Why men are so controlling, insecure, possessif, jealous ..
I'am not saying all of them are like this..
Of course some men are GOOD, and some are NOT.
What can I do to show him that I really love him ?
Many of my friend complain about the same reason.
So why?
2006-08-07 15:17:26 · 10 answers · asked by 1.2..3 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
There is no single reason why some men are jealous, controlling, insecure or possessive. There are many reasons!
Some men have learned by example from their fathers that "real men take charge." And that means everything; these are the men who want a doormat for a wife.
Some men suffer from low self-esteem. My opinion is that this, coupled with "peer pressure" is the biggest reason some men are so unbearable. These are the men who measure their self worth by their "achievements" in life. And since many men do not have impressive achievements in the workplace, they come home frustrated. And the wife is usually the victim. After all, his friends are "all successes" at work, and have the "perfect marriages" that he does not have. So, this type of man will try to push, motivate and manipulate his wife to make himself look better to his peers. And this is a very very difficult mindset to change! It can only change when this type of man realizes what they are doing, and why. Then this person can redirect his energy and frustration at a hobby, maybe a new career, or something that will challenge him.
I guess maybe some of the problems come from the media. You have seen the "tough guy" films, with heroes like Stallone, or some other "he man." These are the guys who treat EVERYONE like dirt, especially women. And I think that these stupid fantasies do not help (I never watch them!).
How do you show a guy like this you love them? Maybe the best way is to tell him first. Tell him that you are a real person, not something that he can manipulate to achieve a sense of self-worth. Tell him you are a woman, the most wonderful thing on this planet, and that you love him for who he is. He does not need to prove anything to you! And show him that wonderful thing called feminine msytique.
And, if that does not work, there is always counseling.
2006-08-07 15:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Don H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because america's male society subtley promotes being the best as paramount importance. Obviously not everyone can be the best at something, even in a small locale, so the men who aren't, instead of realizing that that philosophy is flawed and stupid, they take it to heart and egotistically compensate for perceived deficiencies in other ways like making themselves APPEAR to be better than others.
Most of the ones who are the best aren't good either, because they are arrogant about being the best. God forbid, they should no longer be the best in whatever way they see themselves, they handle it less good than the ones who have experience dealing with it.
2006-08-07 15:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! This man will ruin your life if you stay with him. I know from experience, I was married to one of these monsters for 15 years. He will isolate you from your friends and family, He will make you think you are nothing, He will steal your identity, You will get to a point where you won't even believe yourself anymore. This is an illness and it will only get worse as time goes on. Please Please Please get out of that relationship now. I lost 15 years of my life because I thought he would some day know that I really did Love him and would never hurt him in anyway. He will NEVER change! He's insecure, selfish, and incapable of Love. He's a sicko.
I have been out of that relationship for 10 years now and my life has done nothing but improve everyday. I thank GOD I finally woke up and moved on.
2006-08-07 15:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by twinkie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a 50 year old man. If this guy is all the stuff you listed. Go find a new one and dump this one. I'm sorry if you love him, but it's not worth your whole life in misery. Be happy.
Tell him he just needs to get glad in the shoes he gets mad in.
Enjoy life. Life Is Good.
2006-08-07 15:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just making poor choices in men I guess
2006-08-07 15:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some have been socialised this way by the way the behaviour of their father toward their own mother or to themselves. others have had very bad experiences in the past and others just do it because they can. don't give any man the opportunity to behave that way towards you, even if they promise to change. its best to move on...............................
2006-08-07 15:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is not like that... Communication is the most important thing in a relationship.... :P
2006-08-07 15:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by develynthong 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are not that way--loosers behave that way.
2006-08-07 15:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but I'm not one of them thank God.
2006-08-07 15:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mothers who left their fathers for other men.
2014-04-28 05:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by That Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋