This girl at work was on the computer before me, at her myspace and by reading it you can deduce that her and her boyfriend have been seeing each other for 4 months and arent doing it. She didnt just come out and say it but just reading it you can figure it out. I think that is about the longest I waited in a relationship, how about you?
2006-08-07 22:17:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the quickest was on my 4th date and the longest was i think 2 and something months.
2006-08-07 22:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Leonardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much of what was said here was good adice.
One thing I'd like to emphasize though is that you must realize that intimacy is not the same as sex.
If you want a REAL relationship with someone, then the time needed to wait for sex should not be important at all. There is no calendar you need to follow.
There are people that wait years before they have sex, but they are intimate with each other's souls. And that is much more important.
2006-08-07 23:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by mm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what are your intentions regarding dating. If you are seeking a long term relationship, becoming intimate too early is not necessary and may lead to trust issues. In particular, long term relationships require greater trust which is not really promoted by early intimacy. It is also advantageous when seeking long term relationships to study and really know your partner so that you discover the complex quatities and attributes that that person possesses. On the other hand, if you are seeking solely sexual conquest waiting too long may cost you the relationship. When you are seeking short term relationship or simply sex, your partner is soon made aware because of signals that you send out. Therefore, delaying when opportunities exist to become intimate often results in loss of interest. As the saying goes 'strike while the hammer is hot.'
2006-08-07 22:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by ramasinc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to sex just because of a time frame. When he wants to see you a lot and calls a lot and can't seem to be without you a lot and you get along as best friends, then would be a good time to talk about the "what ifs"...because there's a good chance you'd get pregnant. Depending upond your age and in most cases I'd wait longer than four months. Just remember that when a guy decides it's time for him to find someone to marry, they're looking for a "good girl" not a "used girl". Trust me on this one I have three sons who are in their twenties and that's what they're looking for now! Be good to yourself first. You don't owe any guy anything no matter what they do for you. Good luck!
2006-08-07 22:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is not a factor in dating when it comes to sex. for any number of reasons sex may not be on the cards or on the minds of either partner. so it will just happen as and when the time feels right.
But do you really think she is going to write about her sex life on a web blog for the world to see. what you are reading is the edited story that she is happy for the world to read.
she may just be shy about writing down anything about her love life beyond the basics of who she is dating and for how long.
If i was truly in love with a girl I'd wait as long as it takes a life time if need be. admittedly it would be hard to resist forcing the issue, but to truly respect her is to wait for the time to be right for her.
pressuring a girl into sex is as good as raping he in my opinion. which to be frank is something i would never do.
2006-08-07 22:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the longest I've waited to poke around in other people's private business to satisfy my own curiosity? I'll answer when I start doing it.
Good luck with that then.
2006-08-07 22:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by this_isridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on you first in case you're waiting then the different guy or woman. in lots of cases I my previous kinfolk ships it occurs because of the fact of an attraction. I do have a three- 6 month rule to get to comprehend somebody and ask questions approximately their bypass. enable it needless to say take place
2016-11-04 02:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good things are worth waiting for. Make sure you are both ready, if you jump in to fast the relationship will pay the price.
2006-08-07 22:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jon H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different with different people. Maybe she's not into sex or maybe her b/f is scared and doesn't want to have sex yet. I was once with a girl for more than four months and there was not much affection in our relationship so we never even got to talking about sex. Also it was because i was very nervous to talk to her about it even though i heard that she wanted to do it.
2006-08-07 22:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by abjr_86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i waited 5 months once and it was well worth the wait!!! its never the same after the first time tho, theres nothing quite like that first time...especially when you have waited and become intimate emotionally first
2006-08-07 22:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋