How to become more confident with men??

Question

If your normally the shy type and want to become more confident with men ,what is the best way to do it without looking like your a tart??

Answer 1

This is such a great question....I'm glad you asked.

---I Agree with 99% of the Answers girls are providing here too, you can add some of that to these instructions below----

The first step is to relax, if you are really interested in the guy, ask him some dumb questions (any question)...like do you drive a car? or did you say something? if he doesn't say much...he will be hinted by your body language that you are into him...and continue to approach you and look for you, anyways you shouldn't put so much work into it (or him), if he's into you then your actions should be more the enough wood to build the fire...he will ask you for your number if he is genuinly interested in you....if not then you have nothing to lose...you have done your part which is be there feeling cool and relaxed....this is very attractive...it is a turn on to see a girl being calm and relaxed.

On the other hand you can turn him completely off by being too shy or over anxious, like some girls I know do (they find flaws about the guy and point them out to him) thinking that the guy will work and try to win them over...a guy that's turned off will not lift a finger for you.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Remember that most men (or women) are generally nice and friendly. If you approach someone and strike up a conversation, they won't "slag you off" to say they aren't interested (like in school days!) Most people are up for a chat at least (on here they are anyway!) On Yahoo Answers, people have time on their hands, so they can't say that they are too busy to chat. Give it a go and try and have a bit of fun doing it. Remember my motto..."It's better to have High Hopes than Great Expectations!" I'm up for a chat if you want to IM me. There. I don't feel like a tart! What's a male 'tart' anyway?

Answer 3

First of all, you need to be yourself and you need to be confident. Secondly, you should try at all times to choose the type of guy that compliments you- the type of guy that is best for you- NOT the type of guy that is generally regarded as the right type. If that is the type of guy that compliments you fine but you need to know who to stay away from because most guys only want sex and that is a fact.

You should always be in control of the situation. Don't allow the guy to feel overly superior. After all you guys arent married. Both of you are in the freedom stage and you both are on equal terms so let your actions tell him that "if you want me you have to be what I want". He will know it when you are confident and that will make him more attracted to you. just be yourself and dont be intimidated- the men are supposed to feel that way.

Good luck

Answer 4

I am still a shy type, but I just act normal around girls.

I dont try to be funny or anything, just speak when spoken to.

If I was speaking to a shy girl, I wouldnt think anything bad of it, so remember that the next time you speak to a guy (or a group of them)... be confident, and make the most of whatever coversation is said.

You could also try and practice by speaking to the mirror. Sounds daft, but it can work.

All the best!!!

Answer 5

Just be yourself. I know its an oft repeated phrase, but it works. Just bear in mind that though you are nervous, the guy might be nervous too. And even if not, it needn’t affect your confidence.

What you can do is concentrate on what’s being said. You can direct some of the conversation. If you find some topic where you find some shared interest, give your opinions, and take in his opinion as well.

Answer 6

We blokes dont really mind if you girls are a bit shy! I prefer it to girls who who are loud and in your face all the time.
Just be yourself. Dress nicely in clorthes that make you feel good and a little sexy, but not tarty, as you will attract the wrong sort of bloke. Try not to 'look' shy (this is difficult as I'm shy and it takes apractice) walk tall and relaxed. More importantly, dont abuse drink to try and ease your shyness. I used to do this and girls didnt like it, same as I dont like girls who get plastered. Its not attractive.
Do you have any male friends? If so, hang out with them for a bit and you might feel more confident.
Also, try getting to know them in less threatening surroundings. Bars and clubs are not good if your shy; try somewhere where your not expecting too much.
All the best!

Answer 7

Just think that you are the best thing in that room. Even if you think that someone is better looking than you, you need to have the self confidence to do what it is that you want to do. Look guys in the eye when talking, dont look down and approach the guys that you want to talk to.

Answer 8

Smile confidently, not a great big toothy smile but a mona lisa type that creates mystery. Maybe imagine the person with no clothes on or something like that, or the kind of smile you give a person after sex.

Answer 9

I am not sure of your age, but try to get to know men as freinds first....and remember that most guys are still shy of women first...we are all confused by our level of attractiveness to a certain girl....remember, women basicallly control what is happening...you have the power, not men....


I am an older guy, and I am sure you will be fine...look guys in the eye, and just think of them as other humans....that is all...

Answer 10

Don't listen to big b. If you go out with someone and have a good time then you will be more confident with men.

Answer 11

RELAX. There's no point in being nervous about anything. If you meet someone and they don't like you its not the end of the world. Just be yourself, have fun, and dont worry about what the guy is thinking. If he likes you he'll let you know, and if he doesn't well at least you had fun, and its on to the next guy.