I'vejust reaized I'm being mentally abused by my mother??

Question

Lately I've been noticing I'm not the one I used to be... I'm having REALLY LOW self steem, and I feel as if everything I did was WRONG.
I'm also a self injurer , I've been doing that for more than half my life but now it has gotten worse.
I came to realize my mom is the root of all my problems, since she never lets me express my anger or emotions, and she's allways yelling at me and not letting me speak my mind.
I know the solution to all my problems would be moving out of my house,but I can't cuz I'm only 14 years-old and I don't have any relatives here (They live in another state) and still I think it would be the same living hell as here... so I don't know what to do.... I feel my mom is ruining my life, I've allready tried to talk to her and I showed her my cuts but she didn't give a damn... I feel I'm LOST!!! HELP!!!

Answer 1

You need help. You need outside intervention. Can you talk to a counselor at school? You have a long time left to live with your mother and unless you talk to someone, you might not make it.

Please talk to a counselor at school. It is confidential and he/she will be able to get you the help you so desperately need.

Please let me know that you have gotten help and things are getting better.

Answer 2

Take it easy, don't blame all your problems on your mom. I'm sure she's not the ideal mother but do you think she loves you at all? Maybe this is the way her mother raised her so she doesn't do any better. Your feelings of low self esteem shouldn't come from your mother and you can't blame her for causing them because self confidence is about you not about her. The confidence has to come from within you, not from her. So what if she doesn't let you speak her mind, don't talk to her! Talk to other people, friends, teachers etc. and forget having parents for best friends. Focus on your own development, try to do better at school and focus on college and get involved in sports, a part time job etc. so that you know that you are special and it will raise your confidence. Don't focus so much on your mother's shortcomings because you can't change her but you can change yourself. Also, why do you cut yourelf? You're not hurting anyone but yourself and there's no point showing it to her because it only looks like you're asking for sympathy! Relax and get hold of your school psychologist so you can talk this out.

Answer 3

My Mom also messed me up really bad in the head. Nothing I did was ever good enough. She would scream at me, take her bad moods out on me because of what other people was doing to her, mainly my siblings. I would buy her things and she never once said thank you. I kept on buying and buying hoping I would give her something that she would say a plain thank you. But she never did. I even brought it to her attention and told her that it hurt me. She would always come back with saying that if she ever did anything right by any of us, it would be a miracle. I told her to quit saying that. It came down to me moving back to live with her because she had some health problems. It got even worse. I got so depressed I started thinking of ways that I could commit suicide. So I went to counseling because that just wasn't me, having suicidal thoughts and it scared me. My counselor met my Mom and told me to get the hell away from her. She said that my Mom was one of the most selfish people she had ever met and spoiled. But I just couldn't leave her alone. I stuck it out for 6 years. Me and my Mom had some good times and laughs at times, but not often. Now I have no Mom. She passed away a short time ago. I found her on her bathroom floor dead. Naturally I totally freaked out. Now I am going through all the what if's, ect....Call the suicidal hotline and talk with them about your situation and especially the self injuries. You are doing this because of how your Mom treats you. But try and sit down with her one more time and tell her you just want to talk. Don't fight with her or argue with her. Tell her you love her and would like to talk with her. If she gets hateful, bring it to her attention but not in a hateful way. You only have one Mom sweetie. I know it is hard as hell. But someday, you will have no Mom. Try to work it out before it is too late for both of you. I promise you that if you don't at least try and try hard, you will have so many regrets and be more messed up in the head when God calls her home. I hope everything works out for you, I will be thinking of you ALOT. Hang in there and please call the suicide hot line. I have called them in the past and they really do help. Stop the self injuries because of your Mom. No one is worth that period. PLEASE TAKE CARE.

Answer 4

you have it so beter then me, at least you mom doesnt hit you with power cords,shoes, spatulas leaving you welts on your butt, arm, and everywhere else. at least you mom does beat you for leving a dirty sock in the middle of the floor, or not getting a 4.0 in school though i try hard yet i stil have a 3.0. My mom doesnt let me say anything, i a question her i get wipped with 10 or more swats. i swear when i leave to college im never coming back. and im 16 years old
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to let you guys know tellign someone is very hard, cause right now i dont have the means to support myself, i completely relay on my moms finacial support, i cant go tell someone cause im scared of being poor and helpless. I though several times in runnign away, but i cant cause i am dependent on my mother, i mean what will happen if i tell someone, will i be put ina foster home?

Answer 5

Talk to your school psychologist, school nurse. Maybe they can help you. There is also the possibility of getting into a foster home.
You can look in your phone book under state or county social services. I hope this helps. Where is your father? If you write or call him, could he help?

Answer 6

Your mom is probably not abusing you - its called being a teenager.

Try going to a counselor.

Answer 7

ok Can you please stop cutting your self and try to have a talk with the laws about your mother and how she abused you... and my opinoin your mother is a f***ing B****