i often feel depressed because of my mum...what do i do?

Question

im 16, still in high school, in year 11, been offered traineeship in childcare, only child to single mother. my mother often criticises me of everything i do, one minute shes all lovey dovey to me and the next minute shes makin me swear inside and i want to pull my hair out and scream or kill myself. i dont kno what to do anymore. im interested in doing aid work overseas after i complete school but im under pressure from my mum to take the traineeship and also go to uni. i have a best friend who i can confide in, but its not the same, i dont want to make her cry or worry her, im also a Christian, and my mums Buddhist, im vietnamese and my mum cant accept my views on faith, the world and everything around me, my mum is so closed minded, everytime i open my mouth to state something or argue her point of view, i get yelled out. i say something, i get yelled at and called names or a slap. i dont say anythin, i get called names and im so sick of it all

i dont say anythin to her, and she tells everyone i dont respect her n treat her like a dog, im disobedient n rude and im all like all the other 'aussie' kids. an example of her closed mindedness and overprotectiveness is ; i cant sleepover at my best friend's house because she's scared ill get raped by her stepdad. its not her real dad and all. n she knows my best friend and her mum. she judges me all the time, she judges everyone but herself. she tells me off when she notices i hang out too much with my friends, i dont! the occasional one day at the movies, like once a month? she yells at me when i worry over a friend's problems and sayin why do i care, do they care about u the same way etc. school counsellor isnt much help either, she tells me things i already kno or wants me to break down the communication barrier between my mum and i. that would work perfectly and ill get a slap on the face for tryin.

Answer 1

Hi,

Unfortunately Jesus never said life would be easier as a Christian, in fact, He said we would not even be accepted in our own town...and often our own homes.

Joh 4:44 For Jesus himself testified, that a prophet hath no honor in his own country.

My best advise is to pray for your mother. As far as what to do about the child care, ask the Lord what He wants you to do. He will open and close the doors of oppertunity if you ask Him. If you are to go abroad He will make a way for that to happen.

May God bless you in every way.

Answer 2

It sounds as if your mother is of the old school and cannot tolerate the young of today not being submissive. She thinks you are disrespectful for having views other than hers. To her this brings disgrace on her. Sorry to say this, but she is not going to change.

You need to discuss this with a good counselor or school psychologist. The second is most preferred.

You do as you desire. It is your life not your mothers. If she doesn't like it, then she will have to live with it. You will only be happy by doing what make you happy. Although her ways are the customs of the Vietnamese, it does not mean it is best or correct way.

Answer 3

I deal with similar problems with my parents. I want to go out with friends but i have to state where i will be, when ill be home, who is going, the friends address, the friends phone number and all that jazz. it drives you nuts. i cant voice my opinion about their advice or I'll get smacked. dont worry, if you get a job it is a lot easier because you are away from them and communicating with others. i work at a nursing home as an aide and enjoy visiting and caring for the residents. it pays pretty well too over here in the usa. we always need more.

Answer 4

I am going to try to make this short. You are 16. Its not going to be much longer and you will be out of school and you will have your own life. Make yourself ready for it. Do what you have to do so you can be independent when the time comes. STOP arguing with your mother. It's not going to change anything she is who she is. It's better to say yes and go on along with whatever she says than it is to live in strife. Make your plans and make them well so when the time comes for you to step out in the world and make it on your own you can show your mother that you can make it on your own then you will have her respect.

Answer 5

Pray on it every night till you are 18, then when you feel comfort in what ever it is you decide to do, pounce on it! You will never EVER be happy wondering "What if". Good luck:)

Answer 6

Do what you know is the right thing for you. Your mum knows she gets her life tolive and you get yours to live.

Answer 7

I won't read all that but smiling and cheering with her ids always good