Problem With a Long distance relationship?

Question

I am in a long distance relationship with a girl im crazy about and she feels the same way. I feel however the only way to make this relationship work is to have good conversations on the phone between the periods of time we dont see eachother. We talk every night and the lenght of our converstions range from 20 to 50 minutes every night. The problem is shes not a huge talker and sometimes i feel that our conversations are a little boring and lack substance. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

The problem with talking on the phone every day is that you run out of things to talk about sometimes. This is a problem I currently have myself. Try to get her to talk to you; try more interesting or less talked about subjects. Try debating on things you believe in (but beware, this can lead to fights if your opinions disagree!). But don't give up. Try to see each other as much as possible, and hang in there. It does get a little easier. Good luck!

Answer 2

How far away are you from each other, a couple of states, a whole ocean or just a couple of hours drive?

There are other ways to keep the relationship alive, other than phone conversations: Email, Chat, even snail mail. Send her little packages. Granted, it'll cost you, but a relationship is always an investment. lol

Regarding the phone conversations: Talks doesn't need to have "substance" but I can't imagine why or how it would be boring? You call each other to hear the other's voice right? Because you miss each other and you talk about things you used to talk about when you were together. Well, you can initiate the topics you want to discuss, ask about her day, tell her about yours, about that apple-polisher coworker of yours. Etc. Little things that will make her feel as if she's still beside you. Just try to compensate her being not a talker with your stories.

Also, phone conversations are good, but try to see her as often as you can. As they say "Presence makes the heart stronger." Good luck.

Answer 3

Please believe me I was in a long distance relationship for two years and it worked. Mine was the opposite I was the talker and he wasn't. Just talk and she will listen and ask questions so she has to talk. But we did not talk on the phone every night even though I had free long distane we still only talked 3-4 times a week. But if both of your hearts are in it, it will work.

Answer 4

Try doing e-mail or AIM for awhile. Having a different form of communication besides the phone changes things up a bit. U can also try writing letters by hand and decorating them- this makes it exciting 2 receive a special letter frm ur girl and vice versa. I do this w/ my friend from Japan. Although we talk by e-mail, it's nice 2 get a surprise letter from her in the mail. U can see their handwriting and it just seems more personal and old fashioned. Also send packages and little e-cards or gifts just 2 show her that ur thinking of her. Good blessings :)

Answer 5

im in a long distance relationship so from experience i suggest that you dont call her too much coz it gets bored after a while so when u talk to her just let her know how much you love her and try to avoid arguments.if you love her then nothing else matters so just take it easy and everything will work out for the best.
good luck you can make it

Answer 6

i used to have 6-8 hour conversations on the phone. get a local girlfriend. 20-50 minutes is shorter than the length of a good tv show.

Answer 7

Our son carried on a 3 yr long dist relationship with him in US and her in Europe. They treated their conversations like dates. Even would have a drink during them. They probably talked more than couples who were dating in the same town. Sometimes, a topic would come up and one would say, "Let's save that for tomorrow. It gave them something to look foreward to. They learned all about each other's childhoods, lives, beliefs, etc. They're now married 3 yr, live in Europe, and have a 6 mo old son

Answer 8

Suggestions for what? You can't change her personality. If you know this about her (not being talkative), but know that she's interested in you, lower your expectations in this area of your relationship.

Good luck with the LD thing...those rarely work unless one person moves at the right time.

Answer 9

as i can see....you talk to each other every night that ranges from 20-50 min.,you are far from eahc other....
i can suggest is that what if you change the time of conversing with one another....not every night so you can miss each other....because if you do it every night,it was a routine already.routinary activities are boring....

Answer 10

Me and my fiance were ina 9 month long distance relationship. Just talk about youll lives basically and talk about her interests. Things that make her happy