My friend had a miscarriage not to long ago, how do i or should i invite her to the babyshower?

Answer 1

You should invite her but leave it up to her whether or not she can attend. Be supportive and tell her that you understand if she's not up to it yet. Be a good friend.

Answer 2

Ask her. Tell her that you would love to have her even if for a short time and that if she feels uncomfortable or just doesn't want to come you will understand.


The Tiny Rosebud God Picked to Bloom in Heaven

The Master Gardener
from heaven above
Planted a seed
in the garden of love,
And from it there grew
a rosebud small
That never had time
to open at all.
For God in His perfect
and all-wise way
Chose this rose
for His heavenly bouquet,
And great was the joy
of this tiny rose
To be the one our Father chose
to leave earth's garden
For one on high
where roses bloom always
And never die.
So, while you can't see
your precious rose bloom,
You know the great Gardener
from the upper room
Is watching and tending
this wee rose with care,
Tenderly touching
each petal so fair.
So think of your darling
with angels above,
Secure and contented
and surrounded by love,
And remember God blessed
and enriched your lives, too,
For in dying your darling
brought heaven closer to you!

Answer 3

Dear Beanie,
Women who go through miscarriages deal with them in their own way and time. This friend needs to be invited and will make her own decision on whether to attend or not. The shower may give her hope for the future, and the company of dear friends may cheer her heart at this low point in her life.
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Answer 4

it is very hard on a woman when she has a miscarriage, but i think that it would be harder on her if she knew you were having a baby shower and she wasn't invited. my suggestion would be to sit her down and say something like "you are my friend, i love you and i only want what's best for you" then explain the situation. she will appreciate the thoughtfulness you have put into caring how she feels.

Answer 5

I had the same thing happen to me. My best friend and I were both pregnant at the same time. She lost hers and I did not. When it was time for my shower, I just told her that I would understand if she did not want to be there. She attended the shower, but later told me it made her sad. The only thing you can do for her is be her friend. Include her in everything you would normally include her in.

Answer 6

Yes, invite her. She would feel weird if she knew you didn't just because of that. But, if she isn't able to participate, just tell her you understand why she couldn't. Don't just leave it and NOT say anything about it, because she might think you're upset with her if you don't let her know that you understand.

Answer 7

Definitely invite her. And be honest. Maybe hand deliver her the invite---and ask her how she is doing and coping with things. Mention the shower, and that you and others will understand if she is not up for it.

Answer 8

I would invite her, however if she doesn't respond to the invitation you should understand. If she does respond and doesn't give an explanation you should also understand and leave it at that. If she wants to talk about it she will let you know.

Answer 9

Let her know youl'll be having it, and you love her. And you care a lot about her feelings and where she is at, tell her you would really understand if she is unable to participate, because it may be something that would trigger pain for her and you wouldn't want to put her through that.

Answer 10

definately invite her... dont give invites out months in adavance ... msybe send hers out 2 weeks in advance...
give it to her
she will understand that life goes on... i dont believe there is anything special you need to do or say to prepare her for this...
dont tell her that you will understnd if she cant comes as that may put pressure on her to come...
if she declines then only then tell her that you nderstand and maybe if she wants to go out for a coffee just the two of you another time