Terrible twos?

Question

My nefew is going to be two in a couple of weeks. Last week his disposition changed completly. He used to be sweet loving and agreeable. Now he is cranking disagreeable throws temper tantrums and loves the word "no". He has also started hitting and pinching.... Help, what should my sister do?

Answer 1

This will pass. What I found quite helpful was a child gate and headphones. Put it up in the doorway of their bedroom. When the child starts misbehaving put him/her in their room with the gate up. Put the headphones on and go on about what you were doing (of course checking on the child from time to time). This lets the child know that their behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated and eventually they will stop.

Answer 2

Okay, I went threw this and am going to go threw it again with my second child (a boy)
When my first one started biting I turned around and bite back once and tell him ow that hurts, not too hard just enough to get his attention.
I also have a time out chair that I use reg..
I have no problem with a quick spanking to get their attention but I spent a lot of time, leaving public places and going straight home and putting my son in his bed for time out....
It may seem of a hard thing to get anything done, but I would rather my son (sons) learn that they can't act like that and they have consiquences to their actions.
This is the age that they start testing the waters to see what they can get away with and what buttons to push to get their way, it is really important to not give it no matter what or you will have a harder time later on as they get older.
My son now says please, thank you and the occational drop back into the tantrum moad even though he knows what is going to happen next.
I suggest watching the nanny. lol
I didn't really mind the twos, but the minute my oldest hit three there were more words and worse tantrums then the terrible twos could ever pass out. and the new tantrums are a little harder to deal with cause he is bigger and if I pop him on the butt he thinks he can do it to me.
Believe me when you hear a three year old tell you if you don't do something he is going to put you in time out, well then you know he is listening when you talk to him.
good luck to you all.
and I decided to go threw it all over again with a second child lol I must be a glutten for punishment. I love them both.

Hey before I forget, Don't forget when they do things like saying please first when asking for something or what ever that you praise the good things so they know that the good stuff gets better attention than the bad stuff.

Answer 3

LOL well she has come upon the terrible 2s--she is going to have to get a sense of humor--everyone knows about this stage and will just laugh remembering the fun of it all. Tell her to be firm and keep reminding him that these actions are not okay--time outs may work but at this age you are in a time out too because you pretty much have to stand over them--taking favorite toys away may work also. Being consistant is the main thing-- he is trying to find his barriers right now and exert a little independence which is normal--give you sister some help once in a while --she'll need a break

Answer 4

The funny thing is is that terrible two usually start getting worse closer to three years old.

But don't worry I do have advise. I would have to only give him attention when he is demonstrating good behavior. If he does something horrible that could hurt himself, or someone else you have to take control of the situation. If however he is just being bad and yells no all the time you have to ignore him.

I decided long ago I would be a mother who spanks my child. But I will not abuse my child. If he hurts someone I can not allow that. But if he is just being bad, well they usually are bad everyday. Almost every hour. I would not want someone to spank there child all the time. So try your hardest or your sisters hardest to ignore and really love him alot when he does those great things.

Don't forget children need alot of hug, and kisses and try to act that he is the nicest little boy around. Reverse psycholagy usually works well with two year olds.

Answer 5

I have 3 boys, 4 1/2, 3 1/2, and 1. My oldest was so sweet until he turned 3...same with my middle son. I don't think there is such a thing as "terrible 2's"...it is really "terrible 3's" LOL. Anyway, my oldest was out of control. Doctors in this small town we lived in said he had ADHD, but when we moved to a bigger town, the doctor said his tonsils were enlarged. He had them removed and got into a better preschool and he is a whole different kiddo. I use to NEVER take him to the store, and now he will hold my hand walking through the store. My middle son is in his "terrible 3's", and by the time he is out of thme, my baby will be in them. LOL Goodluck to your sister!

Answer 6

OMG, yes the terrible 2's. There are moments when they are real sweet but they are a handful. So sweet when they sleep lol.
Every stage has its good and bad points, you have to start discipline at this age, time out, and rewards for being good and going potty. You really have to go all out with the child proofing.

I went to a class at our parenting place they offerred childcare and they gave me some great ideas. It was called effective parenting and they had a nurturing toddler class too and it was free. Maybe theres something like that in her area. Good luck!

Answer 7

I have 4 children, all of which went through the 'terrible 2's'. I dealt with them in a modern-day unorthodox way. I "popped" them on the backside, just hard enough to get their attention and told them very sternly "NO!" If they threw a temper tantrum, they promptly were told to go to their room (or taken there by me) and told tantrums would NOT be tolerated. I would either put a gate up, or shut the door to reinforce I would not put up with that sort of behavior. Thankfully, my children never tried the biting issue, but I do remember my grandmother biting one of my cousins who liked to bite other people. Grandma did not draw blood, but my cousin remembered that it hurt and never bit anyone again! My mom always told me if I wanted to cry for no reason, she would give me a reason to cry.....that was usually enough to shut me up!

Above all, be consistent! If you tell your child he or she will be put in a 'time-out' for unacceptable behavior, then do it!

Answer 8

I call it "terrific twos". They are lots of fun at 2. They are learning how to talk, and say, and do the funniest things. Your sister should find a method of discipline, and be consistant about it. This is a high training ground that could make or break his dispostion/character for life. "Even a Child is known by HIs Doings".

Answer 9

I agree with Becca...I wish someone could answer that question for me too.I have twin girls that age so imagine my situation.2 "terrible twos"!!!!Ugh!!!!!Mine too used to be nice....and quiet..and sweet!Now its almost like satanic aliens have taken over their little bodies and have taken control."No"has become there one and only favorite word.Tantrums galore!And hitting and pinching....we have real "cat fights"going on in the house...biting too!Its terrible.People tell me its a phase and that eventually they will get over it.I ask them "WHEN?before or after I have a nervous breakdown?"They just laugh......not much of an answer but thats the one I always get!

Answer 10

She'll have to start with the discipline and make him understand that the hitting and pinching is bad and not acceptable. Biting too if he starts in with that... Make him sit for a time out. It worked with mine. She's just got to stick to it and not give in. It's alot easier to give in, and that will just lead to worse behavior...