Even though I've been married for 2 1/2 years. Have a good job with good money, a stable relationship. Plus we have an extra room. Is it still too early? I love his parents and we get along great but they don't want us to have kids until we're into our late twenties because we got married so young.
2006-08-07 17:22:38 · 24 answers · asked by jv 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Have kids when YOU and you rHUSBAND feel is the right time. If you think your ready, and you are financially stable then why not? Don't listen to your inlaws or parents-this is a decision that affects really only you two. Obviously, you 2 have matured early, and aren't like the rest of the 20-somethings out there that just like to party it up. I say go for it!!!
I am in the same boat. My husband and I got married 2 years ago-3 years November 20, and we ahve a little 7month old boy. I am also 21. And we are very very happy.
Also-jsut remember-if you do happen to get pregnant sometime soon, and your inlaws are upset...just remember that 9 months later they won't even remember being upset because they'll be too busy playing with their grandbaby.
Goodluck :)
2006-08-07 17:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to them. If you think you are ready, go for it. Some people at 21 are more mature than others at the same age. If you were to tell them tomorrow that you were pregnant they would be thrilled at the prospect of being Grandparents. My mom was 18 and my dad 23 when they got married and she got pregnant with my brother 3 months later, and she had my oldest sister when m,y brother was 17 months old. By the time she was 28 she was done having kids (I'm the youngest of 4), and she actually got to enjoy her late 40's and 50's with no kids in the house...well, at least no dependant kids
2006-08-07 17:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that a mature married couple could make this decision together. The worse thing you can do is let in-laws get involved in this private affair. Getting along with the in-laws is good but having a child is between you, and your husband. Bringing life into this world is a serious undertaking. If you two feel you are ready for this responsibility( and it is a responsibility), I say go for it. Being married for two years is long enough to decide about your future. Please keep your decisions private whatever they are. This means no interference from your, or his parents. After all you two will be raising this child . Good luck!
2006-08-07 17:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what his family thinks, it is your decision not theirs.
From my personal experience, I love the fact that I had children young. They were born when I was 20, 21, and 26. Now my oldest is 13 and we are very close. I have friends my age (33) who are just now having their first kids and I honestly don't think I could handle it. I don't have near as much energy as I did when they were younger. I wouldn't be able to keep up with them. Also, I'm afraid I would be too set in my ways now to go from a two-person household to having my life turned around with a kid. This is just my experience, but I hope it helps.
2006-08-07 18:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by wyo_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people want for you. Do what makes you happy. You and your hubby need to live your life together the way you want. That's the only way that it will work. And no. I had my first at 20. And I have never regretted it. No, we didn't have years and years of alone time in our marriage, but we'll be done with our child-rearing when we are still in our 40's. It's a personal decision, and one that your in-laws, or your parents, or other friends and family don't get a say in. Good luck!
2006-08-07 17:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's to young...I'm 21 and my fiance is 23 and we're having our first in December. You have more of a chance of having a baby with Down Syndrome the older you get. I think you guys sound very stable and if you feel the time is right, go for it!
2006-08-07 17:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say 21 is the perfect time to have a baby or become pregnant so don't listen his parents because it's your life and you both should decide if you feel ready for a baby and if you are then happy babymaking and good luck
2006-08-07 17:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by m41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
urrm yeah form of however for me it is most often simplest for the reason that i've like hundreds and hundreds of nieces and nephew, I am 18 incidentally. It's now not too unusual although,i imply if there is not any little one to preserve from anybody you are not able to precisely drive it off others now can u?But it is a well feeling although,a particularly well feeling while you preserve one...x
2016-08-28 11:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I turned 21 3wks before my eldest was born. I was 22.5 when #2 was born and will be 24 when #3 is born early next year.
2006-08-07 17:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by trida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to wait to have kids you should, because they're a handful. As long as you have the means to take care of a baby, (emotionally and financially) then there's no problem. JUST MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY. there's no turning back.
2006-08-07 17:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by luv_able_kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋