My entire life I have been bombarded with bad relationships with men; going back far in my family history. I want to be open to meeting and having a relationship with a decent, caring and lively man. Yet, I have a hard time putting myself out there because I feel so wounded from past experiences. I know that not all men are bad but I seem to keep encountering the ones that prove an exception to the rule. Any advice?
2006-08-08 00:20:55 · 14 answers · asked by bellagodess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've abviously been hurt in the past so it;s only normal to feel the way your feeling. You need to give yourself time and don't be so hard on yourself, when you meet the right person you will be able to open up because it will happen naturally and you won't have to force anything. Just remember not everyone is the same so when you feel you've met someone special don't be afraid to open up
2006-08-08 00:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take things slowly. Learn to relax and enjoy the company - don't go in thinking about the hurtful long-term effects of a possible relationship that hasn't started yet, or sit there just waiting for someone to hurt you to justify your fears. Each person you meet is a new experience. Be mindful, but give them a chance to earn your trust.
Every emotional wound we get teaches us something, though they are the hardest lessons. But yours will teach you the type of men or situations to stay away from. Learn from them, but don't let them rule you.
good luck :)
2006-08-08 07:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, the last thing you need right now is a relationship with a guy. you need to deal first with all your emotional baggages and the wounds of your heart. and you cannot do these if you are inside a relationship because a relationship at this moment in your life will only do you more bad than good. first, you need to deal with all your hurts...take them to your Creator and ask HIM to heal you from all the pain and the hurt and to make you whole again. two incomplete people do not make a relationship whole, but two complete people do. give yourself time to heal first by pampering yourself and treating yourself with a little more respect and love. because you cannot expect other people to love and respect you if you yourself have no love and respect for your own. so do this. stop looking for men to fill the emptiness in your heart or your life....because they just cannot do this for you. no person can ever do this for you.
God has someone that He has set apart for you alone. and it is best that you wait for this one man. pray for it. it is really different if you allow God to write your love story..i can assure you that. then you will literally be "a match made in heaven". just wait and stop looking because he will come but at the right time...and because you are worth waiting for.
2006-08-08 07:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the past, all you can do is make the present to your liking. So I would say you need to start learning to TRUST, because all guys are not the same, and it seems to me that you set your sights a little low. Raise up your sights and start trusting, and you will find your dream
2006-08-08 07:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first don't see what they r interested in then if there a jerk lay low don't deal with them r u can act like Ur self and be kind all men r not going to be right it does take time for the right one to come a long i know u r a strong fearless woman don't let men control Ur life theirs other fish in the sea let them come to u i did that and the right one came to me but his mom got in the way were good friends but i wouldn't deal with his mom i love him coz hes a true man. i hope u find the right one.
2006-08-08 07:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "This may sound ridiculous, but if you continue to keep the door open, someone that is right for you will step through. I know it is easy to keep up defenses, but one day, you might shut out your soulmate. Someone will come into your life, and protect your heart instead of damage it. Good luck to you."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-08 12:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling is right. You have to work out your issues and learn how to forgive the ones that wronged you before you are able to move on.
2006-08-08 07:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by JOEYSMOM2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling.
Read Positve Motivations DAILY.
Open your heart.
Take deep Breaths
Trust all until they give you a reason not to.
Don't be so quick to judge.
2006-08-08 07:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem once......got some councelling and stopped being a victim...now enjoying life as it comes
2006-08-08 07:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to knw him talk wit him all general stuff like family interst n all gradually u will come to knw
2006-08-08 07:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by dream hermes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋