Phycially abusive mother?

Question

My mom hits me with power cords,shoes, spatulas leaving welts on my butt, arm, and everywhere else. My mom does beat you for leving a dirty sock in the middle of the floor, or not getting a 4.0 in school though i try hard yet i stil have a 3.0. My mom doesnt let me say anything, i a question her i get wipped with 10 or more swats. i swear when i leave to college im never coming back. and im 16 years old and now a senior in highschool
what should i do? my mom threating that if i do call the police that she will get me worse.
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to let you guys know telling someone is very hard, cause right now i dont have the means to support myself, i completely relay on my moms finacial support, i cant go tell someone cause im scared of being poor and helpless. I though several times in runnign away, but i cant cause i am dependent on my mother, i mean what will happen if i tell someone, will i be put ina foster home?

Answer 1

Call Child Protective Services. By law, they cannot tell your mother who called and made the report. They will investigate and remove you to a better place if they see this is true.

Answer 2

A foster home or a group home has GOT to be better than that! Also, once you tell the authorities, your mother cannot hurt you anymore, however much she might say so, because they will keep you and she separated. And the money thing just cannot be a concern; that's why the taxpayers pay for social services. In an ideal world, it would not be necessary, or in a free country, it would be handled by non-profit foundations. But here we are, we've paid the taxes, so you might as well get some benefit of them.

You do not deserve to be abused. Period. Don't care what your behavior has been, you don't deserve that physical abuse. Please, tell your school counselor what is going on right away!

Answer 3

This is classic child abuse. Basically, she looks for any excuse to hit you and terrorize you. She has you believing that she is your only world and if you tell on her, you have no one else. But why would this change once you go off to college? If anything, you will become more dependent on her financially during those 4 years. What is going to stop her from pulling the plug on your college funding all of the sudden and you end up either back at home where she can beat you up, or you end up in a desperate situation. You are telling us about this on this answer board because you want an answer to help your situation. My advice is to seek help from either a school counselor or a trusted teacher (they have an obligation to report abuse). Since you are a minor, you will be removed from your home by child protective services because it is not a safe place for you to be. Hopefully if you have a grandparent or aunt/uncle or older brother/sister you will be placed in their home. If not, yes you may be placed in a foster home. Your mother needs help as well dealing with her anger/abuse issues. Good luck.

Answer 4

I am so sorry... there are many people you could talk to..1-800-we-prevent (information on how to fight violent crime) This is always a tough situation I understand that you are afraid...no one should have to live like that. Please if she is hurting you don't let it go on. You will probably go to live with a foster family but It can't be harder then what you are going through now. They may put you in a home with other girls who are in the same situation, like a group home...I will not lie to you most kids your age are hard to place in a foster home...do you know anyone who would take you in...that you trust??? Start going to a local Church and find someone you can trust when you know they will take you in... the State will pay that family to take care of you...the state will pay your medical and that family will not be out anything....they will have to go through some classes....but I am sure they would be willing until you are old enough to take care of yourself. Could you get a job.... or would she let you...that way you could stay away from her..do some volenteer work...try to stay away as much as possible. If you are still in School you would be gone most of the day and you could get a job after School. Also this would get a start on saving money to get out on your own. Stay away as much as possible and until you can figure out what is best for you. You will have to work harder to keep your grades up...but, you sound like a very smart girl.... I know you could do it.
May God watch over you through this time....I am so sorry...Hold on I know it can get better.......

Answer 5

First of all, you won't be on the street. Sometimes foster care can be the best thing that can happen to you. Many loving people are foster parents and would love to have you. 2 years is a long time to deal with this...remember...if this is the environment..many times people that are abused become abusers...it is best to stop it now and get emotional help. No one would expect a 16 year old to support herself. Don't listen to your moms threats. Reach out and let someone help you. No one deserves to be physically abused.

Answer 6

It is illegal for your mom to do this to you. Is there a free telephone number you can call (childline or something). It's a charity and you can call anonymously. They won't know who you are but they might be able to give you some advice on how to deal with this. They might be able to give you things to say to your mom to get her to calm down.

Failing that, you do need help. Do you have Grandparents, Aunts or Uncles or even a best friend you can stay with for a while. You mom could very well take thing too far and do you some serious damage. If you really are alone in this situation, then all I can suggest is that you spend as little time with her as possible.

I feel for you in your situation. Good luck!!

Answer 7

you need help!!! have you considered going to your school counselor at school?? yes there may be a chance you would be put into foster care but it sounds like it would be better than what you are in now, you could still go to school you will not be alone and helpless if you talk to the authorities however if you ran away you would be my heart goes out to you my friend but do the right
thing and go to your school counselor/mental health clinic in your town i know telling is very hard but you have taken that ist step and shared it with us so you have taken a step now take it a little further let us know how things come out prayers and thought are with you!!

Answer 8

you have to call the cops or a trusted adult because if you don't than this will go on and on it's not as bad as it seams to live in a faster home because at least you wont get beaten. A parer My Mom Says All the Time That Might help You(God grant me the serenity to accept the things you can not change ,the courage to change the things you can , and the wisdom to know the differences)

Answer 9

Call the police NOW. It will not get worse if you do so; life will get much, much better. You don't deserve to be hurt, and they'll be able to protect you. They might have you live with relatives, or they might put you in a foster home, but either way you'll be about a thousand times better off.

Answer 10

Avoid making her angry, bide your time and bear this so when you're in college...don't come back! Abusive parents have less control over you once you're an adult. You could end up in foster home if you complain so you have to see all your options. My Mom hit me with a bicycle chain most of the time but I waited till I was in college, then I left her totally.