how can i get help for my out of control 15 year old?

Question

he dont listen,hangs out,states that he is not going to go to school
and disrespcts everyone in household for literally no reason.my
family spoiled him since little.now he is out of control and is a gang member

Answer 1

Try boot camp.

Answer 2

The reason he acts like this is because he was spoiled.. and it's going to be really hard to turn him around now.. Did you know that they say that a child will learn everything about how to behave by 5.

If your son won't go to school.. make him. I would find out from the police how you can make him because since he is 15 you are legally responsible for making him go to school.. or you will get into trouble.

Whoop his butt!! He's not too old.. If he talks back.. smack him. Teach him who's in control.

Make sure that if he runs away you call the police.. you are legally responsible for anything your child does. If they know he keeps running away, they are less likely to hold you responsible.

Talk to the police to see if they know of any ex gang members that might be willing to talk to him.

Find a homeless shelter and take him there. Make him stay the night if you have to. There is a guy around where I live that takes people under the bridges where the homeless live to bring them blankets, and then you eat in the shelter and clean the shelter and you have to sit and talk with the people.

Your son needs a reality check. He thinks there are no consequences because there never have been

Answer 3

Have you tried talking to him...seriously, just one on one (without being a forceful parent....without getting mad - cause that'll just make him rebel)? Telling him all the dangers of being in a gang (chances are he's also drinking and doing drugs...and I'd be surprised if that was the worst). If that doesn't get through to him....you need to get him a counselor or some sort of rehab for this problem. If he refuses to go, get some enforcement in and make him go. Luckily he is 15, he's still young, so there is hope. But only if you get on it now. I myself am only 15, and I could not imagine living the life he does, because I've witnessed a lot of it at my school - but I do know because of this and being his age that there is hope, there really is.. Sometimes adults think it's better to get advice from professionals or other adults - which it really can be. But sometimes it's better to get advice from someone who is younger...because they often have more insight and knowlege of these things and from a younger person's point of view...so we can offer different advice that in certain cases may be more helpful. I hope this helps, and I hope he snaps out of it. Take care.

Answer 4

A gang member. Hmmmm... that's a tough one. Can you speak
to him openly? I recommend going to a family counselor. If he
won't go with you, go alone and let them know what's going on.
You can't do this all by yourself. And you are not alone. There
are lots of families out there facing the same problem, I'll bet.

I'll bet the spoiling him has less to do with it than peer pressure.
He has fallen into the wrong influence. That's why you need to
somehow intervene. If your child is on drugs- then you can hold an intervention and send him to Rehab. Reassure your child that you love him and don't want to see him ruin his life and throw away his future and his possibly life.

I'm sure he has a guidance counselor at school. Find out who it
is and then go meet with him/her. (Also, I'd just email Oprah,.
Maury, Dr. Phil, etc- It couldn't hurt.)

Good luck. This is a tough one.

Answer 5

15, boy howdy what a tough age. Some kids can be scared straight, while others don't seem to take anything seriously. He may have to fall on his face before he wakes up....ya know. Stay on his butt, and in his business. When you can, track him down and make it so miserable that his friends won't let him hang out there because they know his Momma will be coming. If there are any adults hanging around where your son is at, call the police, make everyone's life hell. Kids take a lot of energy, some take a lot more than others....Fasten your seatbelt, it's gonna be a bumpy ride!

Answer 6

I know it's painful because I have had to do it. But the first chance that you see something illegal that he does even curfew violation, I don't care what. Get him arrested.

I have had to do this and I was mortified to do it. But it was one of the most life changing things I have ever done for the kid. Once he is in Juvy prosecute if you have anything to do with it. Don't back down or ask for leniency but let them through the book at Him. Mine played all kinds of mind games with us until he got there. They don't play in Juvy!

Also take advantage of any and all supports that they have there. Counseling. Alternative ed whatever. tell them all the problems you are having don't let shame for the family name get in your way. If you can get this curbed now he will only have a juvenile record!!!!

Answer 7

Boarding school might be good.... but be sure to keep check on him and make sure you talk with him alot or at least try. The last thing a rebellious child needs is to now think he's not loved. 3 years of Boarding school doesnt work.. great, he'll be old enough for the Navy

Answer 8

Put a foot up his a**; if he wants to be with the gang, send him on his way. He may be a family member, but you don't need that trouble. He's very selfish; remember - you make the rules till he's 18, not him.

Answer 9

Punishment

Answer 10

Do what my parents used to do,turn his little *** in for skipping school,and or call the police and have him put in juvinile for a day or 2. It might help if he is spoiled out of control kid counseling might help too.Also threaten him with things like im going to disconnect your phone,computer and call the authories on you I swear it might help. It did for me.Actually call on him if he doesnt follow.

Answer 11

he needs a role model. his parents are the last people he is going to listen to. if there is a cousin or friend that your 15 yr old looks up to and you trust, maybe have that person talk to him. at 15, kids just want to be cool. listening to their parents is probably not something they want to do at their age and being a jerk is the something they're naturally at the age of 15.