i just found out that my friends little brother died. He was 2 and he choked on his throw up in his sleep and my friend who is 12 found him dead this morning. She never told me I heard from another friend of her's. How should i tell her something because she told her other friends dont tell anyone. I also want to see if I can go to the wake for him but i dont no how that would effect my friend.
What should i do!!
2006-08-07 16:41:51 · 24 answers · asked by niicolee♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
and i am not mad at her for not telling me im just confused on what to do!
2006-08-07 16:55:10 · update #1
This is a big enough deal that she would eventually realize that you found out through many different people. How horrible! Don't make this about you and your hurt feelings that she didn't come to you about it. She is going to need a lot of support right now. Talk to your parents about going to the wake. If she was a friend of yours, your parents would want to be there for you and take you to the wake. You friend is in my thoughts as she goes through the horrific experience.
Just be a good friend.
2006-08-07 16:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is very sad. my heart is with your friend and her family . and to what your question. your friend is going thur a hard time i am sure. right now she may not want to be around anyone or done anything. but i don't think she ever did that to hurt you or make you think that ya'll was not friends . i am sure that she had a reason. but if you wanted to go to the wake. you should if you don't want her to know how you found out there is ways around that like down here you can call the place where they will have him and they will have a thing on there telling everyone who had passed away or you can say that you just heard someone talking about it . but i thank that if you go your friend will not say anything cuz she is going to need all of her friends to help her get thur this . i hope this has helped you in some way
2006-08-07 23:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by amandalove2283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything at this point your friend is in a state of shock and is unable to handle more stress. Wait another 2 months or so and tell her about it. Dont tell her now because that might affect her relationship with the other friend. It is a very sensitive time for her now. However you can talk to her about it and tell her that you heard from someone else that he died.I am sorry for the loss and it breaks my heart.All my feelings are with your friend. I hope this helps
2006-08-07 23:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by I need Answers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you are her best friend then she has done a wrong thing by not telling you.If she is just a friend of your's then it's not necessary to get every answers and information by her.Don't mind it anyway and never try to ask her about this, if you will ask her the she will start pondering to know about how you came to know.And there may be a crack between your friendship.Take it easy if she doesn't want to tell then plz avoid it.
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2006-08-07 23:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Aamir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wake. Just give her a hug and tell her you will be there for her. She is going to be upset for awhile, and lashing out at everyone. Try to be patient when she has a temper tantrum, she's just hurting.
I know this for a fact, 14 years later you don't remember who all came to the funeral without looking in the book, but you remember who DIDN'T. Be there for her, whether she acts like she wants it or not.
2006-08-07 23:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. That's all you can do. If she wants to talk to you about it, she will, but otherwise, be supportive, but give her her space. She's still trying to figure out how to deal with it, and until she does that, she just really needs good friends more than anything else. Don't ask to come to the wake unless you're invited.
2006-08-07 23:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Woz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get mad at her b/c she told another friend. I'm sure this is hard for her. She may not want to talk about it too much right now. I'm sure it's hard for her, especially since she found him. Just go to the wake and be there for your friend.
2006-08-07 23:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Nosy news 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this information is correct? It sounds really odd that she would tell people not to tell anyone. You might call around to the local funeral homes and find out when (if) the funeral is taking place.
If she is telling the truth, all you can do is be her friend. If she isn't she may be crying out for attention and help.
2006-08-08 00:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mustang Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe this is way too personal to ur friend for some reazon she didn't want to tell anyone so wait a little 1 day and then look for her cause at her age everything this bad is dramatic and understand that the situaton is bad so don't be mad she didn't told you. but be nice and help her in her pain.well i felt bad for the boy :( but god know why he does the stuff he does. take care and take care of ur friend
2006-08-07 23:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by burbuja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard time for your friend. Send a card to her and her family. She will need space. There will be a lot going on the next couple of days. Just be available for when she needs you. This is a private time for the family and you need to respect their wishes.
2006-08-07 23:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋