Should i have sex before marriage?

Question

i am somewhat religious...what are the consequences from God if i do? and does God really want us to wait for marriage?

Answer 1

Here's a rash reason why to wait...

Do you see how all the rest of us are so confused?
Because we got hot & bothered at some point & gave into our wants.....
Which is fine but it causes confusion.
Sex is intimate, it's 2 bodies joined at the middle....
The skin there is very thin but full of nerves....
LOVE is often confused with LUST....
It can trick you and make you think things.
Look at the rest of us that gave in, we fall in & out of love so fast.
Most the time we find out out it wasn't love but the sex was good.
Only today, it can kill you or leave a scar or something nasty...

The actual hail fire from God is neither here nor there, this is a choice you make for yourself in life. God's just God, He doesn't leave or smack back... just be aware of the risks & the Truth.

The Advantage:
Your sex life will be the best life you've ever had because it is all you will ever know. As a couple be open in the bedroom experience each other to the fullest, discover together. Don't get caught up in religious rif-raf.....

If you made it this far, I'd try my best to hold off just for the novelty of saying I did.... Not to many people these days can say that.

Answer 2

First of all sex really isn't what it's cracked up to be. I mean it's great but it's best as a developing process between two people. Secondly by having sex before your married it affects your marriage sex is an important dynamic of your relationship, if you've had sex with other people you'll have expectations that your spouse may not be able to meet. And it will be harder to developer your sex life together because you've "practiced" with someone else.

Finally the most important thing is truly believe sex not only involves a physical and emotional connection it also involves a spiritual connection. If you connect with more then one person it will do damage on a spiritual level.

The most successful relationships are built from the ground up. it's much healthier to build your relationships on the emotional and spiritual fronts, which are much more dependable and longer lasting and then add the sexual afterward. However if you don't have the clear guideline no sex before marriage your hormones will trick you and make you think you are ready to have sex when you really aren't;t

It's just safer for the relationship to make sure your relationship is healthy enough on the emotional and spiritual level to make a life long commitment then work on the sexual which even more then the emotional and spiritual I assure ( as someone who's been married 5 years) it will have it's ups and downs.

Answer 3

You are probably thinking that the potentially adverse consequences are STDs or an unexpected pregnancy. And, if you take care to avoid those then, "what's the problem?" Right?

Well, the problem might not be so obvious. When a person waits for marriage they are able to share themselves more fully. Do you know anyone who has been divorced and then took those bad experiences into a 2nd marriage only to have that one fail also. The same type of thing happens with sex. Premarital sex damages your future sexual relationship with your future spouse. If she is pure and you are not, then she knows that you did not think enough of her to wait. If she also is not pure, then both of you will bring baggage into your sex life. Do you want the problems or thoughts of others in bed with you? Sex should be so much more than just physical. It is a sharing of your love. You cannot fully share with her, something that you already gave away to another.

Answer 4

That's ultimately your decision, but it is the general consensus that it's wrong. Of course, in the world we live in it's hard to find people who wait until marriage. I had sex before marriage and I regret it. I wish I could take it back but I can't. Remember, once you do it, you can't get back your innocence. I'm sure as long as you're not "weird" a girl would be EXCITED to find a guy who's actually STILL a virgin.

They'll know you're a good man with self control and strong beliefs. They'll know that you're not rapped up in today's cultural obsession with sex, drugs, money, and power. All of which is VERY UnChristian.

Good luck my friend.

By the way, a lot of these people are NOT your friends. They are speaking the devil's words and trying to decieve you. Knowing that God will forgive you is not an excuse to sin!!!! GOD invented marriage. And don't worry about the girl being bad in bed, you'll love it. It IS your choice, but please don't be led astray by these sinners.

Answer 5

I believe God hardly cares about such trivial matters. In the grand scheme of things, in the entire world, does it really matter? A: No. And to people who say it is a sin to have sex before marriage... think about this. If you have sex at 3:00 and get married at 3:10.. is THAT a sin? If course it isnt you idiots! So if you have sex 10 years or 10 minutes before marriage, its irrelevant. The point is, you need to make a responsible decision that you feel comfortable with and wont regret. Dont worry about God.

Answer 6

Emphatically NO.
God states in the bible over and over that Sex and marriage are two inseperable things - when they are separated, sex becomes a mere pleasurable activity, and marriage becomes a hollow lie that can be broken by a divorce on a whim.

When you keep sex inside marriage, then marriage has the potential to become something far more beautiful and holy.

To say that we invented Marriage is absurd - the mere notion! HA! God made One man and One woman in the beginning - not one man and three women for him to sleep around with so he could find one he liked best.

Answer 7

NO! The inherent consequences, which are not from God BTW, are that you are demeaning the value of the woman you are marrying. And since you're not married yet, who's to say that you actually will be, until it's really done? I mean either one can change their mind, right? Then the woman you actually do marry will have sloppy seconds.
Yes, God does want you to wait till you're married. Not because He's a killjoy, but because He knows what will happen if you don't. He wants to spare you the pain.
And think about it, don't you want your wife to think of you so highly that she saved herself for you? I know that would for sure be a turn on for me! I mean I would give a lot to know that there are no ex-girlfriends coming around to say that they have my husband's kid from 15 years ago!
Just Wait!

Answer 8

The act of sex is the marriage contract before God. The wedding ceremony is the marriage contract before man. I would say choose wisely because if you choose not to go through with the marriage contract before man and have already had sex you are married to that person already in God's eyes.

Answer 9

Your issue is not religion, or even what God says! You are selfish and obviously do not love the person you're interesting in HAVING sex with. Your entire question reeks of self-centeredness. Consider what you wrote: "Should I HAVE SEX before marriage? (Emphasis Mine). You do not mention your supposed partner. Nor do you indicate any concern about what she thinks or feels. Then you wrote: what are the CONSEQUENCES from God (Again emphasis mine). Again, you show no concern for the impact of any consequences on anyone other than yourself.
Frankly young man, you're not ready to engage in one of the more intense, yet tender expressions of love available to humans.You see, you don't "have sex." In the context of God's creative intention, what we refer to as sex is the physical expression of the spiritual gift of love.
Have a nice day.

Answer 10

YES, GOD does really want us to wait.

Fall out from having sex prior to marriage. Scripture states that if a man seduces a girl he must marry her and pay the dowery. We no longer have doweries to pay, but scripture is clear on the marriage part.

Now for the part that will be hard to swallow. Once you know something is wrong, and you do it anyway, disregarding what you know, scripture calls this open unrepented sin and a denial of God as your true master. This can be interpreted as blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. It is ground that you may not want to walk on. I urge you to wait. Pray for strength to resist the temptation to walk the easy path.