You've spent so much time and money on your wedding and have even completed your new home and are ready to move in. All your family and friends are at your wedding and some have flown from far far away just to be with you. Will you go on with the wedding?
2006-08-07 22:14:04 · 30 answers · asked by Bassilisk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that I would call them both in a room and ask them straight out. I would also include the preacher/pastor to sit in so things dont get out of hand. I would state where i heard that rumor and demand to know the truth. Also if my best friend had a bf or husband, he would have to come in there. If i was not satisfied with the answer, I would call off the wedding right there at that time but still have the reception- since it is paid for already- you might as well party!! As far as the house- I would move in, give him his half of whatever he paid on it up until that point and tell him to never speak to me again. As far as the best friend, I would never trust her again, therefore I would most likely never talk to her again either.
I saw a video on tv- on Court TV matter of fact, one of those caught on tape doing dirt shows. well the bride was actually caught on camera entering a pool house and leaving out from it about 15 minutes later with the best man! It was right before the wedding was supposed to start and she got caught! (hubby to be kinda thought she was so he set up the camera himself) Needless to say, during the vows when it came to the i do's he turned to her, said no tha she could marry his f'n best friend since she liked to sleep with him so much. then on the screen in front of them he showed everyone at the wedding what she did, she ran off crying and no one got married. a fight ensued between the hubby to be and the best friend, and after all was said and done he went ahead, took (with his dad) all of the food to a poorer part of town to a church and gave away the dinners to the church to give to the poor. he didnt even care.
If you cheat, you get what is coming to you.
2006-08-14 09:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have several options.
You go through with the wedding and immediately enter counseling together. If the fiance doesn't care that what s/he did is wrong, then you annul the marriage and consider the money spent just a good party.
You could also ask the fiance to go home and to take the cheating friend with him/her. If you are living together, tell him/her to be out by the end of the week. Then, stand up at the alter and explain that due to unforeseen circumstances, the wedding won't take place today, but that you are going to have one heck of a party instead!
2006-08-08 05:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perhaps the most humiliating situation one could have happen to them but I've heard worse. But, I would not go through with it. The guests would agast for you but would difinitely understand... and chock it up to a really embarrassing but weird event in their lives as well. No, I would not go through with it. The humiliation would wear off for you but I believe it would be the bride's father to make the announcement with the minister No point in wasting the goodies...let everyone eat at the reception. Take off the veil and go on with the party..work the tables and talk, talk, talk, with friends and family. Its not often they do get together. Move into the home for a period and insist that Bozo support it. Sell it when ready. Return all the gifts...you won't want reminders anyway.
I knew a girl who planned her wedding and the groom was a "no show." A long time later she planned another wedding and again, the groom was a "no show.". It was the same guy!
Next time around...elope.
2006-08-10 18:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not get married. I would let the family know what has happened. Its not your fault. Walk down the aisle when asks if anyone objects tto the wedding you speak up. Let everyone know what has happened appologise to every one that has come from far away. Then get even with him by telling your guests the reception is still on and ur ex will be refunding their airfares and paying for the full reception. Revenge is sweet. You walk with your head held high as you have done nothing wrong.relationship has been a sham the person you loved and trusted is a liar and cheat. As for your best friend they need to learn the meaning of friendship.
2006-08-07 22:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by a mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. What makes you think that if he cheated on you now, he is not going to do it after your married. I'm sure you have more respect for yourself than that. As for your bestfriend, she's a piece of S***T. I feel that S**T belongs with S**T. He is not worth anything, neither is she. I'm just so sorry that you have spent so much time and money, but in the long run, later on in the future, you're going to feel great about the move you made. When your family and friends find out why you did it, they are going to applaud you. Good Luck
2006-08-12 06:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by lady love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! Take it as a sign. If you still have time maybe you might think about sending out cancel notices. Explain to your parents why you want to call it off. You should be able to get back most of what you have put into it. Save that house for someone who is worthy of it.
In the long run you've saved yourself from a costly divorce later on down the road.
Good luck
Get out while you still can.
2006-08-15 07:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The money spent on the wedding is nothing compared to the cost of a sorrowful life.
2006-08-08 02:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way! I would ditch him at the alter without thinking twice. That is absurd that someone would allow that to happen and continue on with the big day. You know darn well that it won't work out...why bother paying for the wedding and then the divorce??
2006-08-07 23:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Has been cheating" doesn't sound like it was a one-time-we-are-sorry-but-we-
were-drunk type of thing.
There are things you are leaving out so it's hard to advise.
Are they done? or is this going to be a continous thing? how did you find out? was it by mistake (did you catch them)? did a "real friend" tell you? or did one of them confess because of guilt?
Now you have to look inside and ask yourself? Do you still love her? Do you WANT to marry her still? not just should you.
I stayed with my ex for a year after I first caught him cheating, he did again and again. He was never going to change. If they been having an affair, then she will probably never change... if it was a one time thing... it wouldn't make you a bad guy to stay or leave.
2006-08-07 22:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Vicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess your best freind isn't your best freind. Its easier to get out then go thur with it. Have a great time with the friends and family drink a toast to being free from so called friends and unfaithful fiances.... maybe they belong together. Who cares just get out while the getting is good.
2006-08-15 06:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by flower wanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋