recently i have been getting loads of pressure from people. im a mexican female who lives with a woman/domestic partner. im 31 and live above the 35,000 income line. SO IM ASKING what is the pressure to have babies all of the sudden? what is the urgency? im getting it from friends and family. this is MY POINT AND HOPEFULLY IM NOT CRAZY FOR THINKING THIS........I THINK I SHOULD BE FINANCIALLY STABLE, EMOTIONALLY STABLE, PHYSICALLY STABLE AND MENTALLY STABLE FOR ME OR ANY WOMAN TO BRING A BABY THAT IS PLANNED INTO THIS WORLD. I AM ONLY HALFWAY THERE ON ALL OF THESE.. WELL MORE SO THAN OTHERS. AM I WRONG TO FEEL THAT A BABY WOULD BE A WRONG THING TO EVEN CONSIDER AT THIS TIME? let me know your thoughts..........
2006-08-07 23:29:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks for the replies, it takes a lot of hard work and commitment and i am hands up to all the mothers that never sleep and work there asses off for their kids, thanks i was wondering wether i was nuts for waiting so long.....
2006-08-07 23:39:37 · update #1
Only you know when it's time to have a child, but I will say if you're waiting to be completely stable in all those areas at once, it will probably never happen.
2006-08-07 23:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl.. if only every other person of child bearing age and ability could think like that. There are so many people who don't wait to have ONE of those many things you mentioned before they have children. I waited till I was married, had a house, and was financially stable. When I was sure I wanted to have kids.. I did.. I'm still up all night sometimes, and I never get to stop.. but I wanted these kids and I wouldn't have it any other way.
You appreciate motherhood so much more when you treat it like something you worked for.. rather than just something you can do because you have the parts and you know how it's done. I commend you for waiting till you're ready.. cause that's what your baby is going to deserve... A mother who worked hard to be able to provide her child with the best of her.
2006-08-08 07:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children is a matter of personal choice. NO one should ever be pressured to procreate unless they absolutely want to. Raising children in today's society is expensive and you are living on a modest salary.
I would say enjoy your life and don't feel pressured to do something you would have to spend the rest of your life up. Selfish as that might sound....Having children is a 24-7 JOB that you can't quit!!
I also believe NOT every females' destiny is to have children and be the HAPPY homemaker. Some females are destined to work, live a happy life with their partner, have a nice home, 3 dogs, a cat etc!!
2006-08-08 06:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male and i agree with you on all points but I also think that for a woman to have children she should be able to choose when and with who.don't let the pressure of what others think as they are not the ones who have to bring the child into the world and then raise it.I really think that when the time is right for you it will happen and only then should it happen.
2006-08-08 06:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are the one to know when and if it is time to have a child. I was 33 when I had my first child. I know what it is like to be pressured. My husband and I dated five years and were married five years before we had any children. He was from an Italian family and it was always when are you going to get pregnant? I wanted a house and money in the bank before I even thought of having a baby. When we had our first child we were in our new house, I was able to quit work and raise the child , we were able to live comfortably on my husband's income and ll months later we had a second child. Stick to your guns. You will know when the time is right. Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 06:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I THINK I SHOULD BE FINANCIALLY STABLE, EMOTIONALLY STABLE, PHYSICALLY STABLE"
When is anyone ever all these things? There is never a right time to bring a child into this world, just when you think is right for you. I suppose your friends and family are pressuring you because at 35 your biological clock slows down and it's harder to conceive a child.
2006-08-08 06:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the pressure that people are giving you. You should be able to do what ever you want when you want. It is your body that they are talking about. Let them know that, and also let them know that you think it is rude for them to try and plan your life out for you.
2006-08-08 06:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, that's something you'd have to discuss with the baby's daddy
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