I met this guy who I think is sweet. It's odd because I usually like bad boy rebel types who waste away their lives. This guy however, has only dated one girl, is a virgin, and is only interested in work, school, and sports. He goes to the same university as me...(Read about him in the second thread I made.)
Thing is, he's not interested in dating or girls for that matter. We made out and did stuff while drunk, and he called me "very, very cute" and "beautiful"while buzzed (but not drunk haha) and we spoke for a few hours. I spent the night at his place just talking and holding each other. He asked for my number a couple days ago but hasn't called yet. But I'm leaving for a couple weeks.
So how do you go about being good friends with this guy? I'd love to get to know him better, but he's not the bad boy type I usually fall for, so I have no idea what to do. (What I usually do is insult them sarcastically all the time and somehow guys like that....I don't think that will work here.)
2006-08-07 16:56:07 · 13 answers · asked by TinTin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Edit: I'd also like to add that I'm a virgin as well, so I don't know what I'm doing....so yeah, not a dirty thing that, according to one poster, some guys wouldn't want to touch.
2006-08-07 17:12:36 · update #1
I think you're off to a pretty good start. Find out what he's into, what sports, activities at school, etc. Best way is to actually ask him, if you can; if you have a class together, stick around after class to chat with him, or if you know a sport or club he's in, you can catch him on his way to or from it to ask if you can meet up for lunch at some point. Find out if you have points of interest in common you can talk about, or similar interests. If he's in any classes in common with you, offer to hang out and do homework together. Don't be a pest about it, but just make some friendly overtures like that, and see if he's open to following through on any of them.
Depending on his sense of humour, you may find that sarcasm might actually catch his attention as well; just tone it down slightly, and don't aim it quite so directly at him; a few witty or biting comments about something horribly stupid happening outside may make him realize you've got a brain inside that beautiful body, and make him think twice about you. It definitely sounds like you'll need to use your mind as well when it comes to getting closer to this one.
Good luck! ^_^
2006-08-07 17:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with him. Tell him you are hoping he'd be the first nice guy you could date. See where that falls in his space. If you're wrong, you say, "Whoops, sorry" and move on.
Perhaps the bad guys are going for you because you are playing into their hands. They don't make much commitment to a female who they can't take seriously. Sure they like the insults and sarcasm, but it's shallow and cheap. They want to connect with a woman in the same way you feel like the sweet virgin and you connected. When you don't give that to them they'll be happy to use you as a sex toy. (Flattering eh?)
Warning: if you have a lot of sexual experience and the word is out about you, sweet boy might not want to touch you with a ten-foot pole. Some guys want a woman whose values are similar to theirs. But some inexperienced guys want an experienced woman to show them the ropes, however that isn't a woman they want to continue dating and getting serious about.
Yeah, dating isn't for wimps.
Good luck.
Peace.
2006-08-07 17:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not interested in dating girls... bull, he's a guy. I was him many years ago. I didn't know how to handle the whole dating thing. I was especially turned off by the type that was attracted to the bad boy type. I had a plan and though I wanted a girlfriend I didn't want to put up with all of the stuff because I was... shy. But what it comes down to. You are attracted to bad boys and you give that off either in body language, dress or forward attitude. Call him up and go for coffee or happy hour. Just you two, no friends, no games, no posturing and just talk. That's what non badboys like to do as it leads to real relationships. Thats what the guys who are going to make something of themselves just do instinctually as they have been taught and just know.
2006-08-07 17:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Introvert.
2016-03-27 03:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give this guy a try maybe your bad boy rebel days are over. Things happen for a reason and you two would of never come together if you werent supposed to be..I wouldnt just blow him off just yet. Continue seeing him and see what happens. You might like his type better after all. Good Luck!
2006-08-07 17:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to say he's gay like most will,lol. But I just had to get that out. I mean he could be interested and just not know how to go about it. In a way he could be shy. I think it's best that you make the move here if you want something to actually pop off. He may not be girl crazy like alot of guys (or at least they act like it). He may just be the type that like's the slower lane.
2006-08-07 17:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by Simmy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's so shy that he absolutely has no clue how to deal with this dating thing. What you do mean he dated one girl? Was it like one date? Then this guys has zero clue.
If you like the challenge, you need to take the lead on everything. Which could get tiring after a while, and it might drive you absolutely crazy especially if he's does his introverted thing and shows little reaction to your effort to be good friends. Or you could open him up and find yourself a new good friend. Good luck.
2006-08-07 17:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by acceb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right about not insulting him, though some guys laugh at your insults doesn't necessarily mean they like it. Most guys are very egotistic and love compliments. On behalf of Mr. Right is being respectful about not being pushy. He is a rare find, go for the friendship, they usually lead to wonderfull relationships. Remember he is not Pushy!
2006-08-07 17:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by crosseyed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have found a guy who is interested in work, school, and sports you need to get his number and keep in touch. Young men who are serious about their future are few and far between.
Sounds like you were an abused child........get some help at your university.
2006-08-07 17:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by Geo.man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go up to him and ask him out.
2006-08-07 17:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋