If it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage, and a sin to look at pornography, what exactly does one do?!?

Question

If that is what you believe, how are you supposed to go for all that time before you are married? What if you never get married til 60!!

Answer 1

Its only a sin if your religous ....

Answer 2

Who says that having sex outside marriage or a look at pornography are the acts of sin? No where it is written also, so as to comprehend like in the proper perspective.
Now come in your own later part as the belief. That's correct! Why you take the pain or over-burden of believing in the way not suiting your mental freedom? Be perfect and determined in your acts and deeds, duly ensuring that nothing unnatural are done!!

Answer 3

It's not a sin to have sex outside the marriage. It's a sin to commit adultery. If both partners are consenting and have no objection then it's not by definition adultery. And it's not a sin to look at pornography. It's a sin to lust. You can lust after anything. Anything that is a focus of your desire strictly for physical gratification is by definition a lust. Any experience indulged in or pursued for the purpose of enriching your life and the life of those around you, I have a hard time seeing as a sin...

Answer 4

Just the very question makes me feel sorry for you, What is sinning?

I'm not religious but I don't need a religion to tell me that looking at pornography is ok (as long as you don't do it all day every day of course, that leads to blindness) and that going behind your partners back whether it be sleeping with them or just kissing is wrong. now there are lots of couples out there who consent to extra marital sex and are into either the swinging or dogging scene.

But it's quite simple, If your partner loves you and you love them and you have a level of respect between you then of course cheating on them is completely wrong.

Forget the what bible says think about respect for your fellow human beings!

Answer 5

Find a religious expression that is no so hung up on sex, sensuality, and has an expression of the balance between the physical and the spiritual. That way you can stop getting hung up in the guilt that drives you to alignment with the predominant expression which is used to control people and put lose change in the pockets of the priest class. Find your freedom and morality without their guilt. That, by the way is a necessity, to find your moral codes as well. As civilized people we are more then the instincts of the reptilian cortex.

Answer 6

sin is subjective to the beliefs of the individual. there is no god, its so over with that. values and morals are yours. people who need a god to sort everything out are less for relying on a concept.

its not what you do but why

looking at porno is only as bad as what happens to you.
if you look at some pics, and then 10 minutes later you go pick up your friend like you promised, you are cool
but if you look at porno and 4 hours later your still not answering your phone and your friend is pissed off, and then you start having thoughts about get sex soon, and you start pestering school girl. etc etc

when you lose sight of your life because something has a grip on you, than you have become entrusting, and dangerous

Answer 7

Maybe there is a method to what you see as madness.

What if you did sc rew everything you saw and lived that kind of life. Sex eventually becomes a routine. You may prefer some women/men to others. But when you meet the person you love in your heart, it will become harder to love them physically after comparing them against others.

If you only have the one, it is the best you have ever had, And will always be that way for life. And your mate for you. Sad for those that don't know the joy.

There is some practical advantages to waiting. Stress of disease, unwanted pregnancy, and any jealocies is eliminated.

Answer 8

Well, *I* don't think it's a sin at all but that's just relative. As someone else said, it depends on your religion and beliefs. However, I do reckon celibacy can be a positive choice if it suits you. At least it keeps things simple! As for masturbation, it's YOUR body. I think you should be able to do what you like with it. I'm not religious myself but I find it hard to understand why any loving God would deny you that.

Pornography is a huge issue (I need to get back to work!) and, ironically, the stigma attached to it makes it harder to be an ethical user. My advice would be to have a think about what you'd like to find and move on to something else if any of it makes you uncomfortable. Have you tried erotic literature for a bit of sexual relief? I'm not advocating a system where "erotica" is somehow higher or “better” than "porn". I'm just suggesting you might find buying a book a little more discreet and therefore easier to square with your religion. (Apologies if I've misunderstood and you're not religious.)

Answer 9

In the long run when you reach an age of above middle age, then you start understanding is ther any meaning. But there must be controls and values.

With porn there can be no control. But these should be made understood morally and culturally. As with other bad things it is not easy to exercise control. But it is always better to have control.

What will happen if there are no controls? But still there should be some wayout.

Answer 10

God made man, God gave man laws- and those laws are perfect for the man God made.
Man made a product and add to it its manual. How good that manual is to the user[s]. If he fail to assess the manual, he easily destroys the product and for that he becomes foolish and blameworthy.
A child is sinless\ from birth to maturity. At this tender age, he carries no sin and no potent desires to have sex. At maturity, wc begin with posteteron/ gestoteron -both agent of potency and mating to procreate, Then, sin comes in. A record is opened for him [for good or for bad]. God also gave him/her the need to get married.
Rather than take God's law, man prefer man's law that says, he/she is still young to marry but very ripe to flirt. Yet he flirt and gets pregnated and has no problem having normal delivery= no complication.
That God's law for the wise. If you therefore subscribe to man law, you end up with sins- lots of it- wc include masturbation and boy friend/girlfriend, disobedience to parents, and a distorted and disjointed life.
So to have it real and focus, subscribe to God's law- it will land u good.

Answer 11

Practice chastity.

Judeo-Christian tradition has taught for thousands of years:
1. Single people should be celibate.
2. Married people should be faithful to each other (adultery is wrong).

The Catholic Church recognizes the power of sex when it teaches, "Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul."

Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person. A chaste person's body and spirit lives in unity and opposes any behavior that would impair that unity.

The purpose of sex is to bring a husband and wife closer and to create human life.

With love in Christ.