I started talking to this really nice guy who I was starting to gain feelings for...but he had one problem, his ex-girlfriend had come back into his life.Well one afternoon I called him to see what he was doing and he was like he was getting ready to go out with his ex-girlfriend which was a low blow for me b/c if I knew that they where getting back together I would have never let me feelings get in the way. So now all I want to do is just get him out of my life b/c I don't want to be hurt or hurt him but he said that if I just stopped talking to him it would really hurt his feelings but I don't think he knows how much he hurt mines. So I am confused about what to do...stay friends or just cut him off?
Please Help!!!
The main thing is that I don't get hurt anymore than I already am :(
this is some painful s***.
Just for the record I am 24 so this is not just some childish s***
2006-08-08 01:44:24 · 13 answers · asked by Lady B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say cut him off~if he cared for your feelings he would have never started to talk with his X again~and as for you~I agree, this **** does hurt alot~right here with you girl~sorry you are going through this~longer you stay attached the more it will hurt in the end~and remember there is an end to everything~other wise there would never be a beginning!!!! Good Luck~
2006-08-08 01:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by click 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i'm kinda going through the same thing, I met this guy long distance and his ex is trying to get him back , we've been friends for 10 months and both have feeling for each other but he says he is confused because he loves her but has strong feelings for me, so I posed this quest yesterday and the answer i got was just stay friends not matter what if you've been there for him continue to do that, because a long lasting relationship starts with a friendship. Let him do what he does obviously they broke up for a reason. People are brought into your life for a reason .
2006-08-08 09:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you know sweetie it is going to hurt anyway. You can either stay friends with him, and hurt as you watch him romance his ex/new girlfriend, or you can move on and eventually forget about him.
Even though he says his feelings will be really hurt you have to look out for your feelings. If you want you could leave the door slightly ajar and tell him to call you if things don't work out with what's her face. In the meantime, your young, do what young single people do. Go out and have a good time, and hopefully you'll meet someone way better.
2006-08-08 08:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a break. Your feelings for him aren't going to go away over night. And seeing him playing suck face with his girlfriend is not going to help. If you continue to hang around him now, you will ruin any chance of a friendship with him.
Take a couple of weeks break. Don't let him know what you are doing.... just become really busy. Sure he will probably catch on.... maybe even ask if it has anything to do with him. Deny, DEny, DENY. The last thing this man needs to know is that you are not over him. It's easier to do if you are actually busy to (not sitting at home, drinking vodka and singing loudly to "All By Myself" Bridget Jones Style) Well, at least not every night anyway :)
Get away from him.... boy detox. Delete his phone number (Don't worry he will call you)... and get rid of his photos. After a few weeks you will know if you can or can't be friends with him.
2006-08-08 09:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go out on the date with his ex so that he can get it out of his system. It is better for you to find out early if you are meant for each other. This dosen't stop you from talking to other guys and seeing if your interests may be elswhere.
2006-08-08 10:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by RF Ace Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop any contact with him, your young and attractive. Have a "Sex in the City party" with your girlfriends. Go out and have guys pay you drinks all night. Go have fun with your friends and forget all about him. Theres guys just waiting to ask you out.
2006-08-08 09:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's too painful for you to be "just friends." Also it sounds like he wants you to hang around in case things with his ex don't work out. I think that's kinda using you.
2006-08-08 08:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look out for yourself and I say cutting him off will really help ease your pain and help your get over him. He sounds like a jerk. Do not be concerned about his feelings - He obviously doesn't care about yours!
2006-08-08 08:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by jiexidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him how much he has hurt you and try to work things out. If thing don't work out tell him to pick his ex gf or being friends and maybe more with you.
2006-08-08 09:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by yoda_0072002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to decide what's more important, loosing a friend (who MIGHT become more later on) or soothing your aching heart.
I'd be upset if I lost a friend that way but I would also understand.
2006-08-08 08:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋