Do most couples know how many children they will have before they get married?

Answer 1

yes, thats what is part of their willingness to get married. they have the same 'vision' for the future.

Answer 2

A lot of times, in serious relationships, couples talk about their future children before they get married. They each tell the other how many children they'd like to have someday, and compare their answers. It's called "planning your lives together." So, yes, I would assume that most couples at least have a general idea of how many they'd like to have.

However, while having children is an extrememly important and life-altering event for people, I don't think that it would effect whether or not a couple decides to marry. You marry someone because you love them with your entire being, and can't imagine your life without them. You don't choose who you're going to marry based on whether or not they want the same amount of children as you do.

Answer 3

Couples should discuss how they feel about children before they marry and talk about if they want a small or large family or if they are willing to accept the number of children that God would give them. This is important to know about how the other person feels about children, but beyond that only God knows how many children a couple will be able to have.

Answer 4

No, we just do it. After the second child majority of us do stop but some people with more money keep going. There are some cases where some couples keep having babies and get a free house out of it or car. These types are blinded by understanding of emotions. But 2 is really enough for the educated.

Beyond 2 can become a very nasty problem if you live in an apartment or a house. 2 heart beats per bedroom is the law.

Answer 5

Me and my husband did.

We started dating when he said "I want you to have my babies. All 12 of them." We don't know if we're going to actually be able to have all 12, but we know we'll have as many as we can.

Edited to add:
Oh I just noticed, you asked if most couples KNOW how many children they will have. I don't think most couples KNOW for sure, though I'm pretty sure a good half of couples discuss or plan how many children they will have. It's up to alot of outside factors if that number is what you get or not, though. So, No, Most couples Do Not Know (for sure) how many children they will have before they get married. Now if they are pregnant before they get married, then they Know they are having at least one!

Answer 6

no not usually. now i am a different case, i am on marriage #3. I thought I would have 2 with my first husband...0 second husband I thought maybe 2...1 now with #3 we have decided to have no more children...between the 2 of us we hav 4 kids and the youngest is 7 and we are not about to go back to no sleep and diapers.

Answer 7

they may think they know how many, but once married and paying bills and working, the number may change. Sometimes 1 is all they can afford. Sometimes there are unplanned babies. They may have 2 boys and want to try for a girl, etc.

Answer 8

this is another get a life question how in the sam hell are you gonnna predict how many kids will hop out of your ovenn? diferent things poredict our famlies wil you be able too have anymore after the first one something may go wrong with the pilot in your ovenn from having more, finances i always say stop at one, thats enough!! kids are a huge majorr , expensess, etc, your hubby may be kiledd in a car accident slip on a banana peel, anything can go wrong here how do we know??

Answer 9

I think most have a general sense of if they intend to have children or not and maybe differentiate between a big or smaller family but not know exactly how many.

Answer 10

my husband and I plan to have 3 kids. We talked about it a lot before we got married, so we knew we would be on the right page. But because we plan on 3, doesn't mean thats what we're going to get. (we already have 1)

Answer 11

My husband and I didn't agree. I wanted a bunch (4 or 5) boys and he wanted one boy and one girl. But life is not predictable. We found out shortly after we married we couldn't have children. We would be blessed if we were able to concieve or adopt any, whether it be one or a dozen.