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My bf and I have been going out for 8 months we have been doing really well but tonight he called me after he got back from his camping trip and he was like u and I we need to work out and I was like ok why and hees like cuz we both need to lose weight well I have been really trying to lose weight but the doc said that I shpuldnt worry bout it cuz I;m only 14 I'mm 5'7 and I weigh 170lbs and Matt (my bf) said that he wants me to be a lil skinnier he sadi I'm not fat but he would like that. So then we hung up the phone and he said to cal him back in a hour so I was like sure ok so I did well by this time I was really pi$$sed cuz he said I needed to lose weight and I told him that he if he duznt like me for me than he can go and find somebody else I dont care so then he hung up the phone and I called back and he answered and I was like why did u hang up the phone and he said cuz u are mean and then he started sayin how my best friend was pretty hot and I said well shes skinny enough for

you and he said that that really hurt his feelings and I was like I'm really sorry and he was really pissed and so was he so I'm having a really bad night I have been crying is there andybody out there who can give me some support I am so upset like as I'm writing this I am crying and I guess my question is what should I do and how can I feel better.
and plz dont be mean i know it sounds like I have a selfesteem prob but I dont i'm just really upset.

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I wanted to add this cuz i think its neccesary my bf weighs like 150but hes cute and i'm pretty happy with the way I look I dont care what ppl think oh and the doc sadi that I cant lose weight cuz I'm gonna get taller and if I try now I'll be skin and bone.

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Answer 1

My husband and myself are both overweight . We both know that we should be several sizes smaller , and we try to encourage each other. Your boyfriend is disrespecting you , and you do not deserve to be treated this way. I am thinking the best thing for you to do is to dump him , and find out what makes you happy. Remember , we do not need anyone else. We will all do fine by ourselves. Do you think you are overweight ? If you are not happy with yourself , than it should be your choice to do something about it, and not his. He doesn't sound like the kind of person that you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Good luck !

Answer 2

5'7 and 170 isn't too bad! I mean, if you were shorter(5'0), then that would be a problem.

Understand that your boyfriend only wants for you to lose weight to benefit you. If it were an insult, then he wouldn't offer to lose weight too.

I'm a guy, and i wouldn't have guts to tell my girlfriend that, because i would know that my girlfriend would take it badly.

But i can tell that he said that in a nice way, because he really cares. He had guts, which means he wanted to help you and himself out, not make you feel bad.

So just remember that your boyfriend is trying to be nice, not rude. If you thought he was being mean, tell him, and im sure he will apologize. Stay with him, and work it out. Take it as a nice thing, not him being mean.

What he said about your best friend being hot was probably said out of anger. So don't worry!

If he apologizes sincerely after you tell him this (that he hurt your feelings), then that means he was trying to help you out, and didn't mean to hurt your feelings.

If he doesn't, than just dump him.

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dump the guy! he doesn't really love u...

Dump that guy if he does not like you at your weight , you'll lose it in your own time. not his time frame. I think he is a dominating kind of thinking and that is not always good. you did the right thing in telling him about his problem, it is not your, it never was! it is his and as long as he has that problem he will alway lose out on the girl (You) and tell your friend about him too put the shut door on him LOL

145 pounds I think is idea but your a better judge *

love ya and good luck [e-mail]

also do not do meth, that s h i t will mess you up faster then you can imagin it did my friend she can not carry on a conversation with out stopping to think of what to say like a minute before it comes to her. forget this guy that said this about do meth cr-ap







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you definitely need to lose weight. dont be another fat ugly american damnit. have some goddamn self control. DO METH, I DONT CARE HOW U DO IT, LOSE WEIGHT!

Answer 4

When you get "off" the suggestion that commencing him up will make a change you're flawed. He already has unfolded, you simply do not see it nor can also be with it. His smile stated all of it.. You feel he needs to be a chatter field or some thing. You be with him the best way he's and he'll ultimately and undoubtly speak your ear off. Invite him out for a sizzling fudge sundae after which keep on in your seat!

Answer 5

Girl he is looking for a way out.give it too him....he is trying to make you feel less then thewoman u r .be happy with yourself and if u want too lose weight then do it for u and if he is already talking about how hot another girl is then he is a dog.if he walks like a dog barks like a dog then he is a dog.drop him now and save your self some heartache down the road
good luck

Answer 6

dont listen to that rob s guy
im sorry that this guy hurt u by that but if he really did love then he would have never said that. I know this is hard to hear but there is someone else for u. Even if it means being alone for a while there is someone for u and this guy isnt it.
Good luck

Answer 7

170 is pretty big for your height and age....i would say you should weigh around 130 so yes you do need to work out and watch what you eat but you dont need some d*ick telling you what to do...dump his a*ss and lose the weight for yourself then rub it all over in his face every time he sees your little skinny a*ss....at 14 and weighing 170 you are on a road to obesity in adulthood....start taking care of yourself now...i am 5' 4" and i weigh 120 and i am 5 months pregnant...before i got pregnant i weighed 115 and i thought i needed to lose like 5 pounds still.....he is right but f*uck him and do it for yourself

Answer 8

well, first calm down and take a deep breath.try not to get so up set over it.hes the one that will be loosing out if he leaves you.you sound like a very sweet and good hearted young lady.and l think you deserve allot better. someone who will see you as you are, not the size you are.my name is cobra, and lm the one who writes all the poems on here.so if you would like me to write you a special poem, justlet me know ok,

Answer 9

That guys a jacka$$... seriously.. he's just a shallow a$$hole... I'm surprised it lasted 8 months.. Tell him to shove his standards where the sun doesn't shine and find someone who's as much of a pr!ck as he is.

Answer 10

i know it's easy to say that dump him but u should know that he aint love u for u. he love u for he thing that he want u to be but NOT U. i have to get this right. my ex-boyfriend when we r still together, he told me that he feel kinda disappointed about my look cuz in the picture i look prettier than in real person. it mean, he aint love me for me but love the person who he want me to be. so i think u should find someone else. he's not WORTH it.