I feel like I'm on the outside and looking in?

Question

I always feel like I am on the outside and looking in. It seems like everone I know is always having fun and doing things with there friends. I sit in my house and do nothing ALL the time. I dont go to the movies, or the beach or anything. It gets really boring. Everyone else is having fun but me, and I dont know what to do. Please help me. I am 15, and just live with my dad and brother.

Answer 1

Its a real bummer to feel like no one wants to be around you and doesn't invite you out to participate in everyone elses activities. ..but so what? You need to really investigate and find out what it is that you love to do, and start networking...kinda find out at school who has the same interests...do you like to fish? That is a hobby that leads you to very nice people who al feel the same way,..now bout collecting baseball cards, or having a collection of a lot of types of collectables, something that can be financially rewarding as well as hooking you up with others that love to collect also, comic books, etc...There is a whole wide world of fun things to do if you search. and a whole bunch of new friends to be made..dont let it get you down,...find a good hobby to get involved with, and the friends will follow. Good luck Sweetie,.wish you the best.

Answer 2

You just have to work with what you've got, and build on that. The best advice I can give you, is to just become a planner. Plan events, call your friends, and arrange some activities. After a while, you won't be the only one making the effort, and your friends will call you more to hang out. Also, pick up some hobbies. Maybe some ...exercise class at the gym... maybe that's more of a girly answer, Um. Getting involved in a Youth Group at church will help. They've got lots of events planned for you (holiday parties, retreats, weekly meetings), and you can meet new ppl. Also, camps are so fun! You should look around and find one for the summer, really good way to meet more ppl. your age! As far as emotionally, try to take on a new perspective, not outsider, but participate more where you can. smile more, be friendly! ^.~

Answer 3

Remember that an empty mind is a devil's workshop. Try to concentrate more on your studies and don't feel depressed. In case you don't feel like mixing with friends, start gardening or cut grass or clean your house to keep yourself busy. Go out and talk with trees and birds around. Play with your brother. The world is full of amusements and fun. Try to push yourself to a library and may be you will find some good friends there and then you will have no time to look back in your life and you will come out of this present loneliness. Don't waste your valuable time by sitting idle at home. Take care and be in good health.

Answer 4

Believe it or not, this isn't an unusual feeling for someone who's 15. Way back when dinosaurs walked the earth and I was your age, I felt the same way.

My very wise mom told me to seek out a person who seemed alone and not happy and focus on helping them feel better about themselves. Doing this will take your focus from "How do people feel about ME?....Why don't I fit in?....What's wrong with ME anyway?" and change it to focusing on how the other person is feeling. "What is interesting about THAT PERSON?....How can I help bring out the potential in THAT PERSON?"...How can I help that other person have fun?"...etc.

Once you lose your self-consciousness, you'll start to feel more comfortable around people and become more accepting of who you are. Go with the flow and be open to new experiences. You'll learn that although there's no way to make everyone in the world like you, the most important person to have like you, is yourself! If you genuinely like yourself, others will feel the same.

Answer 5

have you had something traumatic happen to you lately that has cause you to retreat into your world. i would suggest getting out slowly at first and doing something you like to do. i agree sitting in the house all the time can get boring. if you like physical exercise
try plotting out a course in your neighborhood and jogging not only will it get you outside it will help you clear your head and before long you will not feel like your on thoutside looking in you'll find a friend who enjoys the same interest you do. take care!!!

Answer 6

Dude, if you don't do anything, maybe it is because you don't want to. You may have self-compassion complex, so you'd rather be alone just to be sorry for yourself. Don't be, it won't work and you'll end up with nothing, man. And don't expect someone to invite you to activities. You have a mouth, you have a functional body, participate by yourself.
If your friends seriously don't want to do anything with you, they are not your friends, man. Try to get new friends, you are not the only one of your kind. Try to be more relaxed.