What would you do if...?

Question

you had planned your wedding and some unforseen financial events put your wedding plans in jeopardy?

Would you change the date? This is something that you have an aversion to because you wanted to do it this year.

Would change the venue? City hall instead....you previously had a destination wedding planned.

I am in a quandry....I don't want the memory of my wedding day at City Hall.... but I do love my fiance very much and I am willing to make the sacrifice...

I am trying to make sure I am being objective...

What would you do?

Answer 1

If you decide to change, make sure it is willing on your part and that you will not brood over it in the future..

If it had to be a compromise, then I would suggest you change the date. You never know that it might be brought up as a subject for any arguements in the future.

Answer 2

If you think you can accomplish your goal, then push the date back. The best gift you can ever give yourself for your wedding is to be debt free after the wedding.
If the goal seems too large there are ways to scale back your wedding without city hall, perhaps change the venue to a gazebo in a park. An officiant only costs about $150. Have a appetizer reception or a BBQ after.
But, if you love each other, don't put off being a married couple because of the dream of the fairytale wedding. Life is too short sometimes.

Answer 3

What does your partner want? Marriage is about your lives together, hopefully forever, so it should begin with decisions that are made together. You should sit down and talk about what is available to you and what is most important to you both. Do the research on what it costs to put on different types of weddings. Are your parents involved and if so they might be very pleased to help you or they might not be able to. I understand how important is might seem to have a wedding that is every-ones dream wedding but no matter how big or where the wedding is you will always remember the feelings you have on that wonderful day. Congratulations on meeting the love of your life and sincere best wishes for the couple to be.

Answer 4

Do what ever you want. If you can't afford to go somewhere, it doesn't mean that you have to go to a city hall. You can find a cheap little church to do it for you and have a small reception. Can your parents help out? If mine didn't then I would not have been able to have the wedding that I did as soon as I did. Get a second job if you have to. It would be worth the sacrifice to have something that you wanted. You don't want to think back to"well I wish that we could have done this or that" But you don't have to go overboard with what you get. Start asking around you and letting everyone know what you want. I did and it was crazy all the things people did for us. Our dj ended up only costing 100 dollars! And we got two of them! But they were my sisters friends and they gave me the little sister discount. Then my florist was my brother in laws sister who was trying to start out on her own, she did awsome cause she wanted more costomers. My cake lady was someone I met through a friend at work and gave me a big discount because I told her that i was a poor college student. My photo man was president of the local photo club and knew my mom and neighbors so he gave us 400 dollars off his ususal price. Because I planed our wedding so quick, many of the halls that I contacted were willing to give discounts because they wanted to fill the date. 20% off, free cakes, free invites all sorts of things. My point is you will be surprised if you are willing to ask.

Answer 5

How about having a small, intimate wedding.

Why not at someone's home or garden? Decorate it with a few arrangements, or candles. Or Michael's has their lighted arches on sale from time to time for $20, or you could find an unlit one for much cheaper. Decorate it with silk greenery, and either silk or real flowers.
Then hire a wedding officiant. I am a Christian minister/officiant & travel to different locations to perform weddings. I also do civil ceremonies, vow renewals & 2nd marriages. You shouldn't have a problem finding one you like & can afford in your area. On yahoo or google type in your city, state & wedding officiant.

It may not be the big bash you'd anticipated, but you will have a wedding that is meaningful & memorable.

Check out my site at

http://www.weddingvowsandpromises.com
Email me here or go through the site if you need anything.

Answer 6

There are always options. Change where the wedding was going to take place and get married outside or maybe in a friends house. You can always cut down on the guest list, or have a church wedding and a desert reception. There are many ways to have a beautiful wedding without spending a bunch of money. I got ordained online so that I could perform my uncles wedding at a park.

Answer 7

Is the wedding going to be in a good weather month? If so, you could have an outdoor wedding in a friend or family members yard (if any have a nice enough or big enough one). I just got married in June and we rented tents and tables and chairs and I think the total was about 500/600 bucks for them. We bought some fake hardwood linoleum for a dance floor over the driveway and got tableclothes super cheap (3.00 a piece) at Linens n Things. It beats having your wedding at some crappy hall.

Answer 8

If the financial event is something that you absolutely have to do now. Then do it and postpone the wedding.

If not go ahead with the wedding and worry about that matter after. Don't go to city hall if that is not what you want.

Answer 9

Your lifelong commitment is to each other. A party is just a party, and an expensive party at that. I would have my wedding...whatever could be afforded. You can save money and burn it on a party at any time later if that's so important. Frankly, I'd rather use the money for a downpayment on a house than a one day party.

Answer 10

Get married at city hall then at a later date when you can afford it have a 2nd wedding.