that's all he freaking wants and i;m only 16 and he's 17
he's a bit aggressive
any way i could distract him?
2006-08-07 17:41:09 · 40 answers · asked by jenny lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, we haven't had sex before and we've been together for about a month
2006-08-07 17:55:08 · update #1
This is unfortunately one of the downsides to dating teenagers. :( Once they've had a taste of sex, they can't wait to get more.
Consider getting involved in physical activities like sports or other outdoor activities; they get the blood flowing and shift the focus away from the genitalia to the other extremities. Plus, it's a bit hard to try to have sex if you're both biking along through the streets.
Get him out of the bedroom, and into more public settings where it's less appropriate to engage in sexual behaviour (note this means movies as dates aren't such a great idea, since furtive sex in the back of dark movie theatres is even more annoying than furtive sex in a bedroom). Get him used to having fun doing things besides having sex; if he's got half a brain, he'll come to realize he can have fun with you in more than one way. Right now, he's got the solid association that fun time with you == sex, which is exactly *not* the association you want. Instead, it needs to be "I'm a fun person to be with. Occasionally, sex might be a part of that--but that's not the only reason you enjoy being with me."
If it turns out the only reason he wants to spend time with you is for the sex, then at least you've found out early on he's a bit too shallow to do more than wet your ankles in, and it's time to look for someone with a bit more substance.
Good luck!
2006-08-07 17:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't understand if you have already had sex with him, or anyone else before...but regardless, if you do not want to than you do not have to. That is the most important thing to remember.
Hormones are a very big part of a teenage boy's thought process, but his behvaior is a choice. He needs to keep his urges in check, but you also need to be honest with him about your feelings.
You can't stop him from thinking about sex all of the time, but he should be able to control his approaches on the topic. You should not be made uncomfortable. If you are, it is the sex he wants and not your love. You are young and will meet many men that will want you, this is just a boy. You are allowed to be choosey.
Hopefully the man you choose will be your husband!
2006-08-07 17:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by hiptobesquare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you're thinking. Tell him that you are feeling that the only reason why he goes out with you is for the sex. He needs to take you out for dinner, movies and do fun things with you, too.
Your boyfriend has a healthy libido- there's nothing wrong with that. But, he needs to learn to comprimise, too. You are on
birth control, aren't you? Good girl. Thinking about sex all the time is what guys do. The aggresive part worries me about your boyfriend. If he gets too aggressive, you may want to find another boyfriend who is more to your liking. I'd hate to see him get violent.
Good luck.
2006-08-07 17:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray, PRAY , PRAAAAAY!!!!
No really, just tell him you are not as interested in sex as much as he is right now.
You are too young to get stuck with a kid and he most definitely does not want to have to pay child support till the kid is 18.
A pregnancy right now would RUIN BOTH your lives.
If it gets to the point that you think he is ONLY after sex, dump him.
You have a lot of living to do ahead of you and will have other boyfriends.... at your age, breaking up will not hurt you and maybe he will snap out of it.
Just between me and you, honey...
It's his hormones. Puberty, ya know.
Tell him to go in the bathroom and take care of it himself, or get a girlfriend who's an easy lay... or as the rest of us call them...
a sIut.
Good luck and I will pray, PRAY, PRAAAAAY for you.
2006-08-07 17:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jeezuss Jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the ******. Aggressive? That's not aggressive that's rape. Kick him in the nuts. Get rid of him. Do you want a kid at this age? I hope not. You have plenty of time and a lot of growing up to do. As for him, he just wants to get laid. Most all of 17 year old BOYS do.
2006-08-07 17:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by George S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea the only way to distract him is a .357 magnum to the side of the head he's a teenage boy what else is going to be on his mind.
2006-08-07 17:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him and let him know why. There's more to a relationship than sex and he needs to understand that. If he respected you, he would understand your limits. He is not respecting you. Say bye bye now.
2006-08-07 17:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look may be your boyfriend want only sex from you. I think You have to check it first. If he still think about sex all the time than you should change your boyfriend becuase friend mean friend. friendship is not for sex. you can not define it. If your are looking for new boyfriend your most welcome. I am Rahul. you can mail me at rawatsinghlalit@yahoo.co.in
2006-08-07 17:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by lalee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him to a hooker.
No, really, 18 is a guy's sexual peak - just wait until next year.
Break up with him so he can find someone more compatible.
2006-08-07 17:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't distract a guy that age....and if he doesn't respect and care for you enough to tone it down, you should consider dumping him.
2006-08-07 17:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋