im gonna try to put as much info as possible. so somehwere in april, i really like this girl. i even asked her out pretty stupidly. left a note and all. couple days later, shes in fl and leaves a text saying "she has too many thigns going on and she cant be with anyone righ tnow." now of course i was hurt but i didnt show it at all. i got better though throught my frosh year, but it just wasnt the same. we got really close again and i even began to like her. suddenly freakin today the worst possible thing happened. she just started dating htis other guy that she was really close too. and to think i had the chance? like i didnt care at first over the summer, but now i feel like crap that she didnt choose me and seh chose him. and this girl is like the first girl ive fell for this bad. shes amazing and its so tough saying for me to forget her. yea i made a promise awhile ago after she sent the txt, that if she goes out with someone else, i shouldnt give her a chance anymore. what do ido?
2006-08-07 18:02:05 · 4 answers · asked by some jersey kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only fools will fight a war they cannot win; it is wise to retreat when needed.
dont be scared to pull back, its better than to keep spending your heart and energy over something that'll never happen. this girl doesn't respect the fact that you care for her, and so it's the same as hugging a stuffed animal - it will not hug back. i know this'll hurt, but keep telling yourself, "i must follow logic over my heart right now."
those who says "as long as you believe and follow your heart, anything can happen." that is 100% untrue. things dont happen just because you "believe."
so my advice, if not obvious, is to just let go. btw, you sound like you're in either middle or high school. you have A LOT MORE ppl to meet, and believe me, once you get to college, whew, a lot of girls for you to see. dont worry about this one girl. take your hurt, and learn from your mistake.
learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.
feel better.
2006-08-07 18:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind that things do happen for a reason. It is a sign that this girl wasn't the right one for you. She shouldn't have sent mixed messages to you like that to begin with. She should've been honest and told you that she liked you as a friend and not keep leading you on like that. Your feelings are hurt and that is normal. What goes around, comes around and if you want to be in her life, get a "life" of your own. Keep yourself busy by doing the things you love and try to do whatever you can to take your mind off of her. The right girl will come along and before you know it, you will forget all about her. I hope my advice helps. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-08 01:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same way in school. i later started liking the boy who fell for me. it was to late for me then. i havent seen him for 8 years, but i have a husband and 3 kids. things happen for a reason. if it was meant to b it will happen, but one day u will look back and see what i mean. good luck.
2006-08-08 01:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by kimmy209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened was not the "worst possible thing" that could happen. Move on!
2006-08-08 01:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋