2006-08-07 16:03:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am "healthy" too...very healthy (we don't use the word fat in our house)...the nice thing about being large is you know most of your friends won't be fake because the silly, fake ones won't be your friend.
It also depends a lot on your age...if you are young...I'm afraid it is just going to be very hard on you...but just be yourself and be happy with the way you are and don't put yourself in a position to have to 'defend' your weight.
*hugs* I'm sorry the world is so cruel, but it does get better as you get older.
2006-08-07 16:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by redfernkitty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I am going through a divorce right now, and after being in a bad marriage and having four children, I gained a lot of weight. So, now I am worried, that I'll never be able to find another man to love me, because of my weight. But, you know what I've realized, is that I have to love myself first, before anyone else can love me. Because if you feel that you are unworthy of being loved because of a weight problem, then you will never be able to find someone to love. But, if you hold your head up high, and talk to people, you will find the one person who will love you for you, the best. I believe that there is someone for everyone, out there. We just need to be patient and wait. Good luck to you, in all you do.
2006-08-07 23:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sure there is more to you than your size. Your first step to finding someone that will like you for you is liking yourself first. I am a big voluptuous woman and I'm proud of who I am. I'm confident in myself and that shows. People will start to notice the way you light up a room with your personality. Your size although still a factor will become the last thing noticed if at all.
2006-08-07 23:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by n v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you and eventually someone will take intrest if that is what god has in store for you. I used to be small but most of my friends were bigger. I prefer my friends bigger because they have better attitudes than most of your skinny girls. My husband was a bigger guy and i didn't really care cause when someone likes you or loves you it's not a real issue. My worry with my husband is in part our weight but we've gotten lazy and were not getting younger... so our health is the bigger part of the issue because what we sow now is what we'll reap tomorrow I'd like to be around to see my Great Grand babies. If your weight really bothers you do something about it. You have to be happy with you before someone else can be happy with you. If you can't do it for yourself how can you expect someone else to.
2006-08-07 23:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pen pal. Get one through a philosophy magazine or some hobby magazine. Write letters. Learn to write really well. Strengthen your mind.
But at the same time, work on your health, and reduce if you can, according to your doctor. Why shouldn't you love yourself, and take care of yourself? And if you do this, you will seem more attractive, your inner you, to others.
It is possible to get someone to like you for who you really are. But do you know who you really are? You got to solve that one first.
I wish you well, and ask God's blessings for you. I'm sure you will find someone, and someone will find you!
2006-08-07 23:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry.I'm a full figured gal too and I have a wonderful and very handsome fiance. I was self-conscious too about my weight until he told me only a dog wants a bone. He loves to snuggle and cuddle with me and I feel like a queen when I'm with him. Believe me I have talked to alot of my male friends and they admitted to me that many guys like full figured girls, but they won't always admit for fear of their"boys" making fun of them. One thing I've learned is real men base their choices on how they actually feel about the person, not what their friends think. Good luck girlfriend and hang in there.
2006-08-07 23:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen gurl, no matter how fat,tall,thick,or big you are there is always gonna be someone out there who want a gurl who can warm them up in the winter without movin'. Dont no man want a boney *****.Do you hear what im sayin? Im thick to and I pull more than all of my friends and im the biggest of the bunch so keep your head up cause somebody thinks that your sexy alright!
2006-08-07 23:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just ask someone to like you. Just be yourself, you will find someone. Anyone who makes fun of you or doesn't want to be around you, isn't worth knowing in the first place. Size does not make the person.
2006-08-07 23:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that person will come around, it just takes time, i gained weight after i had my son and i was not the size 7 girl anymore and thought noone wants me but i find a great guy and we ended up getting married. It just takes time. My husband loves me for me and he would not want me any other way. He married me for my heart. hang in there things will happen for you.
2006-08-07 23:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like yourself and other will like you too. I am a little heavy and it did not stop my awesom husband from wanting me. I had decied I was fine the way I am and then it seemed I had more dates. I think its how you project your self. Are you confident in yourself or are you insecure about how you look.
2006-08-07 23:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋