and to also likes when he calls you bad names.
2006-08-07 20:57:36 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I seriously hope that you are not kidding, if you are you have some serious issues, if you are not kidding you have some serious issues. Anyway you look at it, you need to seek some help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-07 21:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not "normal" per se, but there is a definite correlation for some people between pain/abuse and sexual excitement. However, it should only be explored within clearly defined limits. Read up on BDSM and see if that describes the type of association you have, and whether your boyfriend would be willing to respect a shared safeword if that's the way you enjoy doing things.
For more information, check the wikipedia link below.
Hope this helps!
2006-08-07 21:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by mpetach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, NO! But, it depends on your past. Ones past has a lot to do with ones future. If one had been beaten and/or mentally abused (called bad names) by a male (or even a female) authority figure when they where younger then chances are it catches up to them when they grow older. I wasn't abused but I was neglected and therefore thought that by them (they were be no means able to be called men) showing me any attention at all that whatever attention they showed me (good or bad) I thought that I should just take it. Even when it nearly cost me my life at age 14. Just be careful. If it gets to where you stop liking it then GET OUT! In fact, warn people about it right now before it gets to that point, just in case. Warn a neighbor, a family member, friend... Someone. Take it from someone who's been there. There are nice guys out there. I know this too. I'm married to one who treats me like a goddess! BTW, I'm only 20.
2006-08-07 21:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Krysti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not normal. you need to either set boundaries beyond which point you want the beating to stop, or you need to get help and find someone who does not beat you, as one day he may go too far and end up killing you. you have to do something about this.
no guy who loves a girl would willingly beat the girl he love.
and no girl with an ounce of self respect should be willing to be beaten.
you need to seek the help of a professional therapist.
but then it does take all sorts in this world and all kinds of fetishes are around, i think one or more answerer's said your fetish seems to be S & M, but the only way to play safely is to set boundaries for the play.
2006-08-07 21:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal.... you'll have to give Me that definition.
I am not condoning wifebeating or verbal abuse but( and this is a biggie) there is a lil thing called consent. and I dont even want to go into how to prove that, but there are women and men alike that are stimulated and aroused by rough physical treatment and what to us seem to be unusualy harsh words. Where does one draw the line? My best advice would be contact National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, Legal Education Outreach Program(ncsfreedom.org) They would be far more likely to help you understand the difference between abuse and affection and they're legal ramifications.
Hope this helps you.
2006-08-07 21:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by mfc795 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called masochism, which is pleasure or gratification gotten through having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self. If he's beating you because you enjoy it, and is willing to stop if you tell him to, then there isn't a problem, but if he's beating you out of anger and doesn't stop at your command then he is just being abusive. There are men who can participate in S&M while still being loving and affectionate, and those are the ones you should strive to find.
2006-08-07 21:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be a sub or masochist. As long as you are careful and know what you are doing, it is your personal choice. If this is something you want to do, you should contact a Dom or Dominatrix to teach both of you proper methods and safeties. Depending on where you live, I had a taxi customer who was a Dominatrix. She may be willing to teach you. She currently lives in Western Missouri. One thing to remember, you are the one in control, not him. You have to learn how to exert that control.
2006-08-07 21:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa.
Never heard a girl say that.
Please receive help now.
It is not normal to enjoy getting beat by a boyfriend.
Talk to a close friend, parent, guardian.
Please get help.
It really sickens me to sit here and see all these girls get beat up by thier boyfriend/husband.
If I could I would totally do something about it.
Do not let him hurt you in any shape or form.
Your better than that.
2006-08-07 21:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's about as normal as it is for men to be beaten by their girlfriends.
2006-08-07 21:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by p_boxter03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is definitely not normal. I think he has you brain washed. You need to seek help immediately or it could get worse. That is no way to have a relationship. Leave him as soon as possible and get help!
2006-08-07 21:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're either the Queen of Masochism or you need professional help. That's not normal at all.
2006-08-07 21:02:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋