Help in this situation with making a life for myself and daughter.?

Question

Do anyone want to relocate a 21yr woman and her 2yr old daughter? I am trying to make a life for her but cant. I need a fresh start in life. I want to make a nice living but where I live at, there is nothing to offer. Any advice?

Answer 1

Do you have any idea where you might want to go? If you do, it would be worthwhile to contact people specific to that region- church groups, volunteer groups, adult life skills groups- all of them can help set yuo up with temporary housing and assistance in finding work, etc. Some community colleges have programs to help. It would not hurt for you to make an assessment of your skills, as well, to make yourslef more marketable. If you pinpoint an area do a search of small businesses where locals gather to eat, as these places often have postings of people looking for roommate situations, and tend to know the clientele. Colleges also, but these tend to be more of a cr@p-shoot. I lived for a whuile as a farm hand, caring for farm animals every day in exchange for a room to live in while I finished college. Many poeple are looking for live-in assistance of this kind. Maybe an elderly woman would like someone to help care for her, and would appreciate a "grandchild" to bestow her affection upon? It is appalling the number of elderly who do not have adequate care, and a situation like that sounds perfect for both of you! It costs very little to run an ad of that sort in a local newspaper.

Just brainstorming. I live 2 hours N of NYC, don't know if you're interested in this area or not but I'm willing to give you names and numbers to contact if you are. I just had a roommate move in, or I would have offered the extra room in my place. He pays a portion of the rent and helps with the housework and grounds for me. A lot of people my age (early 30's) are taking this route, as we find we cannot afford to live otherwise, even as professionals.

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Answer 2

I just want to say, I think you're incredibly brave and strong for trying to do this for you and your daughter. You can do it. You WILL do it, because you want it.

I don't know your circumstance, so I'm talking out my butt here, but first thing I'd do is go to a church or a place like Salvation Army or Melwood (don't know if they're in your area). They should be able to at least give you a place to start in finding a better job, and may be able to help you with learning new skills you might need.

If that doesn't work, talk to your neighbors (if you can)..if any have kids, arrange a sitting swap and try to work around each others' schedules.

Cut down your expenses as much as possible. Don't buy new clothes, except for her and for job interviews, and do that at Good Will. Use cloth diapers and plastic pants and potty train her as early as you can. Cheap, healthy food. Frozen veggies. Spaghetti. cottage cheese. bulk frozen chicken. eggs. cut grocery coupons. Sell anything you don't need. material possessions are transient and except for a few basic necessities, largely unnecessary. Save *every* penny you can and you'll get outta there. It's tough, but you can do it, and it will be so worthwhile when you do. Our mothers and their mothers did it.

Good luck. You're a strong, capable woman, and your daughter will love you for your sacrifices for her. You'll also set a great example for her to become a strong woman herself, and she will get farther in life because she has your light and your love to build on.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

How are you getting along now? Aren't there someone there you can talk to that can give you some options?
Check out some agencies in the area that assist single parents. Also as suggested, look up churches that have youth actives (ministries).

Answer 4

You should get married with some sincere man who is brave, encouraging & loving person, not mention if he is poor. Under his protection you not only feel free but also get chance to develop your life.

Answer 5

what are your skills? what do you like to do? where do you live? I like to talk to people so I moved to a major metro area. got a job at a hotel. not the best but I can support myself.

good luck I hope you figure it out.

Answer 6

Try contacting your local church. Chances are, the priest/pastor/rabbi/etc has connections somewhere. You and your little girl deserve the best. Good luck!

Answer 7

Now thats real! I wish it were that simple love. I really do, but i wish nothing but the best for you and your little one love, Good luck on your mission.