2006-08-07 16:50:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think, in most cases, it is not that they would rather be working but that they have to be working. Due to the nature of their job or the need for money. I know my hubby will have periods of time (he is a software engieneer) that he has to work up to 100 hrs a week than other times he will work 6-7 hrs a day.
2006-08-07 17:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think of my own father.
But amazingly, not in a negative way. I feel sorry for him, because he felt like he had no say in how me or my sibling were raised, that was "mom's job" - he was sort of expected to be the only material provider, but then yelled at for "not being there"... It was a tough situation for him, he found it easier to focus all his energies on work instead of fight with our mother about child-rearing issues.
Ex; he would give us ice-cream, mother would too. But he would be yelled at for spoiling the appetites, she would justify it as a "treat" etc. "Nothing he did was ever right" mentality.
So I think men like that probably feel that they are not wanted at home, so they'd rather avoid conflict by working all the time.
Now you didn't say "all the time", you just said "rather be working" - so I don't know if you mean, a father who would "rather" work 40 hours a week and provide for his children than "stay home" and not work. I would "rather work" than spend time with my kids, if working is what keeps me in parenting-charge of my kids. But of course, there is a line, and I would definitely find time to spend with my children. There are 168 hours in a week. Most people only work 40-80 of those hours. Leaves plenty of time to be with children, AND to work...
2006-08-07 17:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by E.B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know sometimes as a working Mom, work can be a less stressful place than home. But I would not give up the time I have with my son, he makes my world go around. Take time with you kids, doing things, be it fishing, hiking, watching sports, bike riding. Anytime you spend with them will let them know you care enough and your time is really all they want -- your attention. Talk and just listen to them, they do say the funniest things sometimes. A friend of mine, took his son this past weekend to the Football Hall of Fame to watch some football greats get inducted into the Hall of Fame -- they both had a blast and it is something his son will remember a lifetime.
2006-08-07 17:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by kl1779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a guy that works away through the week, and when he comes home on Friday, him and his wife send the kids away all weekend. Leaving the father to see the kids for less than an hour a week. I honestly believe this is child abuse. On the other hand, if the father had to work away to provide his family all they things they need to survive, than that's a different story.
2006-08-07 16:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by kinkykiki2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes all kinds in this world and this is no different.
I think that a man who would rather be working all the time instead of putting an effort into his family which he helped to create is lazy in that aspect.
I also think that if a man doesn't have time for his family, then before he knows it they will be grown and he will be kicking himself in the butt for not being there with them when they really wanted and needed him around.
Besides he also risks losing his family in the end.
good luck
2006-08-07 17:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's how it was bac in the day...the husband worked and the wife stayed at home with the kids. I think it's a shame for kids to not spend time with their father. They need that father bond in their lives
2006-08-07 17:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pity them. They should spend time with their children as they grow, because time goes too fast. And the kids will remember that Dad put work first.
2006-08-07 16:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by ray of sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just prefer the pressures of work to the stress of kids. I can not really blame them. Some people just dont have the patience for it.
2006-08-07 16:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they will be sorry later on, but then it will be too late.
No one ever said on their deathbed, "Gee, I wish I spent more time working" Generally they mourn loves lost, family they didn't spend time with, friends they wronged, words left unsaid.
That reminds me of the song "Cat's in the Cradle"
http://www.harrychapin.com/music/cats.shtml
2006-08-07 17:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That they are well aware of how much it is going to cost to put those kids through college and are working so that they can.
2006-08-07 18:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋