I’ve kissed and been kissed on the cheek and on the lips but I’ve never kissed with tongues. People around me, friends and guys, assume I’ve kissed before. I've told some of my closer friends I’ve never kissed before as I know they will not judge me.
Only recently have I began to worry about this as I met I guy, who I really love, I want to tell him I’ve never kissed before but I’m scared of how he will react. I want him to b my first kiss, and I want him to know that he was my first, but I’m scared he will judge me. I understand at 15 to lose a guy you like is not the end of the world, and if he does judge me then it’s his loss, but it’s difficult to put myself into the situation where I can lose someone I value that much.
I know he wants to kiss me, and I know he likes me, so I also have the dilemma of do I kiss him then tell him, or tell him then kiss him (if he doesn’t mind being my first kiss of course).
Thanks in advance for any answers.
2006-08-07 23:44:53 · 45 answers · asked by Nicola C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it's normal. dont rush save it for the right guy,your husband to be_the greatest love of your life.
2006-08-07 23:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are leading a sensible life. I mean, the kind of kissing you are talking about is a big step towards the bedroom. And the thing about moving in the direction of the bedroom is that once you get there, you can't really turn around.
After all, look what happens when people don't think about what they're doing: they get involved, a third party enters the picture, or there's a breakup - and then they realize only too late that this kind of thing isn't supposed to happen after you've gone to bed.
So the smart thing to do is think first, and only start taking steps in that direction when you're absolutely sure: you are both in a position to take 100% responsibility for your decisions and actions, you're able to really put each other first (as in, higher than everyone except God - and that includes Mom and Dad) and make a permanent commitment.
Bottom line: At age 15 there's no hurry, you have the opportunity to get to know people, including this guy you mention, observe what works and doesn't work in relationships around you, figure out what you want, whether you're on the same page with him about the important stuff...
I wish you all the best - may God bless you!
PS I'm 42 and haven't kissed anyone like that in over 20 years - so I do know what I'm missing - and I still plan to save my next kiss for my husband :>
2006-08-08 00:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're normal. I also had kisses on lips, but french one I had long after this...let's say I was 20+ and I didn't feel myself weird for this and the guy didn't consider it odd, either. If you're worried, you can kiss him without telling him he was your first. If you think he would feel proud that he is the first one, then tell him before. This way he won't make any bad impression about how bad kisser you are cause he would consider you being novice, so it's natural.
2006-08-07 23:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you are really showing your immaturity by dwelling on the KISS issue. You have plenty of time to experience all things life has to offer you. Quit stressing on what you don't have or what you've not had.....When the time is right you will experience what you are asking for. Rushing things will only lead to your disappointment. Think of it as a package under the X-mas tree.......Sometimes you can't wait to open it....and once you do you might only find a pair of socks in the package (see----disappointment)????
2006-08-07 23:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No u abnormal freak. A guy wont care if you've been kissed b4 or not or who it was with, he only cares that u do it with him. Whatever the outcome, he WILL tell people, so make sure its good. Thats what your friends have been practising for all this time. Feel left behind? Things r only gonna get worse the longer you leave it.
2006-08-08 01:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nicola he will be just as nervous, It may not be his first passionate kiss but it will be with you, if you put yourself in the position to be kissed you follow his lead and it will happen naturally and you don't need to declare that he is your first just say he was the best he,ll love that Wink its normal not to have been this intamate at your young age so dont frett you will be fine.
2006-08-08 00:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to tell him; he'll be flattered you trust him enough to confide in him, and if anything, it'll probably make him try to be extra good and extra careful, to make sure your first real kiss is as good as possible--after all, the *last* thing he'd ever want is for you to go through life saying "yeah, I remember my first kiss--he was awkward, rushed, slobbery, it was no good at all". Definitely *not* how any guy wants to be remembered. He'll make *extra* careful to get it right if he knows he's making that lasting first impression like that.
2006-08-07 23:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh! How I miss being a teenager.....
Trust me! I doubt that he will hold it against you. He may even be flattered that you have waited and you want him to be your first kiss.
If not and he leaves then you haven't wasted it! My first kiss was with a girl who looked like a ferret when I was 13. It's funny to look back at it now but I remember being nervous then. Just enjoy it!
2006-08-07 23:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Whitelord 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, there's nothing wrong with you at all! He should feel honoured to be your first! Just goes to show that you think he's really special and that you don't just go around kissing guys for the sake of it. I'm sure he'll still be happy to kiss you, and I hope you'll enjoy it!!!
2006-08-07 23:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by tanja_christina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Completely and utterly normal. Ignore the sarky comments from the eejits on here (Whats with them today??) and just go with the flow.
It will just happen naturally - cliche as it sounds. But take your time and just enjoy it. But always do what you want to do - dont let anyone push you into anything.
2006-08-08 00:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a flower bush in my cottage garden, all the flowers except for one have bloomed and are now just begginning to lose there appeal and beauty. One bud remains it came into bloom yesterday...it is by far the brightest most fragrant and most beautiful flower I have seen this year.
Well worth waiting for and a bloom I shall never forget.
Keep your garden Fair !
2006-08-07 23:56:36 · answer #11 · answered by a cottage by the sea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋