i am a 26 year old single dad i have 4 daughters and i really dont have alot of time to date but i want to start know and i dont really know how to do it with my kids?
(my wife died about 5 months ago)
2006-08-08 00:39:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my daughters are 13, 11, 3, and 5 months
2006-08-08 07:46:50 · update #1
parents or baby sitters to watch the kids then look up old friends
just looked at your other question you have a 13 year old daughter & you are 26?
ARE YOU FULL OF CRAP or is there another reason ?
2006-08-08 00:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Are you sure that you're ready to start dating? Becuase dating basically SUCKS. And you just are getting over your wife's death ( so sorry to hear about that), and dating will just cause more heartache.
2. A lot of people ( if stupid enough to try to find someone), go on Yahoo Personals, or American Singles. You put up a profile, and then look around for potenial dates and they look for you. It does work to meet someone. But then you have to deal with alllll the games that people play when they date.
3. You do have time. You just have to plan for it. You can look in the newspaper for a baby-sitter, or ask around to friends, family and neighbors. Then plan to go out once a week, Fri or Sat night. Atleast to begin, so your kids get used to the idea.
4. Good luck, because 99% of all people are f'd up and they will only rip your heart out.
2006-08-08 07:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by silverbunney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you have 4 daughters, and your wife just died, and you want to start to date, i would not be dating.
it takes years to fully grieve a loss, unless you didn't love your wife that much, it might be easier, but what will end up happening is you will find a good person, but you will be looking for the same types of qualities as your wife had, in turn you will push away this new person, as they are not your wife, and they never will be the same person that your wife was.
unless you give your heart time to heal, and your head time to process what is happening you will be doomed for failure until you have grieved your loss, as it is a HUGE loss.
your kids may also be feeling that you are trying to replace their mom, and resent your choice, or your new partner may not like kids and cause a different type of conflict, there is so much to think about, don't rush in to it, having just lost your wife a minute ago, will take some time to heal.
good luck, perhaps if you just need some time out to meet new people, leave your kids out of it, and dont vent about your wife to strangers, as you could unknowingly be pushing potential mates away, keep it cool, and leave your life at home, enjoy your time out, when the time is right to bring home a new potential partener, then explain to them the whole situation,
thats the best i can think of what to do, sorry for your loss, hope you find happieness again.
2006-08-08 07:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i'm so sorry about your wife well you could see if a close friend or relative will babysit and you should go out with your friends to a restraunt or somewhere fun and eat drink but not too much and be merry
ps. i feel so bad for you right now but you are doing the girls in your life a favor they need a mother figure
pss. make sure your daughters like her but don't get too attatched to her cuz when you break up they will be soooooo sad
2006-08-08 07:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the ages of your daughters, you might start by talking to them about it. Talk about your how you feel. Help them to understand that you share in the same feelings that they do. If they are of an age that they have friends of their own, explain that you need friends too and assure them that it is important that any new friend you meet must also care about them too. Communication is the key here. Kids are people too and they have the same feelings as adults and a capacity for compassion and understanding.
2006-08-08 07:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by SewHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELCOME TO SINGLE PARENTHOOD lol there is really no way you can date and take care of your girls unless they teenagers if your like most of us u work all the time to pay the bills and give your kids what they want so the little time u have off work u spend with your girls and with 4 u have your handsful i'm sorry to hear about your wife also
2006-08-08 11:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry about the daughters first, dating second, and give it a rest for a while, maybe too soon to start dating.
2006-08-08 07:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by redhotboxsoxfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss.you've got to have a guy's night out.many women would love to step in and help out.find a sitter for one day a week,whether it be family or friend or professional and remember how you started dating when you met their mother.you want someone decent so your girls are happy too,this must be so hard on them so right off the bat you ask the questions"do you like kids" and"what are your goals in the future".and tell the girls although I'm sure they are too young to get it right now but be honest and tell them"daddy's need grown up friends like you need friends your age".good luck!
2006-08-08 07:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by sanemarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really sorry to hear about your wife
Are you sure you are ready to date yet?
Could you not arrange dates when the kids are at school / get a friend to look after them?
If you really couldnt find anyone - what about hiring a babysitter - using professional service though - safety first
Go slowly and good luck
2006-08-08 07:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a women who would want to raise four kids and to be married to a rabbit.
Research at different churches.
2006-08-08 07:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by r_e_a_l_miles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋