I am 21, he is 49. We love each other very much and are thinking of getting married. Is this too much of an age difference and will it make marriage difficult?
2006-08-07 17:28:55 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hows being married age 50, to a 78 year old?
Yes, to far an age span.
He was 28 when you were born, would your mother allow him to date you then?
How old is your father?
2006-08-07 17:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by G. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 19 and I am 40. It seems to be working just fine for us.
My wife has a 21 year old friend in paris that is living with her 84 year old lover. They have a wonderful, supportive relationship.
If you love each other and have shared values, then no age difference is too much. If you do not love each other or fail to share values, it doesn't matter if you were born on the same day.
2006-08-07 18:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by No Drama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is too much! You have a lot of years to figure out who you are at 21 none of us are mature enough for a 49 year old man It bothers me why he is not dating women his own age that some times is a clue of some one who wants to control the relationship.Please do not get married not yet wait a while go after some of your dreams,school,art what ever you are interested in and if it is meant to be He will still be there in a few years for the big lifelong commitment of marriage
2006-08-07 17:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Extremely difficult. Are you looking for a daddy? Is he looking for a little girl? Does he want children with you? If he does, he is going to be old enough to be their grandfather when they are in high school. He will not be alive to be with you in your older years. He may not even be alive to see your potential children reach adulthood. Have you had any other serious relationships. Has he been married before. Is he telling you he loves you because he knows that is what women like to hear???? Is he looking for someone to be his nurse as he ages??? You are a young woman and need to consider all of this before you even think about marrying him. The divorce rate is high among people who don't have any of these factors working against them. Do your parents like the idea of you marrying him, or are you sneaking around behind their backs to be with this man? If you have to be on this forum asking this type of question of total strangers, I believe that you know that the answer is not to marry this man, at least until a few years pass and you have lived a bit more. Good luck and have a good night!!!!
2006-08-07 17:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is old enough to be your father. And that is a whole generation difference. But there are many variables. Like is he young at heart and mind? Are you overly mature and responsible for your age. Step back and look at your relationship as if you were an observer. Honestly answer these questions; 1. Can you see yourself without him? 2. Do you truly have things in common or just do your best to like each others preferences? What bothers me is if you are asking this... you much not be willing to risk everything for love...or you feel a little uncomfortable in his circle of older friends.
2006-08-07 17:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by 4mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you and him care about each other I don't see the problem, It's what's in the heart that counts. I'm 39 and most of the girls I date are between 18 and 24. Only thing I see as a problem is not having the same interest, and people act different at different ages. I usually just go with the flow with them and let them learn from me. I'm very smart and understanding which they like allot. They learn what it's like to be my age and become very mature, confident young lady's that should help them in life.
2006-08-07 17:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normally i would say that the age difference doesn't matter. however you are only 21, you still have a lot ahead of you.....to achieve, to learn, to grow into. you and him are at different times in your lives. it's not just about the love you have for each other; though it would be nice to think that that was all it took. there are so many things to look at on a compatibility level as well. so yes the age difference would make marriage very difficult.
2006-08-07 17:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what lilmommiNeosha said. My fiance and I are 25 years apart, and nothing could be more perfect. We are just like a normal couple, we go out together, to dinner, we go to amusment parks and festivals, we stay home and watch movies, theres nothing diff from us then another couple. I've never had more in common with somone then I do with my fiance. My fiance also has friends who have a 23 year old age gap and they've been together for over 20 years and still together. Yes some people are out for "sugar daddys" and "hoochie mamas" but there are a few of us who are in love.
2006-08-09 17:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by louise 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you and I are about that far apart, and I have to say yes, it's too much. You do realize when you're 31 he'll be 59, you're 41 he's 69, there's not much chance of growing old together. Listen, if it's fun now, it's going to be fun for a while, just enjoy it and don't rush marriage!
2006-08-07 17:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES i know you are in love but that way too much of a age difference
2006-08-07 17:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by ♥wildchild♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋