after we are married? Would you wait to have sex with someone until after you are married even though you are no longer a virgin?
2006-08-08 00:38:40 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It not only can wait - it should. In your case, the process would include making sure you are morally free to be married: why aren't you with the father of your children? Did he cheat on you? Has he had anyone else in the meantime?
But let's say you are morally free to marry. I take it you don't want a repeat performance of whatever circumstances led to your being a single mom, so see what you can learn from the past and use that wisdom to make the future better.
And then, yeah, keep things platonic with your friend until you're really sure he's the right one for you to spend your life with. I mean, you've already found out the hard way that breakups and/or third parties are just not supposed to happen after you've gone all the way.
When you're sure you're on the same page about all the important stuff, each of you is sure that the other one is taking 100% responsibility for their decisions and actions, then you can simply make a decision to put each other first, above everyone except God, and make a permanent commitment. In front of other people so you're accountable.
And if you both do that, you are sparing yourselves a lot of temptations because you're putting your focus somewhere else: on doing what you have to do to make the relationship good and lasting. You are respecting yourselves and each other, not to mention the God who will join you together when you make that commitment.
And you will be able to maintain a clean conscience regardless of what the other person does. And that's just the thing: why do you think Jesus came here to this earth? Among other things, He came to give you everything you need to wipe the slate clean and start over again with your life. So you can hold your head high as a beautiful creature made in God's image, learn wisdom from the past and move on with a new life.
May God bless you and keep you
2006-08-08 01:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your body,married or not,if you want to wait,then wait.Since you have already been down this road though you may want to ask yourself why it is that you want to wait,if the reasons are legitament than ok but if there is something wrong in the relationship then girl dont walk down that isle for nothing,it will only end up bad.I myself probably would not wait,I was a single mom as well and remarried but I wanted to know the complete package I was getting before I signed my life away.
2006-08-08 00:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not you both experts at it by now four kida all together...
whats the big deal
both of you know how sex complicate a relationship if it didnt you both would still be with your spouse's maybe
if that was the situation ..........point is
you both know how to put sugar in the cup and make ice tea
its no big deal
2006-08-08 00:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by bluff_mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had sex with my wife before we were married only cuase I knew I was going to be with her for the rest of my life. Personally was never one to just sleep with anyone I've only slept with my wife and my exfiance (guess wan't right about that one oops). Anyways though I don't think sex needs to wait until after marriage.
2006-08-08 01:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by millitary007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you wait??? What can be served by putting something that is a big part of the relationship on hold?? What if your not sexually compatible? Then you just stuck! Never wait to have sex!
2006-08-08 00:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell no! both of you have gone through sex a lot, look at both your kids. what's the purpose? feeling like a virgin still? even on webdate.com, virginity is never the issue. when you feel it, go!
2006-08-08 01:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by trixy a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL...why? wanna enter the church's door being candide? I see no point in waiting till after wedding, if you're not virgin. But if you feel so and he doesn't think you're weird, then you can wait.
2006-08-08 00:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think sex can be also part of ur life as both of u intend to marry.
2006-08-08 00:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both agree with those conditions.
Depends on the circumstances but I think I would.
2006-08-08 00:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by RF Ace Face 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wait he will find sex with someone else.
2006-08-08 00:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋