I never want to even try it...in the past it has never worked out very well. It has hurt and I feel sick afterwords. Even with my X who I really cared about I still got the same reactions and we never did it again. I just want to know if there is anything that I can do to feel normal and enjoy sex like a normal women should with someone they truly care about.
2006-08-07 23:25:39 · 8 answers · asked by Samantha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Samantha . there is no getting over what has been done to you .
I have read about a girl on the net that suffered rape as well and she feels anxiety when she is intimate as well , she has a loving guy now and she finds it much easier if she is in control not for arousal sake but her guy lets her decide whether he is traveling to fast or if things are happening that she cant control emotionally so she stops and sometime can compose her self to continue and sometimes she just kisses him good night and they sleep together ,it takes time and patients but eventually you might realize that the person your with doesn't mean to push you or hurt you he is just there for you . he will need to be
2006-08-07 23:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by slick 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've dated girls in the same situation, had to take it slow with them. I realize most of it is in your mind. If you can just be close to a person outside of sex until you have allot of trust in them, that would make it easier. Also with the people I was with I'd let them be in control basically, and also make it very loving. It's going to take time though, as you already know. The guy needs to understand this and be patient with you. I wish I could help more, like I said patience, trust and a caring and understanding partner.
2006-08-08 06:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy both alone and as a couple. It takes time, but it definitely is possible. Another thought, have you ever tried being the one completely in control? Tie him to the bed and have your way with him.
2006-08-08 06:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound rude or insensitive, but you really do need to go get some counselling. What happened to you was very traumatic and it has scarred your psyche. You need to heal or you will continue to have relationship problems.
There are counsellors and therapist out there who specialize in ladies who have been victims of sexual assault. do yourself and your loved one a favor and get some help.
2006-08-08 06:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by RangerBob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek god and pray to forgive the one who raped you. also did you report this to authorites. and get counseling to help talk this out. are you close with your partner? does he understand your situation? is he gentle with you? do you really truly love him. you have to get serious help. if you dont want to try it then dont. never do it for someone else. just have friends and dont date for a while. take some time out for yourself. dont push yourself if you are not ready. take care.
2006-08-08 06:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u shud forget the past get along with life!!!!
i'm sure u'll be alright later again!!!!
believe me!!!
2006-08-08 06:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by cool customer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get therapy and any other help you can. your partner isn't going to understand your feelings or he is going to wonder if he did something wrong. be sure to include him at therapy. good luck.
2006-08-08 06:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u wasnt raped..!!!!! OK.
2006-08-08 06:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋