I need help and prayers?

Question

When I met my fiance' neither of us were very close to God. I was closer and prayed that he would find him. About a month ago, he did find God, and everything changed in an instant.
The only problem is that I haven't been able to afford a divorce from my "ex"husband. That was never an issue until recently. Now, my fiance' seems to be pulling away from me. We have lived together for over 10 months, but obviously we have both decided against sex until we are married, but he's taking it even farther. He won't even kiss me on the mouth, and when he does his lips are closed so tightly it's not even like a kiss, and he doesn't hold me as much. I'm afraid that I am losing him because of him finding Jesus. I don't want to come between that EVER, but, there has got to be some middle ground. Please pray that I will be able to afford a divorce, and that in the mean time, I don't lose the love of my life...who, God brought me to. Please...I beg you...pray for me, and for him too.

whynotaskdon...you really need help. I didn't post this to get bullied by you. I was asking for legitimate help, and you choose to tease. What makes you think I live in a trailer? I live in a house thank you!! And yes I am poor, but I am not "backwoods" as you would like people to think. And...I know you seem to wish my fiance' was gay, but you missed what I said, we were having sex until we BOTH agreed that we shouldn't until we get married. Sorry to disappoint you, you will have to find yourself a guy on your own.
You should stop pretending to be a christian and go answer questions somewhere else where you might be of some help!!

Answer 1

Praying for you and your intentions. Could it be that he is struggling to control his own urges towards you respectfully? It can be difficult for a man. Also if you live in the U.S. call legal aid and see if they can help with the divorce. Many times it can be done for very little and even no money.
Peace Be With You,
Debra

Answer 2

Maybe your fiance right now has an issue with you still being married even though that you are trying to seek a divorce from yor husband now your still legally married to him. Perhaps your fiance seems to be very invovled with Gods word finding him could good sometimes over doing it can be another. He maybe reading to much into the bible where it says about going against another persons wife. I am just guessing on this but I would seek your pastor for advice on this matter. Tell him where you stand at and that you cant afford to divorce your husband sometimes if your church sees that your are in trouble they will try to help you, or seek legal aid.
In case I will send out the Goddess to help you I am not a Christian but will keep you in my thoughts.

Answer 3

I too am a born again Christian. I was divorced many years before I knew the Lord. I sympathize with your position. I will pray that the Lord have His will in your life. It may not be exactly what you want it to be but be sure that it is the Lord's will for your life and not yours. Sometimes, we get caught up in our own selfishness more than counting on the Lord to answer our prayers. Then, sometimes, we get mad at God because He answers but not the way that we want Him to answer. May the Lord shine his light for you to see His will through all of this. I will also pray that your friend becomes closer to the Lord and knows His will for his life. Lust can't wait to get but love can't wait to give. Wait on the Lord and He shall direct your paths. Amen. May the Lord bless you both. Thank you for your question.

Answer 4

I think Debra has said it well. But maybe you shouldn't have started that relationship until the other matter had been finished up?
Maybe it would be better to live apart from each other, and have time... for things. He probably sees that it isn't a good situation and doesn't really know how to talk to you about it.
Have you asked Him what he is thinking and what he is wanting to do?
I will pray for you and the situation.

Answer 5

Well maybe its God's will that you he is pulling away from you, Maybe thats the way god wants it. Maybe God has another plan for both of you..and if thats the case you just have to accept it. I mean why are you getting mad at him if he doesn't want to kiss you or touch you...he probably feels tempted by these things and wants to limit them as much as possible. Maybe you should pray for god to help your financial situation and then you two can get married. But sometimes even though we want things they aren't what god wants for us.

Answer 6

It's real simple here. The problem here is that your boyfriend is gay.

What kind of man doesn't take a woman and make her have sex with him. If you're sleeping in the same bed in your double wide trailer home and he isn't boffing you, there's your sign. How do you expect this man to marry you when he really likes the men?

God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. So, you tell Steve to get out of your trailer house and get yourself a real man to move in honey.

Tell Steve to call me.

Answer 7

Sounds very much like you are a CLOSED person who puts an IMAGINARY figure in front of anything else in life. If it was me the MOMENT you asked for me to accept a lie I would have been out the door.
In any relationship you put the PEOPLE first....NOT Santa Claus.
Grow up and quit believing in fairy tales and maybe youll find a decent man who understands YOU!

Answer 8

I'll surely pray for you... but remember that your fiance is doing it for your own good. When he kisses you, does he tae it furthur in his mind? That is sin. Don't be a stumbling block to your brother. Jesus should never be something that tears you apart. I'd say talk to your pastor about it. I'll be praying. ;)

Answer 9

I prayed so long for me and my ex-fiance but God has other plans - I do pray that God will put all your financial worries to rest but I pray that God's will, will help you prosper in your life and that He will reveal His will for you!

Amen sister!

Answer 10

no. I'm not a Christian. Seems to me like your letting religion get in between a relationship