Quick history I am remarried to DD stepdad for 3 months.was seperated from her dad for 2 years.we moved in with stepdad after the wedding, about 3 months now.
In the past 2 months DD has wet herself 3 times.Once was at night, once was coming out of the pool, once was coming home from the park.She also did this a few months ago when my dad was in the hospital.She just stood in the hall and peed.Dad has since passed away and we have moved in with new husband and stepfamily.There are 7 of us all together now where before there was only she and I.
Could this all be attributed to the changes in her life? Am I not paying enough attention to her? Any advice will be helpful.
2006-08-08 00:17:45 · 6 answers · asked by Trisha D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah. When I moved in with my dad and stepmother at age 6, I did for quite some time have a bit of a problem with bedwetting. Only at night, fortunately.
There's no need to blame yourself, or make a big deal about it. You might want to think about installing a rubber sheet on her bed, under the regular sheets, so the mattress doesn't get wet.
About the other situations, you might want to talk with her about what she would consider an optimal solution. You could propose a visit to the doctor to make sure there isn't some sort of physiological problem.
Otherwise, if there is no such problem and she is satisfied with the situation as it stands now, it should probably be left as is, you'll just have to do laundry a little more often.
If you don't make a big deal about it and just love her as she is, it ought to go away in due time - although it could take a couple of years, so be patient.
2006-08-08 00:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mum but I have a 5 year old step brother who does the same from time to time (hes better now) and my sister used to do it when my mum split up with our dad. We have also been through a lot and it is also hard for the childern to ajust to the extreem changes. I helped my mum raise my sister as she had to work.
I think she is looking for attention from you. She loves you very much and would like to be included in the things you do. She is frightend of missing out on something if she goes to the toilet, She would rather go and have fun with you than go.
When ever it looks like she needs a wee, ask her. If she says no take her to the loo anyway. Get her to go to the loo just before she goes to bed and after she has had her drink. Tell her nicly not to wait hold it and to ask to go to the toilet. You will need to do this a good few times so it becomes an automatic reaction of telling you. Just keep an eye on her. Get your Hubbie involved in this too and the both of you, spend more time quality time with her. Make her feel like shes included. Do cooking with her (bake cakes).
I wish you and your family all the best in the world.
2006-08-08 00:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by Keya Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a combination of her age, she growth of the bladder and maybe a little of her not getting enought attention. Since there are so many of you and it only used to be her and you. She pees herself and you take care of her. Just the way she wants it. Set aside some time for just you and her and be there only for her. See how that works out.
2006-08-08 00:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a physical problem was ruled out (bladder isn't developed yet, etc)
then it must be because DD is confused, wants your attention.
she probably doesn't understand why people are coming and going from her life.
if you can't reaffirm her that you love her (which should be the easiest thing to do) please seek a counselor.
your child needs you. who cares about the rest of the world. you have the power to fix it. give her a stable life.
2006-08-08 00:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Erica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I think all the changes in her life have put her under stress & that's why she's doing this
have you talked to her Dr. about this ? They would give you the BEST advice
I would just remind her that you love her & make a special day out for just you & her , hope this helps &
best of luck
2006-08-08 00:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found a nice site with easy to read info & links. I hope this will help you with what you are going through. Sounds like you have had your fair share of things to deal with. Good luck!
2006-08-08 00:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by Wizard of Oz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋