I'm a 23 year old single mother of 4 and every one is always telling me that its wrong i'm to young and still a baby what do u think I have my own house and a job
2006-08-07 21:07:40 · 31 answers · asked by kareni23 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
hey there, well you know what im a single mom too of a few kids myself and that age i heard it alot too........ don't worry about what other people say yea it will get to us in the long run of what people. i also hear that it good in a way to be young with having enough energy to run after the little ones but as long as you support them and give them tlc that is all that matters the most just some ppl are ready some ppl aint at that age. it just meant to be that all. i was 15 with my first boy. just wipe it off your shoulders and just carry on with your family and not what other ppl say ya it ez to say but what else to do right amazing that you are able to have a job and your own place cause lots of moms that i know dont so you are doing a pretty darn good eh
2006-08-07 21:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I have quite a different opinion here. I am possibly much older than everyone else and perhaps that's why. I'm 49 and a grandmother.... been around a while. I have no problem with you being 23 and a mother of 4. A hundred years ago that was probably quite common. It's the 'single' aspect that saddens me. I am not sure of your 'single' situation but would say that if you have had these 4 children either purposely or accidentally without a father in place for them (preferably with some commitment i.e. marriage) then that makes me feel sad... for your children. Unlike the other posts which focussed on YOU, my focus is on your children. Wherever possible, every child deserves a father, it's as simple as that. A good father would be far more beneficial to your children than an owned house. I do congratulate you on supporting yourself and children in your situation and not expecting others to do so, that's refreshing. I hope that you somehow find the time and energy to devote to them and to be the good mother I suspect you want to be.
2006-08-07 22:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by Linda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bit young to be a mother of four...thats true. It doesn't mean that you have your own house and job that you are old or mature enough. There are lots of things to learn from people around you. You can be 60 and still be doing things wrong.
Best thing is to just take their advice and be nice to them. Then on your own time figure out if their advice is good for you or you would like to go another way.
2006-08-07 21:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by kalragurpalsingh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was born, my mum was 20 years old.
I don't think you're too young. I mean, if you have a job and a house and if you can take care of all your child needs, you're a mother, definitely.
23 years old could be young for some people, who are still students, and only think to have fun. But it could be old enough to have you real life.
Nothing's wrong, it's your life, and you live it quite well I think.
2006-08-07 21:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by tokala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being young makes you able to keep up with your kids and I think enjoy them more as you are more patient. I had my twins at 24 and went to a mothers group with those in their 30's. I had so much more patience and was less stressed and they all said they wish they had there kids younger.
You are 23 and not 13 so you are not a baby having a baby, if they want to be rude then be rude back and tell then you think it is none of their business
2006-08-08 01:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're too young. Plus, a baby is always making a girl becoming mature and responsable. The fact that you have a job and your own house is great, cause you can raise your kid in proper conditions. Good luck and best wishes to your "small family".
2006-08-07 21:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by DreamGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a little young and they probably just wish you would have had more time to enjoy yourself before making the sacrifice to have children. It's a little too late now though anyway. You have the children and it sounds like you are responsible and stable so unless they are going to volunteer to help you out with them or something, I think they should keep their mouth shut and mind their business. Besides I think it's awful manners to come to someone and start trying to point out what they are doing wrong in their life. Especially if it's things that can't be undone anyway.
2006-08-08 02:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by freespirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be doing well and that is good to hear. It is hard being a single parent. I really wouldn't let it bother me what other people think. You have a job, a house and four wonderful children. They can all screw off. Good luck to you and you children. Your young in time you may fined a great love.
2006-08-07 22:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what everyone thinks. Like you said...You have your own house and job, so you're not too young to take care of yourself. Being a young mother is hard enough, but apparently your taking care of yours, so I salute you for that...Everyone will always have an opinion.
2006-08-07 21:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by sandi8898 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse people need to gossip on everything, but dont care about them. On the other hand ı think 4 is enough. just go on with your life and bee happy. A little advice; use any birth control methods next time. dont make a collection of kids. Good luck in life
2006-08-07 22:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by MORTİCİA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋