need to think of how this age gap will effect the adult as a parent and the child as a child with older parents.

Answer 3

most people says 2-3 years is a good age gap because they are still close enough to be able to relate to each other when it comes to the experiences they go through.
my take on it is so long as you feel you can cope with your child and a new born then its more than likely the right time. if your little boys 4 then i'm guessing he's a lot more independent now and is out of nappies and either going to school or starting school soon so really the question is whether you feel ready for another little miracle to be in need of your time. i would say it'd be a good time because if nothing else your little boy will be at school most of the day so that gives you time alone to bond with your newborn without making the other feel pushed out then afternoon time you get to be all together as a family to let him bond with his new brother or sister

Answer 4

the age gaps between children does not matter if you can handle young ones i have 3 kids under 4 who i love completly but if i could do it again i would have much bigger gap between them. They get on well if the gap is small between them as they do help each other big if the gap was bigger than 5 years i think there could be problems between the children. My opinion entirely. It depends on the family

Answer 5

I have a son at 23 another son at 18 and a daughter at 12. So I have quite big gaps between mine.
It did mean I could give the youngest one a lot of my time when the others were at school.
The only downside I found was trying to find things to interest all 3 kids on days out. I think it is a personal choice thing.
A friend of mine fell pregnant when her daughter who was 22 was pregnant. She is enjoying motherhood the second time around.

Answer 6

No, the age gap doesnt matter. As siblings they will be close no matter what the age difference is. Im the 9th child and last and my closest sibling is 9 years older than me, and then there is pretty much one year difference between all my other brothers and sisters. Its just what is right for you two! good luck!

Answer 7

I know a family where the age gap between the two last kids is 8 years. It ends up that the older kid usually takes on more of a guardian roll to the younger one.

Answer 8

Three years between children is generally considered a good age gap.

Answer 9

Techically the age gap between kids doesn't matter.

There is just under 3 years between me and my brother. But there was 17 years between my Dad and his eldest brother - confussing when the eldest brother's children came along, my Dad was just 6 when the eldest one came along, and when she had her first child, my brother was just 10 months old - try explaining that to other people on a regular basis.

Answer 10

That is a good age difference to which a child may be able to help you with another child. Take into consideration that you do not want to leave the older child out of the picture. Let him help you and he will feel like he is a part of taking care of the other one