why when parents get mad they fuss and curse and then come appolagize like it was nothing??

Question

earlier today mi mom got mad at me and started fussin and cussing like she was retarded and then she comes and appoligises like it was nothing and like i didn't even hear anything she said to me while she was fussin and cussing!!!!

Answer 1

Well she probably started yelling at you because you did something you werent supposed to, and she was upset about it. Parents get mad the same way you get mad at them. You're still her child reguardless and she loves you, which is probably why she appologized...Is she just supposed to let you be mad at her forever?? You will understand once you have kids, sometimes you need to yell at your kids but it doesnt mean you love them any less, and it definately doesnt mean she wants to to be mad at her. She just wants the best for you.

Answer 2

Your parents don't know how to debate and discuss their problems. A councilor taught me that people tend to revert to childhood whining when they are not sure of their platform or information. This tends to make the other person (in the fight) try to be a parent. Then the whinny person will get angry that you are acting like, above them (parent with the only authority).

When that happens feel like an adult when the whinny child approaches and attempt to discuss things with an adult sounding attitude. If the party doesn't respond as an adult. He told me to remove myself immediately with out further discussion. Refuse to participate until the other party behaves adult like... not parent like.

Sometimes I can make this work when I'm in practice but if I am successful... we don't have the childish cussing. It just doesn't happen. Try to keep a cool head. Stay in there.

Answer 3

You are becoming an adult, this is a process parents love and hate. When my wife or I get mad at our Daughter, My wife is mad for a long time because she feels anger . I feel hurt. We love our daughter who is 20 and is sometimes an adult and sometimes a child. Her decisions leave a lot to be desired.

Your mom apologizes for blowing up and losing it, the calming shows that she forgives you. It's a matter of positioning, you're moms apology doesn't mean she thinks you're right.

The next level is to discuss with her , roles will change when she looks at you differently, the balls in your court.

Answer 4

some parents just dont know how to talk around thier children, the only way they know is normaly how thier parents did it. its a generational thing i think. although they dont have to choose to do it that way, they can choose to find a better way, but most dont have the time or energy to want to do it. i would just sit and talk to your mom, tell her that sometimes you understand that she is mad at you but that you dont understand why she has to cuss at you and yell, that you are right there, you can hear her, and that the cussing thing is not fiar, your her daughter not a friend or someone , that it hurts you, and that you are asking her nicely respectfully to please find another way to talk to you other then the way she has been. listen to what she has to say and i am sure that your mother does not enjoy what she does to you and you telling her might just be what she needs. goo d luck.

Answer 5

that's nothing.. what will really piss you off is when they start there yelling and b*tch*ng at you for no reason and they DON'T apologize. Then they act like nothing ever even happened and ask you to do "favors" for them which turn out to be CHORES and have you do all this stuff that they could easily do themselves.
Don't get me wrong all you parents out there, i do understand that discipline now is greater for when you get older BUT stop the pretending and talk to your kids.. you will never know how much they appreciate it until you try!!

Answer 6

She's human just like you when you get mad or upset about something. You have a fit, or whatever you want to call it. Then later you realize that you over reacted or feel bad about what you've said or done. She apologizes for her behavior and you should forgive her. Just like you would like your friends to do if it were you behaving that way and you said that you were sorry.

Answer 7

Well my mom does the same thing. But she only does it because she cares. Why was she cussing? I honestly don't know. But she apologizes because she probally knows she was wrong, and she wants you to know she is sorry. But beware some parents will only do this to get back on theri children's good side.

Answer 8

To be honest I wish my parents would have apologized for their behavior. I think she is truly sorry what she said and I know how you feel about sometimes the apology doesn't make the hurt words already said leave your mind. Try and talk to your mom about the hurtful things she says when she is angry with you, she is probably quick tempered , I am one to get angry and easy to get over it when people like my parents get angry and stew on it forever.

Answer 9

Parents are people to and at times get frustrated that they can not get you to understand their point of view, when this happens we often say things that at a latter time we regret. She was probably not apologizing for what ever she was mad at you about but for not being able to communicate her view to you.

Answer 10

Because parents are human, we make mistakes too. We don't like ourselves when we get that way and we apologize. It would have been nice if you would have accepted her apology, that would have been the MATURE thing to do but obviously you're not that far along...maybe you mom was thinking you were...guess she made another mistake huh?