My parents are constantly fighting. Need help!?

Question

I guess I'm used to it but I hate it! I've tried to bump into it and say stop, but they dont. My mom always starts it. She accuses my dad of cheating. they always talk about stuff that has happened in the past, I'm guessing its happened more than 10 years ago but she still brings it up and then ding ding round 1000 starts. She is always snooping, and accusing and goodness. My dad says he wants a divorce, but he wants her to get it set up because she actually got fired from her job because she always called him like every 10 min to see what he was doing. So her snooping made her lose her job. I dont know. I dont want to take sides, but I want this to stop. This fighitng has been happening for years now (thats non stop) I feel like I just wanna get the divorce papers for them. Is that bad? How do I deal w/ this? I already have enough stress w/ school, SAT's, AP tests etc... I dont think I can take another year. HELP!

Answer 1

Wow. If u think u r strong enough, try talking to ur mom or dad (whoever ur closest to) during a peaceful moment. Let them know how this is affecting u. Explain that their fighting is causing you distress, concern, and ultimately is damaging how u will look at relationships in the future. If they aren't hearing u out, then tell them that U want to c a counselor b-cos of what's going on. That may be the light that needs to be shed on their arguing. Tell them how it makes u feel (angry, hurt, confused, sad). U'll never get anywhere in life by running away from ur problems (especially parents). They will always b a part of ur life. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I am not a psychiatrist. But I feel you should not allow such things to get in to your nerve. You have to stop it at some point. Since this is happening for a long time I think you have to take a harsh step & should have the courage to stop it by any means. It may sound cruel to get a divorce for them, but if no other go we have to do it. Else consider them as neighbours than your parents. There are a lot of other things in this world to think about. Be happy..

Answer 3

i feel for you, my parents faught since i was born on everything under the moon. and i kept telling my mother things that was mean that my dad would do like breaking stuff in the house and taking things out on us, she would not believe me even though she new his attitude, she was not the one in the wrong 98% of the time. and now i am 25 and they are just getting threw the process of a divorce, so dont count on it happening to soon, i would stay at a library or friends house till late then come home and eat and go to bed till you graduate and then get a job and leave! good luck, that is what i did. actualy i went a step further , i put myself into job corps, they let you get a high school diploma, and training in lots of different fields, you can live on or off campus and it is free. if your under 18 you just need you parents signiture to go there, they have lots of things to do there, like fieldtrip stuff like skating rinks, or 6 flags magic mountain, they have recs, wich is where the pool tables are ya know a recreational center, a cafateria with all you can eat, a gym, an arts and crafts center. its cool you should try it if you realy cant stay at home, tell your parents that thier fighting is keeping you from being able to do what you need to do and if they will help you by letting you go to job corps, i got my diploma in three months and six months for my vocational skill.

Answer 4

No, no longer all parents combat like that! parents disagree often times nevertheless! My parents disagreed often times, yet most of the time they have been very loving to each. Hugs & kisses & i like yous to one yet another and to us! ( I actually have a older brother and youthful sister) My parents have been married for 38 years this Nov. and that i take advantage of there marriage as a rolemodle for my very own!!! It appears like they have an excellent sort of artwork shrink out to shelter all 6 of you! because of the fact the oldest you have to be the rolemodle for the different 5. Do what you're informed. help with the others and around the domicile! stay in college and get into college. You adult men are to no longer blame on your parents scuffling with! So, communicate up and tell your parents that it hurts your emotions whilst they say issues like that!

Answer 5

I feel for you Hun this is no place to be growing up it is hard enough dealing with school..You need to step in and put your foot down and tell them enough is enough I can't take you 2 fighting and arguing all the time ..Tell them how it makes you feel to me they both sound like they need counseling and your mom really needs to stop nagging and ragging on your father can't she just forget about the past cause if your dad was cheating don't you think he wouldn't come home to your mother..I wish you luck ..

Answer 6

You have to tell them you love them both..... You should say that if the fighting keeps up that you'll be leaving. I grew up in that environment and I know how crappy it can be. My parents never actually split up until I was 19..... It was a long 19 years waiting for the fighting to stop. You'll get through it though. Ask them to go to counselling, and that your going to see one also. Maybe they just need to have a real conversation about their feelings. I don't know what else to say but GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

My parents fought for years (18) in front of myself and four other siblings before getting a divorce. I'm sorry you have to endure the stress. Sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. Have they tried seeing a Phychologist? As upsetting as it is, you have to find a way to tune them out. Remember, you will move out and move on. They are very selfish or they wouldn't be fighting in front of you. Their problems are not yours to fix.

Answer 8

You can't do anything. I know you want to but the only thing that will make it stop is if your parents grow up and stop acting like idiots.

I'm from a broken home myself. They split when I was 15. Trust me, you can't do anything. You try to keep out of it. Though it might help if you talk to the school counsellor.

Answer 9

i'm sorry for what's happening to you...no, its not bad for you wanting it to be all over because its causing you frustration, and you have a lot to deal with...i see that you're a smart kid, and all this is affecting your study life, because you have to worry and hear all the shouts (i understand how you feel)....i think your dad may have done something to your mom to cause her to feel this way...because i don't think moms just say those kind of things or feel that insecure for no reason....even if it is 10 years ago, the pain of being cheated on still hurts badly....and it leaves effects, such as insecurity....i don't think your mom wants a divorce since she's not doing anything about it, and neither does your dad since he keeps telling your mom to do it....if he wanted one, he would get one soon or right away....i think you need to sit your parents down and tell them how its affecting you....tell them that they need to work it out and TALK it out, not YELL it out....because its not just bad for their relationship, but for you too....it must be horrible for you since you can't take another year of it....i'm sorry this is happening to you, and i hope it works out well.....

Answer 10

okay well if they start fighting again scream out as loud as you can divorce already and throw something like your really pissed off hopely this will help them realize their fighting is really affecting you then go out if you can for a walk go to a friends house and take some time to forget about it later you come back and talk to them tell them that all that fighting is making you insane they should seek a counselor to help them or separate i know that sucks but having them fight is worse good luck to you