If so, why? Do you think it's because they are simply "just not good enough"?
2006-08-07 19:26:47 · 12 answers · asked by munkees81 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
everyone despises their in laws even if they are good people and its only because they aren't your family..you grew up your whole life in a different way of life..and become part of some one else family isn't as easy as it seems...you may get along to a point but you always think what the hell are they doing..why do they do that...how come you dont celebrate like this..your family is your family and your accustomed to what they do and how they dot hings....you just have to try to get used to how your in laws live life....its hard but one is able to accomplish....if not just put up with them....you married into the family doesn't' mean you have to become part of that family..but that also doesn't mean you can be disrespectful as well
2006-08-07 19:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How can the parent of your spouse NOT be good enough? You married their child???..
I highly respected my mother in law - and unfortunately she passed away when I was pregnant with my son. I know that she would have been a HUGE support for me and my son. I miss her and so does her son (my now ex-husband). I often wonder if she did not leave us, what would have happened between my ex-husband and I. I still consider her my mother in law to this day - she was a very good person.
My father in law was and is very demanding and comes from a very very conservative 'old tradition' family. He is the typical 'it has been like this since Columbus was born'.. etc.. I had a hard time with him, but thinking back he is just very passionate about his family and their values.
I guess my point is to you - it seems that you 'think' they are not good enough. If one thinks in-laws are not good enough, then perhaps they married the wrong person - for the 'in-laws' did raise the spouse in question. The children will be influenced by these people.
Eventually, one will be an 'inlaw'. I know I would be insulted if my future 'daughter in law' thought I was not good enough - I am raising and teaching my son his values, manners etc.... To have a person say 'that is not good enough' would be rude, insensitive and downright stupid IF they think they will have a good relationship with me.
I will always remember how my mother was, and my mother in law was - always be respectful, and always be there for your family - including the 'in laws' - for one day you will be in that situation, and I highly think you will not want to be known as 'not good enough'.
2006-08-08 03:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sam_I_Am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooooooo. They are different and at times difficult. But I love them and appreciate what they have to teach me about their heritage etc. ....they are Jewish. I am not. But I truly enjoy participating in holidays. There is always mother in law stuff........but it is to be expected. We married their baby boys! LOL But I would never feel they aren't good enough! They raised my husband to be the wonderful man he is! Good luck!
2006-08-08 02:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ambervisions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced him!
He had an overpowering Jewish mom and I wouldn't put up with the Mom worshipping and always feeling less than. Gents, when you get married, you leave your old home (and mom) to cleave
to your new wife and new life. - new family. That doesn't mean that you can't seek advise from your mom and love her, etc. But if she really, really irks your wife, you need to listen to your wife.
Or you will end up DIVORCED like me. ..Yee ha! I'm free!!!
Now I call them my OUTLAWS. And I don't have to deal with them anymore! YEE-ha~
2006-08-08 02:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despise is too strong a word. I merely find them difficult because they are rude, uncouth, ill-mannered, and definitely ill-spoken.
2006-08-08 02:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't like them because they thought I was not good enough.
2006-08-08 11:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really liked my late-mother-in-law, and my father-in-law wasn't very involved with his family, but what I saw of him was okay.
2006-08-08 02:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I rather like them. Though his sisters behavior leaves something to be desired.
2006-08-08 02:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they were like hell to me , but didn't show it till the last time , she was a rose on a tree of thorns .
2006-08-08 02:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my inlaws were interfering with our lives. they were part of the problem not sollution.
2006-08-08 02:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋