My coworkers say I criticize and trash everyone I talk about?

Question

Should that be cause for concern?

Is that a bad habit? Whenever someone knows someone and talk about them to me, they say I trash them.

Interesting. I just like to tell it like it is.

Answer 1

Don't gossip or talk trash at all. It just causes alot of misery to do so. I say "if you are not part of the problem or part of the solution, then mind your own business".

Answer 2

What makes you think that you know "how it is" that your able to "just tell it"?

Your opinion is your opinion and you have every right to it but there comes time for some restraint and "watching your P's and Q's" when you don't want to come off as being a "thinks they know it all".

Yes it is a bad habit and bad manners to "talk about" anyone let alone pick out someone's trash for everyone to see.

Keep your head out of the garbage can and tend to your own yard because people will see you as a dumping ground and you'll never get yourself out of the dump as far as the workers around you are concerned.

Get smart and throw some compliments about the place try to fix your image because after all that is what everyone thinks and you want to be thought of in a better way or you wouldn't be asking this question.

..............think about it..................

Answer 3

Ah yeah....
That is cause for concern, only IF you want a life....
Meaning if nobody likes you, no matter how hard you are... it's gonna lead in way or time to depression.
Then many more darker doors will open...
Down deeper darker roads....
Sooner or later, our humanity catches up with all of us.

Haven't you ever heard, "Somethings are better left unsaid..."
There's actually some truth there...

Take what you know about people and use it for what it is.

The fact that trash people, may lead others to think you are shallow or insecure... ~WHATEVER~ it isn't a good thing.

I had a friend that sounds something like you...
I was her friend because I felt bad for her.
Every time I took her somewhere people would ask to NEVER bring her again or want to leave because of her.
Everywhere we went she ended up in debates with strangers over petty stuff....
I also noticed anyone of her friends she had a tiff with she was never friends again with and most of the time she was in the wrong, clearly.
We are talkin 5, 10 year long friendships....
While everyone else said forget it, let's move on she had the inability to accept her own wrong doing & had to be friend you.
After all, after the things she did... it's plain to see...

She now has found one other loathesome person, who thinks the fact she drives Cadilac EXT put everyone else in the trash bin. They make fun of everyone & even go as far as to mock people.

Funny we are tryin to figure out is.... if we all disappeared but them 2, what would they do. With no one else to study for mocking reasonsor any one else to compare themselves so they cold feel "higher" would they even exist?

Their lives are very parasitic & pathetic...
Nobody likes them, we fake it to get by... sometimes exaggerate.
And call it God or Karma, they have always got some CRAZY drama going on in their life (I say life cuz they really share just 1).

If that sounds good to you... You are right where you belong.
Hope you find your partner in crime.
These 2 got together one time before & had a little tiff but since the prettier one is more devious and knew she bend my friend, she did...
She cosigned for her car, so now they have to stay close.
They would stab each other in heart beat though....
I think they know they burned A LOT of bridges and are just gonna have to be happy on Hellfire Island together.

Answer 4

It sounds like gossiping. That's not the way to win friends. When a person is hired for a job, they are hired because there is a need to fill an opening in the company. They needed you when they hired you. Are you and co-workers creating low morale at your work place. NOT GOOD if you are. The boss is always watching for personnel that are of value. They are looking at who is the best at making the (the bosses) job run more smoothly. If you are that person, then you are the first person he will think of when there is a higher paying job open. If your a trouble maker, who may have the most skills for the opening, may be passed up for someone with less qualifications and can get along and boost morale.

Answer 5

I do think it can be a bad and offensive habit . You never know who is listening to your conversation. Sometimes it may help if you take a step back and look at your self to see what you can improve on . No one wants to hear you beat the name of others down all the time. It's not professional and you don't have to put your two cent in a conversation because others are doing it. Sounds like you still have some growing up to do.

Answer 6

There is a difference between "telling it how it is" and being overly negative. For the sounds of things, either you are overly negative or you are at least perceived that way.

Personally, I would say to improve this perseption try not offering advice or at least wait until someone asks you what you think about it.

I am a manager and some of my employees were getting the feeling that the only time I talked to them was when they were doing something wrong, so I started also pointing out when they did somethign correctly to encourage them to repeat the same results.

Answer 7

1. I like to keep a positive atmosphere in my life, so I try to stay away from people who do this. You might find yourself without too many friends after a while.
2. If you talk bad about other people in my hearing, you might talk bad about me when I'm not around. That makes it so I'm less likely to trust you.

Seriously, "telling it like it is" isn't always talking bad about people, because people have good points too. It's just that you're choosing to point out the bad points. If this is so serious that people (i.e. your coworkers) are complaining about it, you might want to change your ways. You might even benefit from the help of a good mental health professional. It's hard for people to be around someone who's negative all the time. I hope you don't end up lonely.

Answer 8

You may see things in a unique perspective but in a stronger tone. If you see things differently than others, that may be good or bad.

Just saying "I tell it like it is", doesn't make you right. If you say something that is evident and true, but hurts someone's feelings or reputation, you are still wrong. Not wrong in description, but wrong for saying it. You don't have to say every little thing that pops into your head.

The best rule of thumb for adults is to say only things that would bring the reputation of that person upward and make them look better in everyone's eyes. This pays honor to them and gives you great credibility since the only thing you say about people is good and positive things.

If you don't have a positive thing to say about a person, just hang back. Don't say anything, you don't have to. It is even easier to say nothing! Good luck...

Answer 9

Can I tell it to you like it is?
YOU ARE AT WORK. Work is not a place to gossip, take sides, or talk about Julio at the schoolyard fence smoking a joint. This is the REAL WORLD. Don't act like you're back in high school by participating in this gossipy she-said-he-said nonsense. You are getting paid to do a job, not to be the office watercooler.
If you must "trash" or "tell it like it is"..can't it wait for after 5? You really don't want to risk your job or future recommendations because you couldn't tell white lies, now do you? Sometimes we have to tuck our tail between our legs and accept work gossip - this can give us amazing storytelling abilities at the bars later - anonymity provided, of course!

Answer 10

We all have to live in this world together and we should learn to show restraint. Not every girl that looks good are you just going to jump on and make love to. Not every guy that you think looked at you wrong are you gonna just fight that very moment. no. we must all use restraint - that is the basis for civilised society.
The workplace is no exception. In fact, the reason people get a raise or let go is usually stemming from their "acheivements" based soley on working together with the team and helping to unify the workplace.

gotta show lots of retraint. lots of people that wear those signs, but still gotta show restraint!

Answer 11

No you don't tell it like it is ,you belittle anyone and everyone
You have inferiority complex..or you think the world owes you..
get a life, and don't look down on people,you find that you are being criticize and trashed for your filthy habit