me and my boyfriend has been together now for 4 months...we just see each other at least twice a week beacause of busy schedules. he cheated on me twice already (i discovered it from his moblie phone) i forgave him beacause he doesnt have visa in this counrty that we're in. he said that he's just doing it because he wants to stay here with me ( i cant marry him cause im not a citizen of this counrty). but if he really loves me...i dont think he would get into a realtionship with other women right?
im so sick and tired of this issue....i love him but he's really hurting me. i dont wanna love him anymore.
i wanna let him go but everytime i try to do so something keeps pulling me back.
2006-08-08 01:09:32 · 23 answers · asked by misty_eyed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey misty:
you deserve better than this, sweetie. take my word for it, there are guys out there, a LOT of them, who would love to have you for a girlfriend and treat you like a princess.
they may be hard to find, but they're out there. you just need to look and look and then look some more.
steer clear of this creep you're dating now---he's no good for you.
best of luck----your real prince charming is out there somewhere, you just have to find him!
2006-08-15 18:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Misty…
Love has been the subject of prose ever since the history of prose… But you shouldn’t lose sight of the fact that many many people get over broken hearts. You should understand that while it may seem romantic to cling on to your guy without asking for reasons, you have to do what is good for you.
If your guy really deserves you, he should be able to stick on to you. And cheating on you, on whatever levels he may justify, is unacceptable. If what you are looking for is a relationship, you have to know that it is a two way game. You can’t make it work if all the attempts are going to come from your side.
If you are really serious and want to give this a shot, make it clear to him. You are not to be disrespected like that. If he won’t learn, trust me, you are worth more than this. Drop it and move on.
Falling out of love is something that WILL happen. It may take some time, but that’s all. The hurt may be worth it if you can just avoid bigger troubles in the future.
2006-08-08 08:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Hammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a lieing son of a Bit*&. He's using you. He does not love you. You need to get far away from him. Don't let him know where you move to. Change you phone number........and allow time to go by. In about 2 months..he will be a distance memory and soon after that, you will hardly think about him......... WHY would you even WANT to be with such a slimebag? It's NOT true love. He does not love you,,, and you can not possible have REAL love for such a horrible man. GET AWAY FROM HIM>
2006-08-08 08:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by silverbunney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE is not worth your time...Im a little disappointed that you are stilwith him when you deserve so much better. I think you need to move on. And its only been 4 months! You have not wasted that much of your life with him!! You have such a good oppurtunity sweety. MAny people stay in crappy relationship for years, your lucky you have a way out now. Please take it. He doesnt love you.
2006-08-08 08:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, what u are asking is really very difficult (i'm talking from experience)..but what would help u is trying hard to forget what got u attracted to him in the first place, u can do that by considering how much he has hurt u...then more importantly spend time with other people..creat avenues to make new friends and i assure u, u'd definitely meet someone who'd make u forget ur past faster than u know it.
2006-08-16 07:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by peacemaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY YOU NEED TO GET RID OF HIM. HE'S AN @SSHOLE AND YOU KNOW IT. IF HE REALLY LOVED YOU HE WOULD OF NEVER CHEATED ON YOU, HE WOULDN'T OF EVEN THOUGHT OF IT LET ALONE DONE IT.
IF YOU CHOOSE TO STAY WITH A DESTRUCTIVE PARTNER THEN YOU CHOOSE THE CONSEQUENCES OF PAIN AND SUFFERING. EVERY CHOICE YOU MAKE, EVEN THE THOUGHTS YOU THINK, HAS CONSEQUENCES. YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU. YOU EITHER TEACH PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT OR YOU DON'T. THIS MEANS YOU ARE PARTLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE MISTREATMENT YOU GET AT THE HANDS OF OTHERS. YOU SHAPE OTHER PEOPLES BEHAVIOR WHEN YOU TEACH THEM WHAT THEY CAN AND CANNOT GET AWAY WITH. IF SOMEONE TREATS YOU BAD YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOUR DOING TO REINFORCE THAT BEHAVIOR, AND WHY YOU ALLOW IT. LEARN TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE IN CONTROL. LIFE REWARDS ACTION.
2006-08-08 08:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first ponder on why you actaully fell in love with him, once you have straightend that out, that should automatically make you realise if he is worth all that effort.You cannot fall out of love with a person, you can stop loving them because of wht u feel within, anger, sadness, hurt, in order to fall out of love you have to be deeply hurt .
2006-08-08 08:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to cheat u come out be strong & face the fact trow him out of ur life just be strong in telling him to get oput of ur life , there is nothing but the period u spend together is attracting u towards him ok
2006-08-08 08:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run the hell away, if he has cheated on you twice allready y did u go back. sorry but i think that u are foolish, and if u want to get away from him just deport his *** back to where ever it is he comes from.
2006-08-08 08:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by its all about me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO MOVE ON, IT BEEN 4MONTHS AND HE ALREADY HAS CHEATED ON YOU TWICE AND YOU NEED
TO ASK YOU SELF WHY YOU ARE STILL IN LOVE, IF HE
LOVE YOU THEN HE WOULD NOT HAVE CHEATED 2
THAT SHOULD TELLYOU EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED
TO KNOW..LEAVE HIM ALONG AND FIND SOMEONE THAT
WILL LOVE AND APPRECATE YOU.
2006-08-16 00:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋