Am I too old for him?

Question

Hey all. I am 29 and he is 18. I really like him a lot. He adores me so far. I am afraid that he will lose that spark and start liking someone his own age. Does this relationship have a chance? Am I too old for him? Should I let a good guy pass just because society frowns on older women dating younger men?

Answer 1

It depends on the man. Some young men are very mature for their age, however, he may have a wandering eye because he's still young and learning. Go with it but, at a somewhat far hand. What I mean is, still see him but also allow him to grow. Observe some of the things he does and says, then you can get the whole picture and see if this is what you want. I am currently involved in a younger man and everything is great between us because we both had to grow and learn each other.

Answer 2

At 29 & 18 there are huge differences in many areas. Financial security, employment, hobbies,life outlook etc..What do you find interesting/attractive about him? At 29 you may be looking for more in a relationship than a 18 yr old may be. Possibly not.
Weigh the Pros & Cons regarding YOURSELF and what you are wanting. Society does look at older women dating younger men (especially one that is a teenager) alot differently than if you are 18 and he is 29. Who cares about the public.

Answer 3

I'm five years younger then my wife.

That said, this guy is going to change a lot over the next 5-8 years. It depends what you are looking for. If you are trying to find someone to settle down with ... well, there's a chance, but its going to be a little more difficult then it is for most people. If you're just looking to have fun together, there's no reason not to.

Answer 4

My husband is 10 years younger than me. I worried at first and refused to get serious with him. But we've been together for three years, and it's great! He doesn't worry at all that I'm older.

Although, an 18 year old may change whether you're older or not. He may not be mature enough to make a lifelong commitment.

Answer 5

Society frowns on that? I say go for it. When I was 23 I dated a thirty something. It was fun and she and I had a great time and when the end came to the relationship it wasn't that I had found someone my own age but that we mutually wanted to explore our own paths. We still kept in touch for a while and had "visits" but it eventually died out, oh but that was one crazy year.

Answer 6

Heck no, I'd go for it...Who cares what society thinks...Are you guys happy together? Than that's all that matters. Don't look to the future take things a day at a time.Enjoy what you have and have fun. Some people go a lifetime looking for love and settle for the next best thing..

Answer 7

Yes you are to old. Find someone your own age or older. Older men and younger women i can except but not the other way around. My boyfreind is 10 yrs older then me.

Answer 8

Yes, he has a lot of growing up to do. Between now and 25 a lot will change for him. Do the right thing for him, let him experience life.
If you were 39 and he were 28 it would be a bit different.

Answer 9

Ask him what he thinks about marriage ASAP. Of course it would be nice if you have a good career going and the wherewithal to get him through college or some other job training. A prenup might be smart. But if you love him, go for it and to heck with "society."

Answer 10

I think that there will be some age barriers for you with this relationship.. but it can work if you both truly want it to. There is no real stigma attached to dating/age in this day and age. Unless you live in a small town.