I kinda screwed up big time. No it wasnt anything illegal, but to them it might as well have been. My parents left for the weekend for my dad's 20th high school reunion and I was left home alone with my sister, brother and cousin. My cousin asked if I wanted to go ATV'ing with him and being a thrill seeking teenager I gladly accepted (besides, it was the last weekend of summer) When we rented to ATV's he asked me not to tell my parents because he would tell them at an appropriate time. Well we were trying to find a spot and so I called my dad to ask if he knew how to get to my old racetrack. He told me and said "Just look around and then go back home" I said okay. Anyway we went out and had some fun with them and when my paernts got back they asked me about my sunburn. I told them that I was outside all day playing. Then my mom says "BS I know you were out ATV'ing" and then asked me as to why I had lied about it. Anyway they are all but thrilled and I am so devestated that I messed up.
2006-08-07 17:59:53 · 10 answers · asked by amshamah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You've already realized the first step by knowing you did wrong. Kudo's to you! Being thruthful will ALWAYS win out. Tell your parents that you are devastated by what you did. Come clean with them and apologize. The next thing you will have to do is earn back thier trust, one baby step at a time.This means you will HAVE to be accountable to the inth degree with them until they are comfortable in trusting you again. In your mind, it will be a pain in the butt and really annoying! But I'm telling you it's necessary to gain back thier trust..............this from a 44yr old single mom of a 15yr old boy and a 9yr old girl. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 18:17:34 · answer #1 · answered by Janet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After you do something to make your parent's doubt you it will take a bit for them to trust you in that situation again. They probably wouldn't have been as upset if you would have told them the truth although they would still be upset at least they would know you wouldn't lie to them. Tell your parents that you know you messed up and shouldn't have lied to them but you want to rebuild their trust and remember they didn't tell you to go home to be mean but because one you were responsible for your siblings and two they were out of town what would have happened if you would have been injured? But don't worry the damage is not permanant. When I was 16 my parents left me at home alone for three days while they went to visit family and me and my friends decided to throw a party at the house. When they got home we had it all cleaned up but they still found out and although for awhile they questioned me on everything the did slowly start to trust me again so see all kids mess up and it will just be one more thing you will have heads up on when YOU are the parent.
2006-08-07 18:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you, i feel you, i dunno but from now on tell the truth , when your parents ask where you are tell them with deatail. clean the house when you dont have to,do chores or other things around the house, here's a big tip. I suggest you do it before your mom gets home because when she gets home she'll see all the work you've done and she will be happy because 1.she wont have to do it 2. you thought about her, and if she asks y just say because i know all the work you do and i wanted to help out, just be good and before you know it your parents will be talkin about how great of a son they have, and you will have regained thier trust, it takes more than one day and dont mess up again !
pce.
2006-08-07 18:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow her regulations heavily. stay off the internet, stay off the cellular telephone. ask for forgiveness in writing. Make it a real apology, no excuses, admit to doing incorrect, clarify why it relatively is incorrect, take your punishment gracefully. do no longer under any circumstances, communicate it including your mom except she brings it up. mothers and fathers do no longer go with to be pestered and we are able to be only as obdurate as a teenager. teach you're to blame in different techniques. help with housework without being asked. not at all circulate everywhere without letting her comprehend first. constantly be living house on time. Attend college on a daily basis and constantly do your homework. teach her you may nicely be trusted in those techniques and finally, she would be waiting to discern which you have discovered your lesson and are waiting to act greater grown up.
2016-12-11 04:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you need to do- Start doing whatever you say.
Stop lying. Start being more responsible. (I once knew a child who was worse than you, but she would help around the house, if a friend of hers came to visit and helped, too.) Install a camera, and have it watch and record everything you do, especially when you're doing somethin that you said, you would do. Stop doing things that your parent's don't want you to do, until you move out.
2006-08-07 18:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't mind hearing from a Grammy with 13 grandkids. Everything you said here, say to them. Ya know your not such a bad kid when you feel you messed up and you know and admit you was wrong. If they are good parents they will appreciate you coming to them and talking it out. So heres a hug to start you off.
2006-08-07 18:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're concerned and feel remorseful is more than enough. Your parents should be proud that you are willing to make amends with them in some way. You're one step ahead of the game.
Just be honest next time! And if they don't let you do something, respect that and don't overstep your bounds. Good luck!
2006-08-07 18:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm real sorry that the relationship your parents have created with you encourages you to sneak behind their backs and lie to them.
i was raised like that by my parents and i, like you, found it necessary to sneak and lie. they, not you, had the power to teach you better and they didn't. but since there isn't much trust and respect between them and you, thanks to their inadequate parenting, i'd say all you can do is try to be as honest and trustworthy as possible from now on - even tho you were trained to be disrespectful and dishonest.
2006-08-07 20:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize for lying and offer to do some extra chores around the house. be on your best behavior and anytime there is an opportunity to do what you're told, do it without complaining.
2006-08-07 18:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by tamitones1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk honestly in all things. DO NOT LIE EVER. Walk in integrity when no one is looking. It will take time, but it will be worth it. Once you regain their trust, DO NOT BREAK IT AGAIN.
2006-08-07 18:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋