Mother in law wants to stay for a week?

Question

I got married 7 days ago, my new mother-in-law wants to stay for a week I say No my new Hubby says yes. what do you think?

Answer 1

Very Very Inappropriate..
Shame on your "mommy's boy" husband...

Answer 2

I don't think it's a good idea to let her stay. Mothers-in-law can be a pain in the *** and it's very bad for relations when they start trying to interfere (which they always do) and I think it's especially a bad idea so soon after you got married. It sounds like she wants to lecture you about things.

I have a very bad experience with sleeping under the same roof as my mother-in-law and my husband had the same problem with my mother in the past and now both of us have a problem with relations with our mothers-in-law. It's not a good idea at all and I hope you can convince your hubby about that. Good luck!

Answer 3

Mothers and sons are a strange breed - think Psycho film and you'll get the idea! The mother is clearly trying to exert her influence and son is letting her. This isn't one you can win overnight but you are his wife and mother can never take on that role in his life - there is room enough for all of you in hubby's life but you need time to get yourself established. A week is a long time but if you can't get out of it, focus on being yourself and stand your ground for the battles that you do have control over. Hubby married you cos he loves you, so remember that if mother-in-law tries any games - you have already won the situation cos you are married to her son, there's not a whole lot she can do about that, she is only scared that he doesn't need her anymore. I tell you, mothers and sons, I bet there's books on the subject.

Answer 4

Well you don't wanna come out looking like the new b'itch on the block but at the same time it's your time to be together as man and wife (no mothers).

If you can afford it get her a room close by or even consider a bed & breakfast where she'll feel like she's on a little vacation.

Does she have no where else to go? Can you two go somewhere and trust to leave her in your home? Are you even going on a honey moon or just starting out your lives together as if nothing ever happened? Have you lived together for quite some time and have had her visit in the same capacity before?

Ask yourself "do I want to have a marriage beginning with conflict already?" Well its too late your already married.

Ask your Hubby whether or not he'd like her to have your bed while you two share the couch, heck tell him you'll take the couch and he can have the floor cuz thats where all dogs will lie when their in the doghouse!

.............think about it.................

Answer 5

Uck- having to deal with a mommy's boy this soon into the wedding? Lay down your boundaries now because you'll never get another chance. My best friend made the mistake of trying to seem really cool about it, next thing you know his family comes to visit for two weeks the same day they get home from the hospital with a new baby. You can imagine the fighting and the mess that they ended up with.
There's a line between being a good wife and being a door mat.

Answer 6

Not enough info. It seems like you might be leaving something important out so we'll agree with you. There could be all kinds of good reasons for her to stay with you right now. I realize that you're probably thinking that you just want to enjoy your honeymoon alone, but having family stay over probably isn't the worst thing that could happen. Besides, you should probably be pretty careful to not hurt your mother-in-law's feelings so early in your marriage... she's going to be your mother-in-law for a long time, hopefully.

Answer 7

Well, 7 days following your marriage SEEMS strange, but we don't really know the circumdtances for sure, since you haven't told us. It would be necessary to know all of the facts (like in a court of law) for certain before a valid opinion can be given.

Is your mother there only because your husband is on the level of an insecure boy? Or is she in your city for a reason?

Answer 8

Tough one. But marriage is for better or worse, and while it may be difficult for you, you should grant your husband this desire.

Not sure why a mother or a mother in law would even want to do such a thing, but that is where the real problem is. Just remember to be kind and considerate to her during her visit and the time should pass quickly , even though not quickly enough for you.

Answer 9

I think you should welcome your mother-in-law maybe under the right circumstances. But there is a line that should never be crossed and it seems to me like she is crossing it. Let her and your husband know how you feel about the situation, both of them should understand. It shouldn't matter why she wants to stay. I'm sure there's hotels around, help to accomodate her! It might sound mean but if you don't stand your ground now she will feel and know that she still holds the reigns to "her little boy's life." It's a matter of marking her territory which is really now yours... Don't make a big deal out of it but use the enchantment you have over your husband now... Remember it is all fresh and new to him, he might be afraid but he likes it. Use your suave and he'll go w/ your decision.... of course he'll think it was his all along...

Answer 10

Compromise and invite your mother in law to stay four days - Friday thru Monday. Then over the weekend you will have time to spend with her, not hurt her feelings, and show your new husband that you care about his family. What would you do if it was your mother who wanted to come and spend some time with you and your new husband?

Answer 11

Your information is too skimpy. Does she need a place to stay with no other in sight? Then, yes. Does she just want to come because that is her son, no. You have a great decision to make and it will affect the life of your marriage. find out why your husband says yes after such a brief time with you. Ask her why she wants to come so soon and then offer her a time frame in the future letting her know you need time to learn your new husband, but will welcome her presence later. She what comes of this.