I love being at home with my kids, and I really love having a new baby, so that's what I'll be doing for awhile, but I am wondering how long everyone else waits to get some "me time" =) I think about it when my girls offer to take me out, but my babe's just one month old...
2006-08-07 14:34:04 · 18 answers · asked by ~blessss♫☼ ♪♥ ☼ ♠♫ ♣☺☻ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is perfectly ok to get some me time! I actually went out to dinner when my baby was 2 weeks old. It is not so much about how old the baby is, it is more about who you are leaving the baby with and how much confidence you have in thier ability to take care of the baby. If the babys dad or a grandparent can watch him/her then I think you should go ahead and make plans and go out with the girls. I would only leave the baby with someone who I know will follow my instructions. Just as long as you have some one who can watch the baby for a little bit, you should definetly go out.... you deserve it! Oh but dont get drunk like I did and come home and regret it lol
2006-08-07 14:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by geet840 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first kid?
left for the first time at 4 months for a few hours.
overnight: 18 months.
My second kid?
6 weeks old, my hubby and I went to his class reunion. We were gone friday night for 6 hours. Saturday afternoon and evening for 7 hours.
her first overnight, was more like 5 months old.
I'm pregnant again, and what I've learned so far is that Grannies (our moms) are great with babies, and I trust either to call me if the baby needs to nurse, misses me etc.
I will probably let her keep the baby as soon as she feels ready/comfortable for a few hours to have some "me" time.
Don't let "me" get lost in the babies. It happens all too often.
If you have someone you trust, just tell the girls, "I'll go, but if baby sitter calls, I've gotta run....if they are really good friends, they'll find a nearby activity and they'll know that you'll only be doing this for a short while, and they'll happily bring you right back if you need to come home for baby. Then the next time, it will be a longer time ... etc.
2006-08-07 21:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by sexymommyof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about wanting "me time" then you are in need of it. If you wait too long to detach yourself from your child you will not be able to without giving your babysitter a heart attack when you leave. Speaking from experience.. a child will become attached to its mom and when mom leaves.. it will be lost.. meaning crying, screaming, acting like the world is coming to an end. I know this as a babysitter.. my friend cannot even leave her kids in a car with another adult for a minute while running into the house without them both (3yrs and 8 months ) going hysterical.. this isn't fair to the person you've left your child with. And the screaming doesn't stop until mom has returned to the car. If a child doesn't see mom go away and come back safely.. the child doesn't know that this is possible. Also.. a child needs to learn that when mom isn't around they can and need to ask other adults for things.
You think that one month is too young? That's kind of a slap in the face of all those mom's who have no choice but to go to work.. way to make them all feel bad.
2006-08-07 22:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a working mom ang ı have never thougt of a sitter. Always relatives this is what ı suggest until she the baby starts to talk and express feelings. And that is if you dont have a relative near to you.There are some very good sitters and nannies that look after the baby as if its her own baby ofcourse but very hard to find
You just have to sacrifice somethings for at least 2 years( differs according to the child)
2006-08-08 05:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by MORTİCİA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the sitter during the day at 11 weeks. With a friend (who is a mom) for a date night at 5 months.
Being a mom is hard. If you feel you need some personal time, by all means leave your child with someone you know and trust, and go enjoy yourself.
2006-08-07 23:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow .... i've only been out like 2 times and i felt like a horrible mother, no offense to anyone, im just attached to him alot and we do need a break, take a few hours for ur self to relax and unwind, im sure at this stage when ur baby is 1 month old ur best would be to take a long nap at least 6 hrs. that is if ur baby isnt sleeping long. but anyway when i go out i take him with me, the few times that i've gone out ( 3 to be exact) he stayed with grandma, no baby sitters, im a stay at home mom. and my baby is 16 months.
2006-08-07 21:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt leave my daughter with a sitter till she was 9 months old and not overnight till she was 21 months, and even then it was with my mom and I called at least 10 times.
2006-08-07 21:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left my son with a sitter when he was just a week old....needed that me time and a friend offered to watch him for a few hours
2006-08-07 21:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by echoedwhispers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relatives only.........or until the child is able to tell you that her Baby sitter smacked her.... Sorry... I have a 4 month old, 8 year old, and 15 year old. I have been through it all. I trust NO ONE. sorry.
2006-08-07 21:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
anytime you feel you and the baby will be most comfortable. I'm not a mother, but I think it's easy to say that it's personal preference. Just remember that even though your child is most defensless now, he/she will still need nurturing when they're older. In fact, they will be influenced by your presence/absence strongly. Hope this helps.
2006-08-07 21:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by toku_kuns 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋